Straight guy confused.

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    Dec 31, 2007 5:21 AM GMT
    I'm a straight guy. But i alway go on here because of the great bodybuilding tips and "helpers"

    Since i live in west Hollywood, I have many gay friends and so one of them introduced me to this site.

    anyhoo..... i feel alittle confused lately because of my sexually acts with guys.

    IDK, it might sound weird to you, but my straight friends and I, we would always jerk off together. it was weird at first but after a while, it was like a daily thing.

    we first just jerked off with each other and then after a couple of months, we jerked each other off.

    it was strictly for pleasure.

    months and months went by, and it our acts became more intense.

    so let me just jump into it. we recently gave each other head, and i don't know know what to feeling about this. it feels great but i still love girls. But i actually like giving head. I just like the feeling of it in my mouth. I'm very open with my sexuality, and i can tell you I'm not interested in guys. But i really enjoyed giving the guy head. just the sensation was much different then eating a girl out. my guy friend is totally straight because i'm sorry to say this but his very homophobic....however, I've know him for years before we did any of this.

    idk...it's kinda stupid...i guess i just had to share this with u guys. any thoughts?

  • Artesin

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    Dec 31, 2007 5:28 AM GMT
    Hetero flexible is the word haha. I wouldn't sweat it, if you just like the sensations and nothing emotional comes with it then theres really nothing to be confused about, just means you like sex.However, your friend who jerks off other guys and gives head while still being a homophobe sounds like a closeted self hating gay/bi to me, sounds like all the classic signs of denial icon_rolleyes.gif.
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    Dec 31, 2007 5:31 AM GMT
    weird to say....he's scared of feminine guys.... but i guess he does it with me cuz we've been pals forever...and he knows im not gay

    ^ hard to explain....
  • Artesin

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    Dec 31, 2007 7:39 AM GMT
    Regardless, it all boils down to psychology. Fear is just a form of ignorance and/or denile. Then again feminine guys scare me so yeah icon_rolleyes.gif . Most likely he's under the impression that he's straight and masculine, falling for another guy would confront his definition of masculinity which in turn scares him. In a word - fear. The fact you both jack off together means something no matter how insignificant that something is, if he was such a homophobe he wouldn't be doing it.
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    Dec 31, 2007 1:06 PM GMT
    Roll with it and see what becomes of it. A sex act is a sex act. It is when your emotions become involved that it becomes deeper.

    Just remember that regardless of the sex act to take the necessary precautions to protect yourself.

    -Chuck
  • BlackJock79

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    Dec 31, 2007 2:34 PM GMT
    So you've never entertained the idea of fucking a guy? I can see why sucking dick would appeal, shit, I LOVE to do it. LOL, I've met straight guys that like anal stimulation so they'll hook up with tops to get fucked but that's as all they wanted, no kissing, no sucking, just a hard dick in their ass. Then there are the one's that just want to kiss and j/o, with nothing else, etc. etc. I don't know... I think that part of the reason I like to suck dick is to pleasure another man, while I do love the sensation of a dick in my mouth, I'm doing it to get the other guy off. No matter what your reason for doing it, it's nothing wrong with it, if you want to suck a dick then suck one. I think guys get to caught up on labels when the universal label for it should be just what it is, sex.
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    Dec 31, 2007 10:40 PM GMT
    When I first read your post I thought immediately about a guy I met once and I never touched him...he immediately went down on me to give me head and right in the middle of it looked up at me and said.."you know Im not gay"...I thought you are the one doing all the work!! How can you not be???

    But...I used to be married and have had children...sex with a woman was NEVER like sex with a man but I got horny enough to do it. My bf says I am bi because I had sex with a woman but Im not, I like men and men only, but thats another conversation...

    Ive heard of st8 guys getting off together and its always bewildered me how they dont see that as gay. If you enjoy it that much and are doing it voluntarily maybe your bi or something, who knows?

    This day in age it seems people are doing what feels good. The lines between gay and str8 are decreasing I think. Especially the younger generation are more open to any kind of relationship with the opposite and same sex.

    I wouldn't worry about it. If your not hurting anyone than go for it, but at the same time if you do start to have feelings like you might be gay, do not suppress them, it can be very dangerous...take it from me I know.

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    Jan 01, 2008 1:35 AM GMT
    There is no need to create labels that trap you. Who cares if you are gay, bi, or straight? It is Straight that creates Gay and vice versa.

    Tao Te Ching (2)When people see some things as beautiful,
    other things become ugly.
    When people see some things as good,
    other things become bad.

    Being and non-being create each other.
    Difficult and easy support each other.
    Long and short define each other.
    High and low depend on each other.
    Before and after follow each other.


    Just do what makes you happy and be content with it. If you do what you need to do with an open mind without guilt or shame you will learn more about yourself. There is no need to explain yourself to anyone.

    If you are not hurting anyone then why the guilt and shame? Maybe the fact that you enjoy making someone else as well as yourself feel good means that you are a good, considerate person. How you go about doing these things and being wise in your relationships is just a part of growing up and being an adult. Labels can be useful but they can also blind you if you think everything is so cut and dry.
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    Jan 01, 2008 2:07 AM GMT
    most guys can separate sex from love, which is lust. I prefer sex with emotional connection, or else I feel good for the moment, but cheap afterwards.

    I know many married guys who never cheat on their wife with other girl, but build relationship with guys and form a buddy/lover bound too. Now that you guys do it that many times, how do you feel about him? is there emotional connection more then just buddy?
  • GQjock

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    Jan 01, 2008 10:43 AM GMT
    You live in West Hollywood
    you're posting on the web here on Realjock
    and you like sucking dick?

    ..That's even gayer than I am
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    Jan 01, 2008 5:49 PM GMT
    The only difference between bi-sexual, and straight, is a 6-pack, and a dirt road. Most days, you don't need a dirt road. Many guys are try-sexual (they'll try anything once..they like getting off).

    I could never (at least at this point) marry a guy, however, I just love being a power bottom for a masucline, built, self-confident, guy, who's bright and witty....really gets me going..it feels neato...I groove on it.yet, I'd love to be married to my old girlfriend, and think I could be very happy there.

    Over the years, I've been approached sexually by everything from a gold-winning Olympic gymnast on down to fat, hairy, bastards. Fitness, in general, and bodybuilding, in particular, are erotic, sensual, and sexual, at the primal level. Something to be said about truly hot guys.

    Just go with the flow. There's no rules. It's sex, not an ethics class.

    My personal experience is that if I'm honest, it allows others to be as well. I have a standing rule that there's never anonymous, picuteless, profileless, etc. I find low esteem a major turn off, and don't want to act as an enabler to deeper mental health issues those folks have.

    Where this all becomes a problem is if it destroys your integrity, or it becomes what identifies you as a person, and it sounds like you've got the covered just fine. Have a good time!
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    Jan 01, 2008 10:35 PM GMT
    I was thinking about the fact that you don't identify as gay, or even bi, but, like sucking your straight bud's dick, and he doesn't identify as straight, nor bi, either. Sounds like one of those feel good things.

    I have a friend who is at the very least bi, and possibly gay, that my boss picked up on a year ago that he was lusting for me. About 2 months ago, he begged me for it, and I gave it to him. He explained it like so, "I'm only gay when I'm drunk." I said, "You picked me because I'm trusted friend, and you think I'm hot?" He said, "That's it exactly." Sounds like you have the same going on.

    Lots of folks that like sucking dick; having rear entry, well they just do not want to say what they really are, or maybe they don't know, or it varies. The whole idea of them being one of "those" really freaks them out. You might well be bi. I believe that exists. I can be sexual with either sex, and give either sex a good time, and I like it that way.

    Think about what you jerk off to? Is is a guy? It is a girl? Is it just jerking off? If you like giving blow jobs, and jerk off to guys...well, that's getting pretty gay. LOL. It's o.k. There are some pretty cool fags around. They aren't all nut cases. In my case, muscles win over tits, every day of the week.
  • SpartanJock

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    Jan 02, 2008 9:24 PM GMT
    I pretty much agree with all of the above. Don't worry about the labels others place on themselves, or have placed on them. It's just that, a label. We as humans need to categorize EVERYTHING. If you like to suck dick more than a vagina, then so be it. When it comes to screwing, only women get ya going, hooray for you. Big deal. What's really important is whether or not you are comfortable with it, and it rings true to who you are inside.

    The difference between gay, str8, and bi is not just who you have sex with, or fantasize about. It's who you have sex with, fantasize about, AND fall in love with! In the end, if it feels good, and no one gets hurt, roll with it.
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    Jan 02, 2008 9:49 PM GMT
    I can understand why you deleted /hid your profile. First off, I don't agree with most of the reply's saying hey okay you just like to suck dick...but are straight....try telling that to your straight buddy's, i'm sure they would think you are gay.

    loving to suck on a dudes dick is an ultimate act of homosexuality. not only do you like the feeling of the dick in your mouth but you also are attracted to the dick...they way it looks, the size, veins, whatever. so how can you be attracted to a man's piece but not be gay? that don't fly with me. Also, it don' taste like much. but the male crotch does have it's own smell, so you could be enjoying that too.

    not only that, but as a straight dude you are putting yourself below the dude you are sucking...serving him, and bringing him to cum with your mouth. that is why cocksucker is derivative in the straight world...you are on your knees below the dude above you...when a straight dude tells you to go suck his dick he means to get below him, on your knees in front of him, and suck out his junk, that act of getting down on another guy is what straights can't understand and have to come to terms with gay men not having a problem with it. that is why most assume if you are gay you must be feminine. after all sucking dick is a feminine act to most straight men.
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    Jan 03, 2008 12:13 AM GMT
    Yeah, but...

    sucking dick ain't all bad.

    Just takes some getting used to.

    I figured I needed to learn how, cuz, I like a good old bj, and I like to make my partners happy.
  • ArchieMike

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    Jan 03, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    It's just sex man. Live it up and enjoy icon_cool.gif

    [With protection of course]
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    Jan 03, 2008 5:55 AM GMT
    Sex is sex...if you and the person you did it with enjoyed it, if it was of your and your partner's free will and if the 2 of u were safe...then it's all good.
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    Jan 04, 2008 6:53 PM GMT
    Why not just take a look at the Kinsey Scale and see where you fall within the scale. We all fall on the scale some where.

    http://www.kinseyinstitute.org/resources/ak-hhscale.html

    I would have to say I am a 6. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 07, 2008 8:53 AM GMT
    SkyTranWhy not just take a look at the Kinsey Scale and see where you fall within the scale. We all fall on the scale some where.

    I fell on my scale the other night when I walked into the bathroom with the lights off
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    Jan 07, 2008 10:43 AM GMT
    if it feels good, enjoy it, lifes to short to worry about being gay or straight.
    Worry about accepting love when it comes knocking and be open enough to accept it from where ever it comes.