What does your social life consist of?

  • rdberg1957

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    Dec 12, 2009 7:29 AM GMT
    I go to several potluck groups that have monthly gatherings. Some people chat online, some meet in bars, some have a group of friends. Some attend church socials. If you have a group of friends, how did you meet? What to do you do together?
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    Dec 12, 2009 7:32 AM GMT
    Well, now that we've moved out to this little town on the coast RJ and FB are pretty well it - but we are getting to know some people around here, but no gay people yet (well, there are two near by, but they weren't very thrilled to hear we got married, so...)

  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 12, 2009 7:41 AM GMT
    Teaching piano, being pianist for the church I attend, also Chairman of an outreach group of young people, playing for a social gathering once a month at the home of my ex's parents...(since we are still friends and his mom is a professional harpist)
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    Dec 12, 2009 1:28 PM GMT
    Work and TV.icon_evil.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
    We have multiple gay social circles, and a few straight, some of which overlap. It's a perfect example of social networking, in which a kind of "chain reaction" occurs, where having friends leads to meeting more friends, and so on, until you really can't manage anymore.

    We generally have breakfast, lunch or dinner with friends at least 4 or 5 times a week, often more. Right now during the holidays it's virtually daily, sometimes several gatherings a day. Last night was a house party, and today we have a noon reception at a friend's, and tonight a big holiday party. Tomorrow it's 2 parties again, and next week is non-stop, too.

    Every Friday night about 15 of us get together for cocktails at a gay club for a couple of hours, then most of us go out for dinner (except last night, that same Friday group having the holiday house party). Tuesday is the gay bowling league, in which we don't play ourselves, but we'll go to cheer for our friends, and all go out for pizza & beer afterwards.

    Our MCC church has it's own social functions, and so does the gay choral group which my partner co-founded. Our principle HIV/AIDS charity, Broward House, has social events, too, some of them quite spectacular. A more simple staff luncheon and gift giving is next Friday. Then there's the Pride Center (formerly GLCC - Gay & Lesbian Community Center), with monthly receptions for donors, and other social events, like this past Tuesday.

    We have friends who are into the leather scene (in fact, one is currently President of a local club, another this year's Mr. Leather-something-or other for South Florida). We'll go to their monthly functions & fundraisers, though not really big on leather ourselves. We also attend lots of political events & receptions for our friends, who are either gay elected officials or candidates, or else gay friendly and supportive of gay political causes. There are individual fundraisers associated with bicyclists participating in the annual SMART Ride AIDS run to Key West (my partner also a co-founder of that), and we attend those, too. Almost 2 weeks ago we were at a candlelight march on World AIDS Day, followed by dinner with friends.

    I could continue, but you get the idea. We network using community activities & organizations, and personally network through friends, to have a social life that is very busy, at least for old guys like us. Since October we've cut back a lot, because of my partner's medical problem, but we're gearing up again with the holiday season, which is also good for restoring his spirits after his tough time in the hospital.

    We are both social creatures, and would be lost without friends all around us, with people we know and can call by name almost everywhere we go. Not surprisingly, my late father was the same way, and I'm not ashamed to be a lot like him in that regard.
  • nadaquever_rm

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    Dec 12, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    Of my closest friends, I sought one out on-line (not an easy way to make friends), one is a co-worker, and the last one hit on me at a bar. As for socializing:volunteering, happy hour, clubs, dinner out, culture nights at home, travel, plays, concerts, movies, brunch, shopping, gardening, dinner at each others' homes, fund-raising... and for me, work is very social.icon_biggrin.gif



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    Dec 12, 2009 3:06 PM GMT
    Pot luck with a group of friends, go out for movies, gym, coffee breaks at work place (sometimes long ones, lol). Then hangout with friends and do nothing on a lazy day. Sometimes do volunteer work.
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    I'm not sure I want to think of my social life this morning. Lol. I have brunch tomorrow, then beginning Monday night I have a commitment every evening through next Sunday. Then I'm going to the beach to be with "me."
  • dannyboy1101

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    Dec 12, 2009 3:15 PM GMT
    I have friends from so many different places: from high school, from college, from work, from when I worked at a bar, from when I worked at Starbux, from the orchestra I play in, from the rowing team I joined. The problem is they don't meld together very well if I have a large social gathering. More of the mosaic than the melting pot.
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:25 PM GMT
    Just getting out of a relationship so I have engrossed myself in wrk. Already a wrk-a-holic I find myself maxing out at almost 90+ hrs a week. just 2 1/2 months ago I had taken 5 1/2 weeks off frm wrk and on different cloud! I miss my friends but I need to refocus cause this last guy.............SUCKED!
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:56 PM GMT
    twomack saidI'm not sure I want to think of my social life this morning. Lol. I have brunch tomorrow, then beginning Monday night I have a commitment every evening through next Sunday. Then I'm going to the beach to be with "me."


    Having commitments lined up night after night can be exhausting even if the activities are fun. So a day or two alone and quiet is a good thing.

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  • Webster666

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    Dec 12, 2009 4:07 PM GMT
    I'm born under the sign of Cancer.
    We don't need no stinking social life.
    LOL.
    If I had a social life, I'd have to leave the house.
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    Dec 12, 2009 4:57 PM GMT
    Most of my friends i've met were through work, school, friends of friends met through socials, a couple of random people that i just wanted to start a conversation with, and some of my trainers.
  • Latenight30

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    Dec 12, 2009 5:07 PM GMT
    My friends are all fairly techno geeky. We have something called Random Movie Night, after 4 years it's become less random but it's just a chance to get together.
    My partner and try to host something every season. Next weekend we are doing a cookie exchange party. Should be fun.
    I don't hang out with people I work with. But the group of friends I did initially meet via chats.
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    Dec 12, 2009 5:25 PM GMT
    What is this...social life...of which you speak? icon_confused.gif

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    Dec 12, 2009 5:27 PM GMT
    I have a small group of friends. I'm only really close to one of them.
    The others float in and out depending on what we do together
    ( Movies,dinner,concerts,art shows/museums, etc.) I'm currently
    dating someone. So most of my time is spent with him and sometimes
    his friends. His friends are fantastic and we all like each other !
    So I guess I'm expanding my circle. My friends really like him
    as well. Our friends are all very interesting and pretty eclectic.
    ( like attracts like I guess ? lol ) So perhaps it's time for us to
    have a potluck or something ? icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 5:34 PM GMT
    My social life is my bf and we tear it up together! Seriously, I don't have a big group of friends. Just a few, but they are close. We started taking Atlantis trips to Mexico for an all-gay week on a resort, done it two years in a row and met some great people there... some even are near us and we get together still. Even the distant ones we talk to regularly by phone, email, or text. Spend a week with cool guys on a resort and you can't help but meet new friends.

    edit: I don't like hanging out with work colleagues after hours. Even though many are very cool people and do things socially together, I see them enough at the office.

  • drypin

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    Dec 12, 2009 5:40 PM GMT
    Let's see. My hubby's more of a solitary person, while I thrive on being with friends... not large groups, but small groups or individually.

    One fellow English teacher (Tuesday nights is dinner night). One is the woman I started by exchanging French lessons for English ones (we all just went to Paris the weekend before last). One began as my Spanish teacher at university (we do coffees every other week. Six are in the D&D group I've been playing in on Wednesday nights for 5 years (2 others were there from the start, and 1 is also gay). I also play in a German game about every three weeks. Then I have three very good friends back in Chicago whom I make sure to see at least once per year when I'm back in the States (2 women and 1 gay guy), and a very good friend who has moved to L.A., whom I speak to seldom but always as though no time has passed. My family plays little role in my social life, except for one aunt in Orlando. Friday night is usually dinner and video night for just my babe and I, unless there's a special occasion.

    In addition, we square dance on Thursday nights... Germany's first gay square dance club. I have a gay training partner at the gym with whom I get along with well. I can't remember the last weekend I didn't have anything going on. And I might have one evening a week free.
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    Dec 12, 2009 5:49 PM GMT
    My social life just nearly killed me, reference an event for today mentioned earlier above. Here's the separate thread about it:

    When Broken Glass Rains Down Upon You...
  • mcwclewis

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    Dec 12, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    My fraternity and the events that come with it take up most of my time during the semester


    Most of my non-fraternity friends are hippies and lesbians, who I grew up with.

    I'm also a bartender so I meet a ton of people through that. It's actually kind of difficult because I know so many fricking people now that I forget a lot of names and people get mad about it.

    I like having parties at my house and going to one of our local bars (not the one I work at) when I need to get out and about. Usually Im either working, in school, or doing homework so my social life is almost entirely nocturnal until school ends.

    I might be on PC in the spring which means bye-bye social life altogether icon_razz.gif