Are you tired of bulls..ting men, that find you?

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    Dec 26, 2009 9:15 AM GMT
    If so talk about that sh.t. Cause it seems that they don't want a real man, they want some type of game and sh.t. F..k that I want more, and it you want more too express it! F..k these weak a.. men who want to mess around with you and the next man too!
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    Dec 26, 2009 6:06 PM GMT
    Here's what your rant sounds like with real adult words in place of the ellipses:

    If so talk about that shit. Cause it seems that they don't want a real man, they want some type of game and shit. Fuck that I want more, and it you want more too express it! Fuck these weak ass men who want to mess around with you and the next man too!

    There! Does that feel better?
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    Dec 26, 2009 6:42 PM GMT
    The real men I know have potty mouths! It might be possible that the men you attract are the ones that in the end leave you devastated! Re-adjust your signal and hone in a different tune! best luck for 2010
  • calibro

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    Dec 26, 2009 6:58 PM GMT
    i have no idea what this thread is about... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:13 PM GMT
    Me neithericon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 26, 2009 7:37 PM GMT
    I would have to agree. I feel like that some guys psyche themselves out when it comes to being presented with something good. not just good for one person, but a good that can be shared between the two of them. sometimes men run from what they seek the most. I tend to hesitate when I feel I am on unsure footing, but who's to say that interactions with others are ever going to be sure?

    What can affect you the most is when you are constantly told that you are going to make someone very happy someday when all you feel is the emptiness of their words. it's a head trip ... it's utter psychobabble. If things were more straightforward then I am not sure we would be having this particular conversation, but instead we would be complaining about something else.

    1.

    It's comfortable being off and by myself but it a bit of a reminder of what could be when with someone that makes you feel like you make them a better person ... what with their constant reminders and their gentle looks in your direction. I may be rambling but I am not saying that I feel validated by the presence of another (looks back at the validation thread) but I mean to say when alone ... I feel like I am cruising along on one channel (i.e., an experience) and when with those that mean a lot to me ... I feel like I am a different kind of free.

    2.

    I agree with the OP in that there are many different kinds of neuroses that affect potential with very good guys out there and that this problem can makes those guys who are also wonderful and ready to love ... it can make them fall deep into the shadows of doubt and miss out on an opportunity that can help them grow.

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    Dec 26, 2009 7:59 PM GMT
    For real though, I think most dudes go in looking for ways out...Maybe we do it ourselves subconciously.

    It seems that the problem is the "one uppance" mentality. That being we think if we can find one great guy, we can do even better...not even considering that the great guy we got may have actually took a step down to "try" to be with you.

    I think the Internet killed off the last true vestiges of intimacy and getting to know someone. We can order what we want like pizza, and it will come right to your door...no need to get to know someone genuine, when you jump straight to the transaction. Plus all of us seem to be closet narcissist, consumed with our schedules (work, working out, family - who by the way won't compromise their wives/husbands and kids for us) that we don't invest the time to get to know a good dude. We just want to add water and shake...

    We say we want good looking, nice job, intelligent, funny and all that, but when we get it...we let the little stuff, the little flaws that we all have, just cancel out all the "big stuff"...we want to one up it. And how many of us never step outside our box? I didn't (I will now, lol).

    It is hard work, and it seems (I am guilty) that many of us would rather work on our bodies, our homes and careers, harder than we are willing to work on getting to really know someone and turn it into a real (sans bullshit) relationship.
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    Dec 26, 2009 8:25 PM GMT
    Such shit, has not been apart of my life for over 20 years nowicon_razz.gif
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    Dec 26, 2009 8:28 PM GMT
    Getting to know someone IS hard work. Who knows what goes off in the minds of these guys? All I can say is that I understand your frustration. Good luckicon_wink.gif
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    Dec 27, 2009 12:16 AM GMT
    WDuane saidFor real though, I think most dudes go in looking for ways out...Maybe we do it ourselves subconciously.

    It seems that the problem is the "one uppance" mentality. That being we think if we can find one great guy, we can do even better...not even considering that the great guy we got may have actually took a step down to "try" to be with you.

    I think the Internet killed off the last true vestiges of intimacy and getting to know someone. We can order what we want like pizza, and it will come right to your door...no need to get to know someone genuine, when you jump straight to the transaction. Plus all of us seem to be closet narcissist, consumed with our schedules (work, working out, family - who by the way won't compromise their wives/husbands and kids for us) that we don't invest the time to get to know a good dude. We just want to add water and shake...

    We say we want good looking, nice job, intelligent, funny and all that, but when we get it...we let the little stuff, the little flaws that we all have, just cancel out all the "big stuff"...we want to one up it. And how many of us never step outside our box? I didn't (I will now, lol).

    It is hard work, and it seems (I am guilty) that many of us would rather work on our bodies, our homes and careers, harder than we are willing to work on getting to really know someone and turn it into a real (sans bullshit) relationship.



    truely Awsome post

    Thank you
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    Dec 27, 2009 12:32 AM GMT
    WDuane saidFor real though, I think most dudes go in looking for ways out...Maybe we do it ourselves subconciously.

    It seems that the problem is the "one uppance" mentality. That being we think if we can find one great guy, we can do even better...not even considering that the great guy we got may have actually took a step down to "try" to be with you.

    I think the Internet killed off the last true vestiges of intimacy and getting to know someone. We can order what we want like pizza, and it will come right to your door...no need to get to know someone genuine, when you jump straight to the transaction. Plus all of us seem to be closet narcissist, consumed with our schedules (work, working out, family - who by the way won't compromise their wives/husbands and kids for us) that we don't invest the time to get to know a good dude. We just want to add water and shake...

    We say we want good looking, nice job, intelligent, funny and all that, but when we get it...we let the little stuff, the little flaws that we all have, just cancel out all the "big stuff"...we want to one up it. And how many of us never step outside our box? I didn't (I will now, lol).

    It is hard work, and it seems (I am guilty) that many of us would rather work on our bodies, our homes and careers, harder than we are willing to work on getting to really know someone and turn it into a real (sans bullshit) relationship.


    I agree..people are just too occupied with themselves nowadays to give a shit about anyone else...awesome post!
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    Dec 27, 2009 12:37 AM GMT
    I agree with an earlier post that the internet has been the culprit when it comes to diminishing romance, true intimacy, and above all, honesty.

    Man, I've been single now for a few years and using the internet to try to find potential romantic relationships has been a disaster for me.

    Seems like once I make what appears to be a connection, the fear/flake/fake factor goes into overdrive.

    I'm not exclusively using the internet for dating but the other venues are also a crap shoot. Mostly crap.

    Sometimes I think maybe my standards are too high but I'm not looking for perfection or anything close to that.

    I am tired of all the BS.
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    Dec 27, 2009 12:38 AM GMT
    I've found that a bullshitter is always quickly scared off by a good person.
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    Dec 27, 2009 1:12 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI've found that a bullshitter is always quickly scared off by a good person.


    So true! And the bullshitters easy to spot too. As the saying goes, if it sounds too good to be true....
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    Dec 27, 2009 6:29 AM GMT

    You've learned to spot it so I'd suggest you not take it anymore. You can do bad alone...so, the solution may be to be alone. While you're at it, evaluate yourself and your stake in attracting or "putting up with" these men. I think at present your problem is the latter.

    You may say forget it and you won't put up with it, but you're not stepping away.
    You gotta build up a temperament about yourself that says, "I won't put up with bullshit and I want something real." I have the feeling you say that and then when he puts his chin on your shoulder or touches your face just there, you forget all about it and let him have his way.

    Uncouth men have counted on this forever. Most men and women are flowers, all they know how to do is be sweet and accommodating. The bad guys take advantage of this with flower after flower because they garden selfishly. If you want respect, you gotta grow thorns and bloom at awkward hours. A man willing to put in the work gardens these.

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    Dec 27, 2009 7:07 AM GMT
    soulman1969 said
    lilTanker saidI've found that a bullshitter is always quickly scared off by a good person.


    So true! And the bullshitters easy to spot too. As the saying goes, if it sounds too good to be true....


    Good old cliches.......
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    Dec 28, 2009 7:17 PM GMT
    "Real men" are as accessible as the Loch Ness Monster. I'll take the games... Dodge Ball and Marco Polo are much more consistent.
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    Dec 28, 2009 11:56 PM GMT
    i think men look for love, but, generally, are afraid to accept it once they stumble upon it. they then have to bullshit their way back out of it.
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    Dec 29, 2009 8:51 PM GMT
    Welcome to real world!

    All the more I am by myself, doing bad by myself! There's something called a checklist. Some say it's shallow to have one & those are the ones who will call you bitter and/or romantically challenged. Some even say that you're gonna spend your life alone because you're waiting on that list to be 95% accurate. After getting bs'd by a lot of guys, I got fed up & just grew a checklist and some higher standards. Just let the bs'ers know that if they cannot amount up to what you're looking for, tell them to push on with their games. Nothing breaks a bullshitter's face more when you tell them that you can do bad by yourself & the last place you need to be in is a situation that they created.