haha - mostly! Why? You mean there's a way to find out why?
These are just coffee dates and I think it's too much of a commitment - they really just want sex. So I have two new practices for these things, 1st - I have decided to give them another chance if they contact me, even if it's weeks later. I figure that being gay, they are socially and sexually retarded, but it's not their fault. They were raised in a culture that doesn't want them to exist, so they are understandably conflicted. 2nd - I need to talk on the phone first. Guys who are willing to talk on the phone usually show up. Texter/emailers crap out.
For those of us who are mature, decent guys it helps to keep expectations down to a minimum. TRY (ugh) to keep a sense of humor and a positive attitude