Boi/Boy/Kid/Etc.

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    Dec 12, 2009 9:08 AM GMT
    After looking at a few emails sent, I've got a question. Why are perfectly attractive men in their thirties (or their twenties for that matter) so compelled to refer to themselves as 'boi' [cringes], or boy, or kid? I mean I would on casual observation assume that if you *have* kids, it is suspect that you are a kid. Just seems odd to me that people seem to want to use this to describe themselves. I'm genuinely curious on the logic here.
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:00 PM GMT
    I think they just want to stay young. Personally I prefer referring as dude, man, person etc.
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 12, 2009 3:09 PM GMT
    I think any guy that is over 35 and uses a profile name with the word "boy-boi" in it is certifiably delusional and should be institutionalized for the safety and protection of society.

    Using the word "boy" in an email or in conversation can show familiarity and possibly affection. I don't really see that as a concern to civilization.
  • dannyboy1101

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    Dec 12, 2009 3:18 PM GMT
    Mine is a song reference... I swear! I identify as a guy in person.
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:42 PM GMT
    Institutionalization seems a bit strong, lol. I just wonder what people think when they're putting it in their username box. There are other names I can't really take seriously either - like when people put in things like "SuperMsclThunder2000" or something, I'm always in the back of my head going, "Wait, are you like a professional wrestler or a maker of adult films or something? Come on."

    To be fair, usernames are inherently weird and/or comic. And there's something to be said for seeing what people do with that kind of situation. But if you have an especially ridiculous username, I'll admit my favorite thing to do is tease you by using it as your name in casual chat. "So, LordIronBlaster69, how's that cake you're baking coming? I think it needs some pink sprinkles. Tell Grandma LordIronblaster69 that I wish her a speedy recovery."
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:43 PM GMT
    Ha, you should see the ones who are in their 40s and still using it
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    Dec 12, 2009 3:53 PM GMT
    lol, there was a topic on this before; it was amazing how the petty prejudices that came out of the woodwork, but you know, it's only a handle/avatar name.

    ...lots of guys use stud, or jock, and aren't necessarily so. There was one guy here awhile back that used 'slap a ho' which seemed kinda tacky; he was very popular.

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    Dec 12, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    abelian0 said
    To be fair, usernames are inherently weird and/or comic.

    Not to derail the topic, but what's the story behind "abelian"? Are you a commuter? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:03 PM GMT
    abelian0 saidAfter looking at a few emails sent, I've got a question. Why are perfectly attractive men in their thirties (or their twenties for that matter) so compelled to refer to themselves as 'boi' [cringes], or boy, or kid? I mean I would on casual observation assume that if you *have* kids, it is suspect that you are a kid. Just seems odd to me that people seem to want to use this to describe themselves. I'm genuinely curious on the logic here.


    It's a way that they identify with a social group (queers). They feel compelled to act this way. It's typical of any gang behavior and is based on insecurity / conformance.
  • FloridaGuy71

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    Dec 12, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    Okay.. I was shamed into changing my screen name from Flboy to FloridaGuy. icon_smile.gif

    Personally, I've used "boy" in the past not to make myself feel any younger, but because I tend to be attracted to older, more masculine guys than myself. Plus, orginally being from Jersey, I'll always refer to myself as a Jersey Boy.

    It's just a Screen Name, don't take it too seriously.. People on this site seem to be awefully judgmental.. just saying.
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:09 PM GMT
    It is the same as a guy coming up to you and saying, "Hey Stud." Annoying and cliche.
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:24 PM GMT
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:26 PM GMT
    I'm always saying things to friends like "Hey what's up boys?" Or "this is my last drink, I'm being a good boy."

    I see nothing wrong with it, it's friendly and light-hearted

    That said, I would never post something like "I'm a hot boy looking for other hot boys." I am neither "hot" nor a "boy" in that sense.

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    Dec 12, 2009 6:26 PM GMT
    It's just as bad as seeing out of shape men in their 40s wearing A&F shirts.

    It makes me cringe.
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidI think any guy that is over 35 and uses a profile name with the word "boy-boi" in it is certifiably delusional and should be institutionalized for the safety and protection of society.

    Using the word "boy" in an email or in conversation can show familiarity and possibly affection. I don't really see that as a concern to civilization.


    Yep in fact you can use it as in " oh daddy boy more" any time with me don't mind at all.
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:34 PM GMT
    RekindleTheFlame saidIt's just as bad as seeing out of shape men in their 40s wearing A&F shirts.

    It makes me cringe.


    Hmm... you cringe way too easily. Does this suit you better?

    ugly-mens-shirt1-225x300.jpg
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:36 PM GMT
    I think the OP makes a good point. We are quick in the gay community to suss out the damage caused to us, as that community by the word "fag" and other "clever" derivatives. I don't think we are quick enough to evaluate what some of our vernacular does especially to the outside world as it relates to the struggle for equality or to the inside world as it relates to ageism and the pursuit of youth. I know it's judgmental but when I'm out and about (or online) and someone refers to themselves as a "boi" I can't help but dismiss them as slightly off with a peter-pan complex at best and delusional at worst. It creeps me out and I instantly see some horrible cliche. Also, for the record, i think there is a BIG difference between the concept of a jersey boy and "boi"
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 12, 2009 6:37 PM GMT
    dannyboy1101 saidMine is a song reference... I swear! I identify as a guy in person.


    I believe you, and you are still young as well. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    Sub-21-year-olds who refer to themselves as boi I can tolerate. What I hate is people who call ME, "kid." Sometimes they're even younger than I am.

    I'm 27 with a graduate degree. I'm not a flippin kid.

    The word I just can't stand is, "stud." There's no way for someone to say that and not sound like a total tool. Unless you're ONJ. HIT IT!!

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    Dec 12, 2009 7:31 PM GMT
    djdorchester2 said
    RekindleTheFlame saidIt's just as bad as seeing out of shape men in their 40s wearing A&F shirts.

    It makes me cringe.


    Hmm... you cringe way too easily. Does this suit you better?

    ugly-mens-shirt1-225x300.jpg


    This guy has style! His pants are to short. He forgot to wear a belt and I'm not gonna mention that shirt! It never dawned on him to use that mirror beside him. I'd bet 100 bucks he's straight. LOL
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    Dec 12, 2009 7:34 PM GMT
    Well, at least his shoes match the black bar over his eyes. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 7:54 PM GMT
    Yeah, that anyone over the age of 18 calls themselves a boy or kid drives me nuts. When I was 15, if someone called me "boy," I was annoyed. And "boi?" Big people have more fun anyway. *grin*
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    Dec 12, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    wen i signed up, i never really knew what the term ment...boy was taken and to be honest kid was my next bet...

    but the thought of you guys totally viewing me or anyone for that matter differently cuz of my "boi' SN kinda shocking


    iunno what to say, im the last one in line to be considered boi now that i know what it means...ignorance is bliss icon_razz.gif

    so what now, change the SN?
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    Dec 12, 2009 8:17 PM GMT
    FTW! Yup, the gag is a visual math pun. Abelian we all know, and then the "0" portion is the ring. Get it? Abelian ring?

    As Triumph the Insult Comic Dog would say, "So you are a huge nerd."



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    abelian0 said
    To be fair, usernames are inherently weird and/or comic.

    Not to derail the topic, but what's the story behind "abelian"? Are you a commuter? icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 12, 2009 8:38 PM GMT
    For my part I just find it funny - I think it gives these things too much credence to make it a pet peeve. But I would poke a little fun at it, in what would hopefully be perceived as a good natured way.

    I do wonder if it helps perpetuate the stereotypes of gay people all having Peter Pan complexes, or even worse of being pedophiles. And before people leap on me for even saying such a thing, those are perceptions that realistically our community needs to deal with.

    I mean my operating theory is people pick these names because they imply people are fun and approachable. And I'll even grant that since I'm a more serious personality, I could learn a little from people who make that a goal. So I'm the last to preach when people are at least attempting to achieve that goal.

    But you're much too good looking to be a boy, a kid, or heaven help us a 'boi'. You're a very attractive man, as far as I'm concerned. icon_wink.gif


    track_boi saidwen i signed up, i never really knew what the term ment...boy was taken and to be honest kid was my next bet...

    but the thought of you guys totally viewing me or anyone for that matter differently cuz of my "boi' SN kinda shocking


    iunno what to say, im the last one in line to be considered boi now that i know what it means...ignorance is bliss icon_razz.gif

    so what now, change the SN?