Coming out to your family

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    Dec 15, 2009 10:05 PM GMT
    I'm just wondering how did you do that? How old were you when you told your parents/family that you are gay. It's always difficult but how did you handle, how did you do this?

    I remember mine. How can I forget this? icon_smile.gif

    I was standing with my mother and I told her that I live with one guy and we are together. I told her I just wanna be happy and will only fall in love with a guy. I felt great that day!
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    Dec 15, 2009 10:09 PM GMT
    I was 16, was sitting on the lounge with my mother and sister, got around to gay people, mother sitting on the lounge made some comment about me not being gay, told her to ask...

    She asked...

    I said yes...

    Next thing I know, it's not about me anymore but about her...

    Then the next thing I know I had this flurry of blond hair in my face which was my sister hugging me excitedly..
  • leixguy

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    Dec 15, 2009 10:33 PM GMT
    I have not and probable never will tell my family; though they probable already know or at least suspect, but i know they would rather not be told so its simply something that is never mentioned.
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    Dec 16, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Next thing I know, it's not about me anymore but about her...

    Typical mother.
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    Dec 16, 2009 3:27 AM GMT
    My mom always "Knew"
    But I snuck into Chicago to see a boy... At the time I was living in the suburbs.
    And she found out a week or so later.
    She was screaming at me, and throwing shit. My mom is tiny, but damn, can she throw a glass full of scotch.
    She is fine with me being gay now.
    But I was on such a short leash for three years in high school until I moved out here.

    My father is a baptist republican cop.
    I don't talk to him. lol.
  • DrobUA

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    Dec 16, 2009 4:36 AM GMT
    I have yet to tell my parents but I told all three of my sisters already. I was 18 at the time and I was away at school. My family only lives 2 hours away so I went home for the weekend to tell them in person.

    The first one I told was my 22 year old sister who I am closest with. I asked her to go to dinner with me and she knew right away something was up. We went to dinner, I stalled a while and then she finally asked what I needed to tell her. I said, "Well.. I'm dating someone." She said "Oh my god, do you know if she wants to keep it?" I laughed and said "No.. I'm pretty sure he's not pregnant." She was very confused. She told me I was probably going through a phase. After the shock wore off, she said she just wanted me to be happy.

    The second one was my twin. I was picking her up from her boyfriends house and just said, "So.. I'm dating a guy." She said, "Really!? Oh, well thats cool."

    The third is 30 and lives in Chicago so I sent her a long ass email explaining everything and she called me and said that she was so happy for me and blah blah blah. Her husband is a theater director in Chicago so most of their friends are gay haha.

    My parents... well, my sisters advised me to wait a while and I agree. I'm pretty sure someone already told them because my friends parents know and they are friends with my parents but sex is not something that is talked about in my family. So for now it's just something we don't talk about.
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    Dec 16, 2009 4:42 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidI

    My parents... well, my sisters advised me to wait a while and I agree. I'm pretty sure someone already told them because my friends parents know and they are friends with my parents but sex is not something that is talked about in my family. So for now it's just something we don't talk about.


    That is kinda how it is with my parents. They both know but it is never discussed or mentioned.
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    Dec 16, 2009 10:11 AM GMT
    I told my parents just about the beginning of November.

    I wanted to come out earlier, but I never had a chance. So when I was on the phone with my mom, I said "I wouldn't have a girlfriend 'cause I'm gay. Haven't I told you yet?" I wanted to keep it simple and casual.

    But she took it hard. She was so sad, depressed and even crying, and that made me sad too.

    On the other hand, my dad was fine with it, which was interesting 'cause I didn't expect that. He told me to live my life with no regret, and said he's proud of who I am.

    It was such a relief and so liberating. My mom probably needs some more time, but I'm glad I came out to the two people I love in the world. icon_smile.gif