Long distance relationships can be successful. In our case, there were always plans to move in together, so it was just a matter of time for us.
I met my partner 4 years ago while I was working in San Francisco (I lived in Scottsdale). I travel for work, so we had the advantage of getting to see each other every other weekend.
During our time apart, we would talk every night and occasionally text during the day. Whenever I would be at an airport, boarding a plane or landing (or him during his long daily commutes to/from work), quick little texts or emails kept us in touch.
We would plan weekend get-aways, always spent at least two weeks a year in some tropical location, and sometimes he would fly in to see me (either at my home or at my work location). We knew we wanted to be together but needed a few things to fall into or out of place. When the stars aligned, I made the move (easier for me since I only needed an airport).
Last March, I sold everything I own (which has been very useful when I need a guilt trip
, except the house, and moved in with him. It's been a rougher transition for me, having to leave my friends, but the relationship is stronger than ever.
Therefore, if I could give you any advice, it would be that long distance relationships can work provided that you have similar long term goals. And if neither one is willing to consider a move, then it can never work.
My question to you is "how committed do you think you can be?"