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    Dec 28, 2009 7:33 PM GMT
    Is it possible to have a lifelong intimate relationship with a guy and not have anal sex/ is that advisable>
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    Dec 28, 2009 7:40 PM GMT
    Of course! It's not the mechanics of the sex, it's the love and affection that makes it work!

    Whatever act floats your boats will work, as long as the love and affection and trust are there.
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    Dec 28, 2009 7:43 PM GMT
    My parents have been together 35 years and I am fairly sure my mom has never taken a strap on to my dad. Yes, it is possible because neither or them are interested in ass lovin'.

    If one of you really likes anal sex and the other one doesn't, some compromises will have to be worked out. That doesn't mean you never get anal. Oh no, he either has to use a cockring or a strap on to fuck you good, or he has to take it like a man every once in a while.

    Sexual needs don't have to be a hostage situation. But sexual needs are just as real as any emotional need. You ignore them at your own peril.
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    Dec 28, 2009 8:02 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidMy parents have been together 35 years and I am fairly sure my mom has never taken a strap on to my dad. Yes, it is possible because neither or them are interested in ass lovin'.

    If one of you really likes anal sex and the other one doesn't, some compromises will have to be worked out. That doesn't mean you never get anal. Oh no, he either has to use a cockring or a strap on to fuck you good, or he has to take it like a man every once in a while.

    Sexual needs don't have to be a hostage situation. But sexual needs are just as real as any emotional need. You ignore them at your own peril.

    I was speaking in the context of homsexuals
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    Dec 28, 2009 8:24 PM GMT
    free_spirit09 saidI was speaking in the context of homsexuals


    Homosexuals really aren't all that different. Each individual has sexual needs and sometimes those sexual needs conflict with a partner's. A relationship is doomed to fail if either party is unwilling to be a participant in the others sexual desires*.


    *again with the caveat of compromise and reasonable expectations and blah blah blah
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    Dec 28, 2009 8:39 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    free_spirit09 saidI was speaking in the context of homsexuals


    Homosexuals really aren't all that different. Each individual has sexual needs and sometimes those sexual needs conflict with a partner's. A relationship is doomed to fail if either party is unwilling to be a participant in the others sexual desires*.


    *again with the caveat of compromise and reasonable expectations and blah blah blah


    Good advice - agreed. And yeah - I'm sure there are plenty of gay couples that don't engage in any anal intercourse. I'm not a huge fan of it myself.
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    Dec 28, 2009 9:21 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie said
    free_spirit09 saidI was speaking in the context of homsexuals


    Homosexuals really aren't all that different. Each individual has sexual needs and sometimes those sexual needs conflict with a partner's. A relationship is doomed to fail if either party is unwilling to be a participant in the others sexual desires*.


    *again with the caveat of compromise and reasonable expectations and blah blah blah


    I agree with you, whole heatedly, surprisingly . I do think however,a lot of people are ignorant when it comes to anal sex, and don't know how to prepare themselves, its a bit of work I would imagine, so a lot of people cop out, it's like straight guys who try to get their girlfriends to do all the work during sex, they don't want o fully commit
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    Dec 29, 2009 12:41 AM GMT
    I, myself hate the anal stuff, but, have compromised with various partners by getting the numbing lubricant. I then don't have the pain (My asshole is small). Life is good
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    Dec 29, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    my fist four relationships did not include anal sex. either i wasn't ready for it or he wasn't...just didn't happen. it wasn't a huge issue.

    my current long term bf is a Teriffic Top...but he and I still don't "go anal" everytime we make love.
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    Dec 30, 2009 7:27 AM GMT
    Sure it is. Especially in a relationship where people love each other, it's their business how to physically manifest and express their feelings. Some couples "make love" and/or "have sex" - that could include intercourse or not.
    I realized good experiences with intercourse as a gay man when I was ready for them as a person. I had to be at a certain point in my emotional and sexual development, which has been pretty recent.
    The guy I'm dating right now is about my age, we have similar life experiences, similar intelligence and emotional make ups. I feel comfortable with him and I trust him. He's very good sexually, being an absolute confident top and constantly sensitive to my experience as we make love. I don't have a lot of good experience bottoming and he is very big, but when we kiss and make love affectionately it makes all the difference. I want that intimacy with him and there's no problem taking all of him in - and no soreness/trouble walking after - all the things I heard horror stories about.
    For the record - I am in good shape and I do Yoga which I think helps me to have a good mind-body connection. He is 10 inches & pretty thick - but - he's a good man who wants to make sure we both enjoy ourselves.
    Don't do anything you don't want to do and don't let anybody rush you.
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    Dec 30, 2009 7:30 AM GMT
    rnch saidmy fist four relationships did not include anal sex. either i wasn't ready for it or he wasn't...just didn't happen. it wasn't a huge issue.

    my current long term bf is a Teriffic Top...but he and I still don't "go anal" everytime we make love.


    total agree, sex could be many way, not mean only anal sex!
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:02 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidMy parents have been together 35 years and I am fairly sure my mom has never taken a strap on to my dad. Yes, it is possible because neither or them are interested in ass lovin'.

    If one of you really likes anal sex and the other one doesn't, some compromises will have to be worked out. That doesn't mean you never get anal. Oh no, he either has to use a cockring or a strap on to fuck you good, or he has to take it like a man every once in a while.

    Sexual needs don't have to be a hostage situation. But sexual needs are just as real as any emotional need. You ignore them at your own peril.


    I bet your Mom fucks your dad on a regular basis! The point being no one knows what goes on behind closed doors except the 2, or 3, or 4 people doing it!