The Perfect Guy.....

  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 9:45 PM GMT
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    I have spent a lot of my time and energy trying to work out the exact qualities a man needs in order to be considered a 'perfect guy' and so far this is what I have: (feel free to comment as I am still thinking...)

    * He has to be gentle and loving
    * He has to be strong and ruthless
    * He has to be decisive and know exactly what he wants.
    * He has to be mature, deep, sensible and understanding
    * He has to be childish, fun and unpredictable
    * He must be self confident
    * He must not be conceited
    * He must be intelligent and worldly
    * He must prefer a normal type of guy
    * He must be interested in more than just another guy's physical features
    * He must appreciate the physical features of the guy he is with
    * and above all: He must be himself, accept who he is and not try to be something he's not
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    Dec 21, 2009 9:50 PM GMT
    The perfect guy does not exist. You will have to make do with a mere human being. Each human being comes with a unique set of virtues and faults. We must adjust our expectations.
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    Dec 21, 2009 10:13 PM GMT
    malefeet said
    * He has to be gentle and loving
    * He has to be strong and ruthless

    These two don't work so well together, while people can be many things if you want strong and ruthless you gotta accept the guy will be strong and ruthless in things where you want "gentle and loving"
    malefeet said
    * He has to be decisive and know exactly what he wants.

    ah huh
    malefeet said
    * He has to be mature, deep, sensible and understanding

    yet you post
    malefeet said
    * He has to be childish, fun and unpredictable

    How many men can do the 6 things ???

    malefeet said
    * He must be self confident
    * He must not be conceited

    Soooooooo many people mistake confidence for being conceited, arrogant or cocky..

    malefeet said
    * He must be intelligent and worldly

    ah huh
    malefeet said
    * He must prefer a normal type of guy

    Why should he? if he's perfect why should he settle for "normal" ??
    malefeet said
    * He must be interested in more than just another guy's physical features
    * He must appreciate the physical features of the guy he is with

    He's a man sweety... pick one

    malefeet said
    * and above all: He must be himself, accept who he is and not try to be something he's not

    any man worth his salt is himself, but what "himself" do you want is always the more appropriate question.
  • JP85257

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    Pulse and a Penis at this point for me.
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    Dec 21, 2009 10:18 PM GMT
    Does he have to be all these things at the same time?
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:20 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    yet you post .



    Well..I do consider myself to be "perfectly imperfect." 34.gif
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:21 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidDoes he have to be all these things at the same time?


    Of course not......25.gif
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    Dec 21, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    malefeet saidI do consider myself to be "perfectly imperfect."
    There is perfect or imperfect, you can not have an in between ground to make your self feel good about your imperfections.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:25 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    malefeet saidI do consider myself to be "perfectly imperfect."
    There is perfect or imperfect, you can not have an in between ground to make your self feel good about your imperfections.



    Hmmmm..a "tough" guy......I swear I'm gonna make you laugh if it's the last thing I do today 52.gif
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    Dec 21, 2009 10:27 PM GMT
    malefeet saidHmmmm..a "tough" guy......I swear I'm gonna make you laugh if it's the last thing I do today

    it will probably be the last thing you ever do....... I find it funny watching a guy go down
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:31 PM GMT
    lilTanker said...... I find it funny watching a guy go down


    ...if only you lived closer...50.gif
  • JP85257

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    malefeet - Id cook you breakfast.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 21, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidmalefeet - Id cook you breakfast.


    wow...how can I refuse an offer like this from such a handsome guy? 67.gif
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    Dec 22, 2009 1:53 AM GMT
    I'd like to add kind and charitable to the list.

    To lilTanker,

    lilTanker

    How many men can do the 6 things ???


    I'm sure malefeet didn't mean being all 6 things at once, but it's important for the "perfect" guy to be serious when need be and be playful when appropriate.
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    Dec 22, 2009 1:56 AM GMT
    TexDef07 saidThe perfect guy does not exist. You will have to make do with a mere human being. Each human being comes with a unique set of virtues and faults. We must adjust our expectations.


    agree. remember others are expecting you to be their "perfect guy"
    Perfection is accepting another as they are. It is loving the whole person.
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    Dec 22, 2009 2:02 AM GMT
    Damn what yabber, good luck finding that man mate.
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    Dec 22, 2009 2:26 AM GMT
    Perfection is nonexistent. I think that was the point of the OP post. And if it were an attainable condition, how very dull it would be to be subjected to it.

    I want a man who isn't afraid to laugh at me when I bust my ass mountain biking, or who won't get all pissy when I tease him about mis-using a word. Give me imperfections to match my own, any day of the week, because at least then, you can grow together, learn together, love together with all the ups and downs and in-betweens.

    After all, a roller coaster is a lot more fun than a steady rail.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 22, 2009 2:34 AM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidPerfection is nonexistent. I think that was the point of the OP post.



    Well said my friend...You caught my meaning exactly.icon_cool.gif

    (did I ever mention just how handsome you really are?) icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 22, 2009 3:24 AM GMT
    TexDef07 saidThe perfect guy does not exist.


    Way to be a pessimist...
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    Dec 22, 2009 3:32 AM GMT
    yngstud4mscl said
    TexDef07 saidThe perfect guy does not exist.


    Way to be a pessimist...

    If he did exist you wouldn't want to date him. It would be intolerable. You'd always be in awe of his perfection and worried about concealing your own defects.
    A mere mortal would be so much more comfortable.
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    Dec 22, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    waiting on the perfect man...

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  • TexanMan82

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    Dec 22, 2009 4:12 AM GMT
    Present.


    Are we doing roll call?
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    Dec 22, 2009 4:46 AM GMT
    TexDef07 saidThe perfect guy does not exist.


    I think the perfect guy exisits but we never know what he is going to look like or how he is going to act until we meet him.
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    Dec 22, 2009 5:06 AM GMT
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    I have spent a lot of my time and energy trying to work out the exact qualities a man needs in order to be considered a 'perfect guy' and so far this is what I have: (feel free to comment as I am still thinking...)

    * He has to be gentle and loving

    YES...as long as he is not a cry baby!!

    * He has to be strong and ruthless

    Strong YES...ruthless NO

    * He has to be decisive and know exactly what he wants.

    Decisive only if he is right and NOT when he wants to be!!

    * He has to be mature, deep, sensible and understanding

    YES....YES....AND YES!!
    Oh mine I think I am having an orgasm!!


    * He has to be childish, fun and unpredictable

    Child like YES but NOT childish
    Fun YES, Spontaneous NOT unpredictable
    I can't stand moody people!!!


    * He must be self confident

    As long as he doesn't become conceited!!

    * He must not be conceited

    I feel very uncomfortable around people with a superiority complex!!!

    * He must be intelligent and worldly

    I prefer emotional over artificial intellectuals!
    Worldly? I prefer someone who have explored
    worlds less traveled then the one who is well
    traveled!!


    * He must prefer a normal type of guy

    YES!!!


    * He must be interested in more than just another guy's physical features

    That kind of guy is an endangered species amongst gay men!!


    * He must appreciate the physical features of the guy he is with

    If someone doesn't accept your physical features he must be an alien,
    and we all know how ugly aliens are, right!?


    * and above all: He must be himself, accept who he is and not try to be something he's not

    I don't mind someone being themselves as long as he is not a danger to society and to himself!




    EXCELLENT TOPIC!! and I hope you find the guy that makes you happy!!!



    ♥ Leandro ♥
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    Dec 22, 2009 5:09 AM GMT
    of course perfect men exist.
    spending ALL their time on the internet
    so you never meet them in real life.
    It's quite tragic .