How to keep the interest?

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    Dec 21, 2009 1:15 AM GMT
    So I have been in the dating seen for quite a while, and I just noticed that people seem to lose intrest in me after about two weeks and it usually starts off really good then things just seem to fizzel out. It leaves me with questions like is it me? or we just not compatable? So my question to you guys, is how do you keep the interest alive?

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  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 1:23 AM GMT
    Communication is the main thing for me. E-mails, phone calls..and even old-fashioned cards and letters in the mail...as a pleasant surprise for my guy.....keeps it alive. When we are together, I also try to slip a note into his coat pocket that he won't find until later.
    One time when I did my boyfriend's laundry, before putting them away, I put a note in each front pocket of every pair of jeans he had......so he found at least one note from me every day of that week. He loved it. icon_redface.gif
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    Dec 21, 2009 1:25 AM GMT
    Just make sure it's not one-sided. They need to put in effort of their own to keep it alive.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 1:28 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidJust make sure it's not one-sided. They need to put in effort of their own to keep it alive.


    I totally agree...and when you find out that it is one-sided ( if it is) then you know it's not going to work out...but hey...you tried your best....or is it ' your bestest' ? icon_wink.gif
  • Webster666

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    Dec 21, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    I give him compliments.
    I cook for him.
    I am affectionate.
    I make him laugh.
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    Dec 21, 2009 1:43 AM GMT
    I actually struggle a lot with this issue. When things are new with a guy it's a stupid game, who has "the ball in their court". You want to properly nurture what could possibly become a relationship in the future but you don't want to seem needy. Sadly, a guy who's too busy with his life to message me often will be a lot more attractive than one who has nothing but time to message me 7 times a day. Ideally it's a harmonious balance between the two, but it's rarely that equilibrated.
  • GQjock

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    Dec 21, 2009 2:12 AM GMT
    Usually around the two week mark guys just seem to be finding out that there's an actual man on the other end of your dick ...
    so if they're leaving at this time
    maybe you're not showing them that there's anything of interest
    I'm not saying that there isn't ... but you're not showing them
    If you're interested in a guy
    do the things that you like to do - with him
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    Dec 21, 2009 2:40 AM GMT

    A lot of guys make the mistake of sticking together like glue for a period of less than a month. I think it's a mistake because the two have gone their whole life apart and now they get together thick as thieves? It's not going to last. I like to stretch it out, where if he was around for more than two days, I develop other plans. And, I suggest he go hang somewhere I'm not. I think gradually two guys can go from being sensible and hanging out periodically to not being able to stay apart, but I don't think it works in reverse. You'll rush it and act like you'll need every moment together and gradually return to being free and apart.

    I meant this all in general. I don't know exactly how yours is going. I would imagine its similar to the usual.



  • natsimjac1988

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    Dec 21, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
    uve been in the dating scene for a while huh? define "a while"....icon_wink.gif