Today, two people asked me if I had a boyfriend? .......

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    Dec 20, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
    I said NO......Is that different than them asking, "Are you single?"

    Think about it. . .
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 20, 2009 12:12 PM GMT
    _donovan_ saidI said NO......Is that different than them asking, "Are you single?"

    Think about it. . .



    Well, when you think about it...kinda YEAH.....some guys consider a boyfriend as someone you only date for fun with no serious intentions. However, to me you are either single or in a committed relationship. There is no "in-between" icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 20, 2009 1:36 PM GMT
    I agree with Malefeet.
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    Dec 20, 2009 1:44 PM GMT
    Yesterday, my 2 co-worker females asked me when I am going to get married. I told them it is up to the guy upstairicon_lol.gif
  • GQjock

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    Dec 20, 2009 4:06 PM GMT
    I think that it's pretty much the same thing
    Do you have a BF?
    Are you single?
    Are you married?

    Either you say yes ... that you are involved or no..... that you're not
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 20, 2009 4:28 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    _donovan_ saidI said NO......Is that different than them asking, "Are you single?"

    Think about it. . .



    Well, when you think about it...kinda YEAH.....some guys consider a boyfriend as someone you only date for fun with no serious intentions. However, to me you are either single or in a committed relationship. There is no "in-between" icon_wink.gif




    I think there are a lot of "in-betweens" in life. I've just recently started a long-running conversation about the "in-betweens" and how limited the RJ Profile relationship identifier can be. He is currently in a "Monogamous Relationship" because it's a relationship...and it's monogamous. But there is no commitment such as marriage or LTR....yet. If he just puts "Dating" that could mean "dating many guys", "casually dating someone" or "dating exclusively one guy".

    On another issue entirely, my ex from an LTR has been in a relationship with a guy for 5 or 6 years. He lists his relationship status on another website as "seeing someone"...kinda pathetic huh? Of course his bf lists the relationship as "monogamous relationship".
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 20, 2009 4:33 PM GMT
    Oh, and I think if someone is asking if you have a boyfriend, it is basically a loaded question. They are implying that either you have a boyfriend, or you are seeking a boyfriend, and you might have to explain yourself so that they understand your desires in a relationship.

    If someone asks if your single, there really doesn't need to be a followup explanation. It is a simple "yes" or "no" question.
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    Dec 20, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    lol, I think that if someone asks if you have a boyfriend they're giving you a big fat compliment, and perhaps entertaining the idea of filling the position should it be vacant. icon_wink.gif


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    Dec 20, 2009 10:29 PM GMT
    Simple whether you are are not looking for someone. It has been phrased in number of ways and can be answered in a number of ways too.
    Just like my description above which doesn't say anything, icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 20, 2009 10:34 PM GMT
    Rodmramer saidYesterday, my 2 co-worker female asked me when I am going to get married. I told them it is up to the guy upstairicon_lol.gif

    I'm surprised you admitted that your landlord has such control over your life. I guess it's like being allowed to keep a dog, huh?
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    Dec 20, 2009 10:35 PM GMT
    Celticmusl saidOh, and I think if someone is asking if you have a boyfriend, it is basically a loaded question. They are implying that either you have a boyfriend, or you are seeking a boyfriend, and you might have to explain yourself so that they understand your desires in a relationship.

    If someone asks if your single, there really doesn't need to be a followup explanation. It is a simple "yes" or "no" question.


    I ask this question.. Recently I was talking with someone and used the word 'we'.. like. We live 2 blocks over from here, and the other guy asked 'roomate'. Would that infer that he was hoping that i was single? I followed back with, my partner and I live 2 blocks over.

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    Dec 20, 2009 10:37 PM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    Rodmramer saidYesterday, my 2 co-worker female asked me when I am going to get married. I told them it is up to the guy upstairicon_lol.gif

    I'm surprised you admitted that your landlord has such control over your life. I guess it's like being allowed to keep a dog, huh?


    RedVespa, really? 7571 Posts, all as insightful and meaningful as this one. My life is now more complete, having read this and all your other posts. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 20, 2009 10:39 PM GMT
    sounds also like an innuendo question, sort of " are you capable of having a boyfriend?" .
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    Dec 21, 2009 3:21 AM GMT
    Red_Vespa said
    Rodmramer saidYesterday, my 2 co-worker females asked me when I am going to get married. I told them it is up to the guy upstairicon_lol.gif

    I'm surprised you admitted that your landlord has such control over your life. I guess it's like being allowed to keep a dog, huh?



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