Hey, older jocks!

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    Dec 29, 2009 4:56 AM GMT
    I think we have the experience to spread around. I know I do
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    Dec 29, 2009 6:28 AM GMT
    Go ahead and spread mate. I need some experience under my belt..
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    Dec 29, 2009 6:57 AM GMT
    I actually have a question for the older guys:

    I've been thinking about it lately and I don't feel that I used my 20s very wisely. Was always very goal-oriented, but didn't party much. Never had careless sex, orgies, etc... and now I'm expected to settle down when I feel like I've barely started.

    So, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    Dec 29, 2009 7:07 AM GMT
    Well, Pumpkin, you do all good things in moderation, and, hopefully, plan for the future / golden years, because the years slip away after a while.
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    Dec 29, 2009 7:11 AM GMT
    SeaSon saidSo, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    The first thing I think you should do is jettison all silly rules about what you should or shouldn't do or be at particular ages.
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    Dec 29, 2009 9:12 AM GMT
    I personally think that being goal orientated in your 20s is not such a bad thing at all. Trust me, you do not want to be entering your 30s and 40s without some sort of career that you actually enjoy and can make a good living from.

    Also, in your 30s you are still relatively young and can pass for someone in their 20s, so if you feel you've wasted time, then get yourself out there.
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    Dec 29, 2009 9:45 AM GMT
    Your 30s are the last of your youth. Gosh I loved my 30s; just loved them, would never go back before my 30s. Enjoy the last of your youth, do the things you wished you had done i your 20s. Because when you hit your 40s you are going into middle age.
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    Dec 29, 2009 9:55 AM GMT
    josephmovie saidI personally think that being goal orientated in your 20s is not such a bad thing at all. Trust me, you do not want to be entering your 30s and 40s without some sort of career that you actually enjoy and can make a good living from.

    Also, in your 30s you are still relatively young and can pass for someone in their 20s, so if you feel you've wasted time, then get yourself out there.


    I agree with jo, get established first, then mess around. Its never a bad thing to think with your head than with your dick. I know so many older guys that wished they concentrated on their studies and career than fucking around.

    The best advice I ever got from an older gay man.
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    Dec 29, 2009 11:07 AM GMT
    SeaSon saidI actually have a question for the older guys:

    I've been thinking about it lately and I don't feel that I used my 20s very wisely. Was always very goal-oriented, but didn't party much. Never had careless sex, orgies, etc... and now I'm expected to settle down when I feel like I've barely started.

    So, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    Don't do anything stupid, but do whatever you want to do now. Get it out of your system. Once you hit 40, certain things don't work as well as they did when you were in your 30's.
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 29, 2009 12:45 PM GMT
    Here I am. Have work in 11 jobs, from Maintainance, Mc D, Army, cleaning toilet , buss boy all the way to Managerial Level. I been with guy from USA to Somalia. Travel to so many country. Backpack from Vietnam to Australia. I been to deep of ocean, underground river, ancient city , freezing snowy winter, Australian Outback, Great Wall of China and Taj Mahal.

    Yes, I have a lot to share, including how to please and taking care of my men,
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    Dec 29, 2009 1:02 PM GMT
    Your thirties are the decade when you get serious about your career and work because major schooling is behind you. It's the decade when you realize that you want to make more of an impression on the world around you than just appearances. It's also a great time to travel, explore and do the things that interest you because you've got the time, energy and some resources. Invest time in good friendships that will sustain you for years to come because life get busier and more complicated with every passing year and it becomes harder and harder to make meaningful and lasting connections. Whatever you do, don't waste time or miss opportunities because the years fly by faster and faster. If you're lucky, you'll figure out what's really important to you.
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    Dec 29, 2009 1:43 PM GMT
    Hey SeaSon, now you're 30+? So now you can go about doing the things you say you missed in your 20s, but with some added maturity that does in many cases come with age (and experience, which you now have much more of, having done all those serious things in your 20s). There's a big advantage to this as you're probably better able to navigate around the pitfalls in Adventure than when you first hit adulthood.

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  • Koaa2

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    Dec 29, 2009 2:07 PM GMT
    I say party all your life! But do it in combination with other aspects of life, such as relationship, work, family, friends, and planning and setting goals for life after work. Time goes by fast so don't waste a minute when you want to do something, as you will only regret it some time later.
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    Dec 29, 2009 2:11 PM GMT
    Take a shower, brush your teeth, comb your hair, if applicable...someone will find you hot!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2009 2:14 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidI actually have a question for the older guys:

    I've been thinking about it lately and I don't feel that I used my 20s very wisely. Was always very goal-oriented, but didn't party much. Never had careless sex, orgies, etc... and now I'm expected to settle down when I feel like I've barely started.

    So, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    Sounds to me like you used your 20's very wisely. The 20's are an important time when you are laying the groundwork for what's to come later on. Life just keeps getting better and better from the 20's. The 30's are a great time because most tend to leave the silly angst of the 20's behind and focus on self awareness and really making something of your life. The 40's are even better and, for me anyway, the 50's are the best yet. That all being said, I'd say just live your life and keep on moving on with a positive attitude that your life is what you make it.
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    Dec 29, 2009 3:32 PM GMT
    That's great advice about using your 30s to find a career path that you will love.

    Let's say you want to be an actor. Well, that means you might live in a small place, in New York, with a roommate for the next ten years. It's all about balancing.

    You're always going to have bills to pay. Don't become a burden to someone because of money issues. It will make you feel like the biggest loser.

    Try to take, one cool vacation a year. Visiting parents doesn't count-lol!!

    Keep working out, You will still feel 30 when you turn 40.

    I have had to overcome the habit of worrying. Worrying is so spirit draining. Things work out, not always for the best, but they do work out.

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    Dec 29, 2009 4:34 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidI actually have a question for the older guys:

    I've been thinking about it lately and I don't feel that I used my 20s very wisely. Was always very goal-oriented, but didn't party much. Never had careless sex, orgies, etc... and now I'm expected to settle down when I feel like I've barely started.

    So, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    Dec 29, 2009 4:41 PM GMT
    SeaSon, the advantage of being goal oriented is that the later years provide more freedom (ie: retire early) I was goal oriented young and am eligible to retire at 55 (we'll see if I can afford it though). The disadvantage you've already noted....you miss the party time some. You can still have fun at 30 and being wiser, probably will be a lot safer doing it so you can make it to your 50s and beyond!
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    Dec 29, 2009 6:54 PM GMT
    AlphaMaleGuy saidI think we have the experience to spread around. I know I do

    I'm 6 years older than you, my partner even more. All our experience is worn out. Somebody wants experience, let them read a book. icon_razz.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 29, 2009 7:00 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidI actually have a question for the older guys:

    I've been thinking about it lately and I don't feel that I used my 20s very wisely. Was always very goal-oriented, but didn't party much. Never had careless sex, orgies, etc... and now I'm expected to settle down when I feel like I've barely started.

    So, in hindsight, if your 20s are for partying, what's the most important thing guys should be doing in their 30s?

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    Finding a nice guy to settle down with, but hopefully the search is enjoyable as well and you make some good friends along the way.
  • masculumpedes

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    Dec 29, 2009 7:02 PM GMT
    um......what do you consider..."older"? icon_wink.gif
  • mellowmuscle

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    Dec 29, 2009 7:03 PM GMT
    Is there an older jock out there who can show me just how experienced he is? icon_wink.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Dec 29, 2009 7:05 PM GMT
    When I was young, I didn't have "it" but I definitely wanted it. When I became more mature, I had "it", but didn't know what to do with it. Now that I'm older, I don't even remember what "it" is.
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    Dec 29, 2009 7:10 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidSeaSon, the advantage of being goal oriented is that the later years provide more freedom (ie: retire early) I was goal oriented young and am eligible to retire at 55 (we'll see if I can afford it though). The disadvantage you've already noted....you miss the party time some. You can still have fun at 30 and being wiser, probably will be a lot safer doing it so you can make it to your 50s and beyond!

    I retired at 45, 15 years ago, and promptly started to party; haven't stopped yet. And I still wish I'd been able to do it even earlier, certainly wish I had come out gay a lot earlier, too.

    I suppose I'd have a lot more money if I'd kept my nose to the grindstone, after declining health ended my military career. So I had the opportunity to retire relatively early, and I took it, with no interest in beginning a second career all over again. Now my biggest challenge is deciding what fun thing to do next. On balance, I really have nothing to complain about. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Dec 29, 2009 7:15 PM GMT
    Partying is seriously over-rated, I don't remember much about my 20s as I spent most of it in clubs getting trashed. When I think of all the money and opportunities I wasted in the 1990s I could kick myself now.