your family or your bfff...

  • suninice

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    Dec 26, 2009 1:00 AM GMT
    which one do u prefer your family( your parent and brother ,sister) or boyfriend...... if you have to delete one of them ...
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    Dec 26, 2009 1:07 AM GMT

    What's your definition of "family". Details please.

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    Dec 26, 2009 1:09 AM GMT
    I don't have a bf so family wins by default. Not really sure what the purpose of the OP's question is? Maybe the OP means if your family and bf didn't get along which would you pick to spend the holiday with?
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    Dec 26, 2009 2:03 AM GMT

    -Delete- sounds pretty permanent. Maybe he means that every person in your family likes your boyfriend, thinks he's ok, but one person keeps making accusations and saying he/she thinks your boyfriend is a maniac.

    .....................

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    Dec 26, 2009 3:22 AM GMT
    I don't have family and I don't have a boyfriend.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Dec 26, 2009 3:37 AM GMT
    Sans boyfriend means family wins by default, but I think they'd win out anyway, they've been very supportive and I'm sure I'll be able to bring a bf around. I don't like the idea of deleting anyone.
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    Dec 26, 2009 4:13 AM GMT
    what a dumb question
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    Dec 26, 2009 4:16 AM GMT
    Having it all is so easy it's a non-issue.
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    Dec 26, 2009 4:18 AM GMT
    Boyfriend comes and goes. Family, I don't have close relationship with them.
    I chose friends over both of them
  • jrs1

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    Dec 26, 2009 4:33 AM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidI don't like the idea of deleting anyone.


    I don't either but Palin's gotta go.
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    Dec 26, 2009 4:58 AM GMT
    jrs1 said
    jlly_rnchr saidI don't like the idea of deleting anyone.


    I don't either but Palin's gotta go.


    I agree and add Ann Coulter, Dick Cheney, Glenn Beck- a pretty safe list on this site, but here's the not so safe wish list to delete- Celine Dion, Susan Boyle, and Paula Deen.
  • Delivis

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    Dec 26, 2009 5:00 AM GMT
    My boyfriend would be my family.
  • Paradigm_Shif...

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    Dec 26, 2009 5:08 AM GMT
    I think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....
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    Dec 26, 2009 5:48 AM GMT
    I simply cannot be made to choose between those I love in any general way. I will love them each is a unique way. I will always try to stand up for the side of what is right and if that means taking issue with any of the ones I love I will. But my love is not so weak that I have to choose one person over another .. I will simply apportion my love based the individual needs of each person.
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    Dec 26, 2009 5:50 AM GMT
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?
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    Dec 26, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    Boyfriend is family. I don't go through guys like underwear so yeah.. that wouldn't really work out for me.
  • Paradigm_Shif...

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    Dec 26, 2009 6:16 AM GMT
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....
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    Dec 26, 2009 6:19 AM GMT
    FRIENDS are the FAMILY you choose for yourself. I am lucky that mine all play well together.......
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    Dec 26, 2009 6:22 AM GMT
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?
  • Paradigm_Shif...

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    Dec 26, 2009 6:52 AM GMT
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?


    Wow, you know nothing about me or my family.

    I am completely out to my entire family and my entire family has met by boyfriend. I have not only stood up to my family and made it clear that I do not agree with their views, but I have gone over a year and a half with barely a word to any of them. I am completely financially independent of them and do not rely on them for money and have never relied on them for money since the day I move out of my house when I was 17.

    It just so happens that although my family isn't in PFLAG, I would still like to maintain a relationship with them, and since the sudden death of my father in 2008 I have made a decision to rebuild that relationship even further.

    My boyfriend supports me 100% and our relationship is strong as ever.

    I would hope someone of your age would know not to speak on a subject they know nothing about.....
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:02 AM GMT
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?


    Wow, you know nothing about me or my family.

    I am completely out to my entire family and my entire family has met by boyfriend. I have not only stood up to my family and made it clear that I do not agree with their views, but I have gone over a year and a half with barely a word to any of them. I am completely financially independent of them and do not rely on them for money and have never relied on them for money since the day I move out of my house when I was 17.

    It just so happens that although my family isn't in PFLAG, I would still like to maintain a relationship with them, and since the sudden death of my father in 2008 I have made a decision to rebuild that relationship even further.

    My boyfriend supports me 100% and our relationship is strong as ever.

    I would hope someone of your age would know not to speak on a subject they know nothing about.....


    Well enjoy the rest of your stay with the homophobes.
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:05 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?

    I hate to stick my nose in where it doesn't belong, but come on Phemt! That was totally uncalled for and a really judgmental thing to say.
    Everyone handles their family business differently and to judge him on his family dealings is to say we all need to act the same.. or anything less makes them weak. I happen to disagree. I understand where he is coming from. I have friends in his same shoes and would Never try and judge them that harshly...


    I am I mistaking that they are not homophobes? I call a spade a spade.
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:06 AM GMT
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?


    Wow, you know nothing about me or my family.

    I am completely out to my entire family and my entire family has met by boyfriend. I have not only stood up to my family and made it clear that I do not agree with their views, but I have gone over a year and a half with barely a word to any of them. I am completely financially independent of them and do not rely on them for money and have never relied on them for money since the day I move out of my house when I was 17.

    It just so happens that although my family isn't in PFLAG, I would still like to maintain a relationship with them, and since the sudden death of my father in 2008 I have made a decision to rebuild that relationship even further.

    My boyfriend supports me 100% and our relationship is strong as ever.

    I would hope someone of your age would know not to speak on a subject they know nothing about.....


    Well enjoy the rest of your stay with the homophobes.



    Thanks! And good luck finding a Boyfriend! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:09 AM GMT
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift saidI think its a great question, especially during the holidays. Right now Im visiting at my mother's house with my sisters and extended family, yet my BF, is away home in Philly by himself.

    Because my family is very religious and does not agree with the homos, every time I want to spend time with my family during the Holidays I have to be away from my boyfriend.

    So yeah, every major Holiday or family function there is a choice to be made..... And it sucks having to make it....


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....


    meanwhile your bf stays home alone while you "play house" with your homophobic family. I feel sorry for your bf having to date such a spineless, never cutting the cord, and unable to stand up to his family guy like you. Do you depend on them for money or something?


    Wow, you know nothing about me or my family.

    I am completely out to my entire family and my entire family has met by boyfriend. I have not only stood up to my family and made it clear that I do not agree with their views, but I have gone over a year and a half with barely a word to any of them. I am completely financially independent of them and do not rely on them for money and have never relied on them for money since the day I move out of my house when I was 17.

    It just so happens that although my family isn't in PFLAG, I would still like to maintain a relationship with them, and since the sudden death of my father in 2008 I have made a decision to rebuild that relationship even further.

    My boyfriend supports me 100% and our relationship is strong as ever.

    I would hope someone of your age would know not to speak on a subject they know nothing about.....


    Well enjoy the rest of your stay with the homophobes.



    Thanks! And good luck finding a Boyfriend! icon_biggrin.gif


    I've had bfs before and for your information, unlike your Homophobic family, they were always welcome! Again enjoy your stay with the Homophobes.
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:12 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    phemt said
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said
    phemt said
    Paradigm_Shift said


    are you not one of the homos your family dosn't agree with?


    Yes, but we are friendly enough to get along and play nice....




    I am I mistaking that they are not homophobes? I call a spade a spade.

    You are lower that I ever expected! I'm embarrassed for you!


    I really don't care what you think. I don't give a shit about homophobes, their supporters, or those who make excuses for them.