Weird Relationship Rules, Real or Imagined

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    Dec 15, 2009 9:06 PM GMT
    How many of you have experienced weird rules in your relationships?

    One of my previous ex-boyfriends revealed to me while we were breaking up that I had violated a core rule of our relationship: that I would always be the big spoon while we cuddled.

    Not only would I never agree to something like that (since, um, I LOVE being the little spoon too), but I was pretty disturbed by the fact that he was inventing completely arbitrary relationship rules, as though his having to be the big spoon from time to time was somehow worse than the mess of other problems we had.

    I'm sure other people have had weird relationship rules too--not necessarily bad, but certainly uncommon. What's been yours?

    I'm curious about explicit rules that were set together (real) or created by one of the partners (imagined--as in my case), not about common occurrences (such as, "as a rule, he always left the toilet seat up").
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    Dec 15, 2009 9:25 PM GMT
    I'm good at being the big spoon... you can come here if you'd like..

    never really had any weird rules... although there were things I had to do sexually.. not exactly weird so much though.
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    Dec 15, 2009 9:27 PM GMT
    I 've had a few, like the one who said I couldnt move away from him while we slept he wanted to make sure that I was there ALL the time. Okay, you know how hard it is to NOT move while youre sleeping? Much less to have the muscular and beautiful BUT suffocating arm on your neck or face ALL the time!

    Oh and the one who said I don't like your mother so come back to me when she's passed. Yeah bye bye.

    Oh and the one who said I've decided that your the wrong kind of minority to date so lets just have sex.

    yep had a few of those!
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 15, 2009 9:33 PM GMT
    Well some of the "rules" I have liked in the past, but all the time? I don't mind being the driver most of the time....but all the time? I don't mind being the top most of the time....but all of the time? I don't mind giving into what you want to do since I also enjoy most of your activities....but all the time?

    Kinda wacky.
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    Dec 15, 2009 9:34 PM GMT
    I just got out of a five year relationship. We are both good friends still, and we wanted to talk about what went right and what went wrong and how we can be better people when entering future relationships. One thing we both noticed is that we had little rules that we actually never discussed. Some of them were rules we always followed: like whenever I stopped at the corner food market I would get him a fresh baked cookie. Others were rules one of us never knew existed: he never replaced the toilet paper how I liked.

    It is odd. When you are with someone you see patterns. The more you are with that person, the more you think you discussed those patterns. Relationships really are a lot of work but it is amazing how close you can get to someone and not see where you end and they begin.*




    *barf.
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    Dec 15, 2009 9:41 PM GMT

    You have to dress up like an Eskimo now for the rest of your life!


  • coolarmydude

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    Dec 15, 2009 11:52 PM GMT
    http://www.rules4men.com/


    On another note, my first Army roommate was a total D-bag. One day, he bought a VCR and after installing it to his television set, he told me that since he bought the VCR, I have to rent the videos. I laughed at first, until I realized he was serious. I was so mad at his stupidity and arrogance that I left the room.
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    Dec 16, 2009 12:20 AM GMT
    A while back I bought us a new mattress because the one we had wasn’t good for his back.
    After buying it I joking said, I would pay for it only if I get to sleep on the right from now on.
    His reply was that I can’t go changing the rules now.
    I didn’t know we had rules.
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    Dec 16, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    That anal sex was a requirement in a gay relationship.
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 16, 2009 1:38 AM GMT
    This was a looooong time ago, but I dated someone for about six months that didn't have much to his name. All the stuff that I let him "Borrow" basically meant that I "gave" it to him to keep forever...or to give it to friends/family. Any VHS movie, CD, coffee maker, VHS player, etc.
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    Dec 16, 2009 1:41 AM GMT
    That every holiday I had to act like he was a six year old child and decorate and get him a present and make a to do about all of it. Jesus, what was I thinking?