GAY Psychologist?

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    Dec 17, 2009 8:36 PM GMT
    im in san antonio ,tx and im wondering if i want to go see a "professional" about some problems im having, including gay problems, how do u find somone who isnt homophobic or someone who doesnt beleive being gay is a choice without going to the office and being like "hey u down with homos?"
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    Dec 17, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    Choose with great care. The choice of a medical professional to help you is incredibly important. I was born in SA and I know just what you mean, it happened to me.

    I'd suggest the LGBT community center. Most towns will have a listing of service professionals.

    Check out online possibilities as well. You might be able to do therapy by blog or e-mail. It won't work for everyone, but it has worked for me.

    Terry
  • kinetic

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    Dec 17, 2009 9:31 PM GMT
    That is good advice. You need a professional that understands LGBT issues or you are really selling yourself short.
    I actually left a program even more fucked up than when I went in once, because they had no knowledge of the issues I dealt with being a gay man. DEFINITELY make sure that your issues are addressed with compassion and real understanding.
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    Dec 17, 2009 9:37 PM GMT
    Just ask him where he/she stands on the gay issue. He/she won't take offense and you'll get your answer.

    Trust me as a future gay psychologist, that knows more than enough gay psychologists, we are used to dealing with this, and as Terry said we tend to put our names down at the local LGBT centre to help people find us.
  • NickoftheNort...

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    Dec 17, 2009 9:40 PM GMT
    Here's the Gay and Lesbian Yellow Pages list of "San Antonio Gay Community Organizations & Resources"
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    Dec 17, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    Be careful not to go in with the attitude that they think it's a choice. You could very well transfer your feelings of other's onto them in and close yourself off making it hard for both them to help you and for you to accomplish what you are looking to fix.
  • vj2004t

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    Dec 17, 2009 11:13 PM GMT
    I SAW ONE THERAPIST AND HE TRIED TO TALK ME OUT OF BEING GAY. HELL NO ONE TALKED ME INTO BEING GAY WHO IN THE HELL CAN TALK ME OUT OF IT. i GOT RID OF HIM FAST VAL
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    Dec 18, 2009 12:13 AM GMT
    My last doctor was so out of touch with what I wanted to talk about that I asked for someone else and I have a great doctor now. He totally understands where I'm coming from and doesn't judge. Guess I got lucky. I also got lucky with my regular medical doctor at the same facility. He's even more "in tune" with where I'm coming from and even suggested a few lab tests that I hadn't even thought about. Yeah, they all came back really good, as we expected, but it's still nice to know.

    Point being, you may have to shop around a bit to find a doctor that fits your needs, but you will eventually find one that works for you. Just don't be afraid to ask question after question in the process.
  • pbaclifeguard

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    Dec 18, 2009 12:23 AM GMT
    Most psychologist will help you with your problems as a person that has a BA in Psychology you have to be ready to work on your problems. Therapists cant make everything better for you. As for your issue it is unethical to try and make you change or talk you out of being gay. You can search the American Psychological Associations website to find a psychologist who has knowledge in gay issues
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    Dec 18, 2009 1:07 AM GMT
    waxon saidim in san antonio ,tx and im wondering if i want to go see a "professional" about some problems im having, including gay problems, how do u find somone who isnt homophobic or someone who doesnt beleive being gay is a choice without going to the office and being like "hey u down with homos?"


    You might check out your local resources such as your community center, or their website if they have one. Our's has listings of every gay friendly business you could possibly think of. I think a lot of trained professionals dealing with mental health are "gay friendly" but I agree that they need to have training or experience with glbt issues. A good rule of thumb is that if you don't click on the first meeting to either give it a shot, or find somebody else.

    Hope it works out for you.
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    Dec 18, 2009 1:33 AM GMT
    i'm in trainging to become a psychologist in houston and my target population is the GLBT community. all you really have to do is go to therapistlocator.net/com can't remember which one (or any similar site). put in your area and it will give you a list of therapists and their specialties. then look for therapists that list GLBT as a specialty.

    one very important thing to remember, there is absolutely nothing keeping you tied to a specific therapist. if you don't feel comfortable with one, there is no obligation for you to return. just go in with an open mind, therapy really can help in a lot of different ways. there are still a few therapists that are not accepting of GLBT but they are not very common nowadays and they would not list it as a specialty.

    i hope everything works out for you.
  • InsatiableBlo...

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    Dec 18, 2009 2:11 AM GMT
    you should definitely ask "you down with homos?"

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    Dec 18, 2009 2:16 AM GMT
    InsatiableBloom saidyou should definitely ask "you down with homos?"



    thats what im leaning towards, definantly requires less work
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    Dec 18, 2009 2:59 AM GMT
    Go to a gay psychologist. Problem solved.
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    Dec 18, 2009 3:42 AM GMT
    Check out the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association at http://glma.org/
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    Dec 18, 2009 4:04 AM GMT
    There are therapists who specialize in homosexual issues. Check out their website or professional profile and it will usually list what they focus on.
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    Dec 18, 2009 4:17 AM GMT
    I worked with a psychiatrist who was really old school in his way of thinking. Very Freudian. Insisted that my sexuality was due to the fact that I sexualized my mother at a young age.

    Thank god that idea didn't stick. I went on to find a gay psychotherapist who was a 1000 times better for me.
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    Dec 18, 2009 4:25 AM GMT
    waxon saidim in san antonio ,tx and im wondering if i want to go see a "professional" about some problems im having, including gay problems, how do u find somone who isnt homophobic or someone who doesnt beleive being gay is a choice without going to the office and being like "hey u down with homos?"


    Click the following, type in "Austin" or your zip code, and choose "gay and lesbian issues" from the drop-down menu. There's a bunch of 'em.

    http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
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    Dec 18, 2009 6:48 AM GMT
    i will be hopefully moving to San Antonio in spring. I need one too. Let me know if you find one. I would greatly appreciate it.
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    Dec 18, 2009 7:07 AM GMT
    vj2004t saidI SAW ONE THERAPIST AND HE TRIED TO TALK ME OUT OF BEING GAY. HELL NO ONE TALKED ME INTO BEING GAY WHO IN THE HELL CAN TALK ME OUT OF IT. i GOT RID OF HIM FAST VAL
    no need to yell. icon_razz.gif