What happened to RealJock?

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    Dec 23, 2009 3:14 AM GMT
    When I signed up for RJ almost two years ago, I was relieved to find there was a "gay" website NOT dedicated to hooking up, let alone a "gay fitness" website!!
    I was excited. There was finally a place where I had access to real workout tips through the forums, access to daily routines (which I love), AND (best of all) a chat room where you could actually talk to guys like me.

    Ever since the appearance of the "adult room", however, It seems like this website is going down the drain. Its losing its edge as being a "different" site. Its starting to turn into a webcam hookup site, just like every other "gay" site out there....

    When RJ started the "paid membership" campaign, I was eager to signup. I felt that paying a few bucks a month was a small price to pay to keep the website up, help with overall improvements, and continue to have access to quality fitness information.

    And the crazy topics!! Don't even get me started!! "Hello I am new here!!! Is there any gay daddy lovers on here?????".... Are you serious? Wow.... And that is just a recent post!

    Maybe there are only a few of us who wish the OLD RJ would be the standard, without the naked chats and "gay daddy lover" posts.... but I feel there are PLENTY of other sites that offer that....
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    Dec 23, 2009 3:38 AM GMT
    While I agree with you, I wonder what topics along these lines have you started.
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    Dec 23, 2009 4:53 AM GMT
    I see where you're coming from...

    But I don't see it as being a huge change from what RJ was before. I've been a member for about three years.

    I like ogling hot guys and RJ still let's me do that. icon_biggrin.gif

    I've even been in the adult chat room (can be scary at times). But I don't see the whole hookup side of RJ. Maybe because I don't even think about it.

    I like to flirt and verbally mess with guys on here, but I don't take it too seriously.

    I think the workouts are still great and there are many great guys here who don't use RJ for sex.
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    Dec 23, 2009 8:03 AM GMT
    The site is pretty varied and the nature if it can change, but I think it's ultimately the choice of each user to determine what the experience will be. In the past year I really enjoyed the forums that were sarcastic and irreverent. The last month or so, I haven't been relating to those quite as much however.
    I read some of the forum topics that are purely social or sexual and although I enjoy reading them ( I used to start them ), I don't have anything to add nowadays.
    A few months ago I wouldn't have responded to this topic, even though I now think it's an interesting question. Unfortunately, my experiences in the fitness forums has been pretty negative. All my posts, even simple questions, have been met with insults and derogatory remarks, often by more that one member, so I rarely view those. I'm not familiar with the chat rooms and I don't even IM very often.
    So, I suppose there's enough variety to keep me interested. Sometimes I take a little break and come back with a fresh perspective.
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    Dec 24, 2009 2:31 AM GMT
    I turned off the IM thing on the first day... AFTER a conversation.

    But doesn't your complaint presuppose that we wouldn't all talk about sex things if there weren't a forum specifically for it?
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    Dec 24, 2009 3:18 AM GMT
    my complaint is the political flamewars -- can no difference of opinion be discussed, rather than reduced to stereotypes and yelled about?

    by comparison, the sexual innuendo seems tame.

    but to your point: there are lots of problems on here (including the 1990's era layout...hello!) BUT nowhere better that i know of to do what we do -- bitch about gay stuff...icon_cool.gif
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    Dec 24, 2009 3:54 PM GMT
    ha ha ha... Calson... I'm pretty sure you can check the forums I have participated... nothing crazy....

    Horsepower.... You don't see the whole hookup side?? Maybe not in person, but c2c hookups are def. more prevalent now... I mean, just peak into the adult room and you'll usually see at least 1 torso/penis shot... just guys playing with themselves...
    But don't get me wrong... I don't mind looking at hot guys either, haha...
    Oh... and I do go into the adult room every once in awhile because I have friends that chat in there now (because the regular chat is dead most of the time)...

    Makavelli--- I am not suggesting that at all... Talking about sex is perfectly fine, in the right context... But when the topic is "looking for a muscle daddy".... thats what I find unnecessary. Go to manhunt or another singles/hookup website for that...

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    Dec 24, 2009 4:13 PM GMT
    I see RJ a bit like a gay bar, a non cruisey one.

    Everyone is nattering, being fabulously witty, and tend to eye up the new arrivals, but that's as far as that goes. However a few people from the hookup bar across the street sometimes drunkenly stagger in and, seeing the quality of guys available, try their best to butter their toast.