WHY IS IT SO HARD TO....

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    Dec 14, 2009 5:02 AM GMT
    find a guy that Im really into both physically and emotionally? Im beggining to think they dont exist for me.
  • drypin

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    Dec 14, 2009 11:31 AM GMT
    I don't know the scene in Mobile, Alabama, but say that you simply have to kiss a lot of frogs. A few people get lucky very early, but since you're 21, I would say you have a lot of time ahead of you to worry about such things. Besides, you're in college and you've said you take it very seriously. Do you really want to meet a guy who will occupy your every waking thought and completely distract you for the next several months?

  • cowboyathlete

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    Dec 14, 2009 12:43 PM GMT
    badboy0367 saidfind a guy that Im really into both physically and emotionally? Im beggining to think they dont exist for me.
    Join the party. The guys i like are all either straight or taken.
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    Dec 14, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
    I could write a book on this. There are guys that I'm emotionally attracted to that I would give anything to be physically attracted to but it's just not there. Let's face it, a sexual relationship isn't easy without physical attraction. On the other side, all the guys I'm physically attracted to usually turn out to be pretty soulless. It's only happened a few times where I was attracted to a guy both physically and emotionally but they were all straight. I've pretty much decided, for me at least, that finding that perfect guy just isn't in the cards for me. I've come to terms with it and am actually ok with it. I'm happy for those who find it and there are plenty who do. You probably will be one of those. Just hang in there. You're still very young.
  • mellowmuscle

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    Dec 14, 2009 2:43 PM GMT
    I can relate but at the same time I'm an optimist. I keep a positive attitude knowing that someone out there is a great compatible guy who is searching to find me to. It's kind of romantic in a way too I suppose. Other than that, I keep busy with work, and friends, and the gym, so that I don't dwell on it and feel that when it happens, it happens. You're only 21, so there's no rush for you I think and with as much as you have going on, it seems like yiou should have no problem distracting yourself from the fact you're single or at least you should make it a lesser priority.
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    Dec 14, 2009 10:36 PM GMT
    Well then give up.


    Then you'll really have no shot it what you're looking for.


    See what I mean?
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    Dec 14, 2009 10:56 PM GMT
    Maybe it's because we have a reconstructed notion of what the right guy will be. The reality, of course, is that it's incredibly unlikely to find precisely who you want, or even what you want in a guy.

    Let go. Have no expectations. You might just be surprised.
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    Dec 14, 2009 10:59 PM GMT

    What is it you are looking for in a guy physically and emotionally?



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    Dec 14, 2009 11:00 PM GMT
    I meet a lot of people with perfect chemistry. Strange circumstances always drive us apart, though.
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    Dec 14, 2009 11:01 PM GMT
    ganymedethegreek saidI meet a lot of people with perfect chemistry. Strange circumstances always drive us apart, though.
    Ooo what do you mean by strange?icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 14, 2009 11:03 PM GMT
    maybe its you . .. . .
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  • lovemymen

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    Dec 14, 2009 11:15 PM GMT
    Because you haven't met me! hahaicon_lol.gif
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    Dec 14, 2009 11:17 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi said
    ganymedethegreek saidI meet a lot of people with perfect chemistry. Strange circumstances always drive us apart, though.
    Ooo what do you mean by strange?icon_eek.gif


    Lotta vagueness on this thread.
  • Joeyphx444

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    Dec 14, 2009 11:22 PM GMT
    Online dating and stuff is weird b/c you may be all laughs and so excited to meet then you do and it's completely different. Then they never talk to you again and you never get a reason or anything. At least with real life, you get an immediate yes or no. There is no hyped up meeting or anything. It's hard but there are good ppl online, they are just harder to find. I have met a lot of ppl who I am attracted to emotionally and physically but it's only one sided.

    It always seems to work out that want you want you can't find and what you don't want always finds you icon_razz.gif
  • GQjock

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    Dec 15, 2009 6:00 PM GMT
    This is like finding the Holy Grail or where Unicorns go to die

    Finding a man who fits your sensibilities emotionally and physically
    is nearly impossible to find
    you have to make some sort of concessions somewhere
    But the bad thing is
    If you're going to be obstinant and never try talking or meeting men who just fall outside your criteria
    You're likely to be alone for a VERY VERY long time
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    Dec 15, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    the biggest problem is probably that u live in alabama
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Dec 15, 2009 6:05 PM GMT
    Heck....New Jersey aint much better....Gay men are the same where ever you are!!....LOL
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    Dec 16, 2009 6:57 AM GMT
    waxon saidthe biggest problem is probably that u live in alabama


    you are probably right