Not a top.. Not a bottom either!

  • Leo123

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    Dec 30, 2009 5:10 AM GMT
    Anybody else in that situation?
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    Dec 30, 2009 6:57 AM GMT
    well yeah - but also both - Is that what you meant? Or do you mean just into vanilla sort of making out/cuddling/ mutual masturbation? 69?
    I mean if I'm turned on, I don't have all kinds of stipulations about what has to happen or who has to do what. Some of it depends on chemistry.
    Anyway I'm glad I'm not rigid about it.
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:27 PM GMT
    If you're not rigid about it you won't be playing top much
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:29 PM GMT
    A lot of gay guys aren't into intercourse, either. Frot can be a lot hotter than fucking, for sure.
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:38 PM GMT
    Im versitile, prefer to be top as my partners dick is quiet big and thick and its a mouth full (so to speak lol!)
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:45 PM GMT
    what the heck is FROT?
    i've had my share but don't know this one.

    anyway, to stay on topic- yes. both ways for me too, depending on the sexual chemistry. but if you've never bottomed, you don't know what a good thing you're missing. plus it can make you better at being a top
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    Dec 30, 2009 1:48 PM GMT
    Ron77 saidwhat the heck is FROT?
    i've had my share but don't know this one.

    anyway, to stay on topic- yes. both ways for me too, depending on the sexual chemistry. but if you've never bottomed, you don't know what a good thing you're missing. plus it can make you better at being a top


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  • rnch

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    Dec 30, 2009 2:33 PM GMT
    [quote]...Come on over, and I'll show you. icon_wink.gif[/quote] promises, promises.... icon_wink.gificon_twisted.gif
  • waltex

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    Dec 30, 2009 2:37 PM GMT
    I didn't fuck for the first few years I came out - then I realized how much I liked to be a top and haven't stopped - - - -
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 30, 2009 2:41 PM GMT
    I was for about 20 years. From the day I stop topping during my late twenty until I start bottoming in my mid 40's. I am considering to be a non fuck again since I cant find any top that can satisfy me.
  • rnch

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    Dec 30, 2009 3:10 PM GMT
    [quote]....Frot (hate that word) . But yes, I always find that men who quckly want to fuck kinda forget about all the other good things that make sex great.

    Anybody can fuck. Its strange. In some ways, fucking should be the most intimate act, but most men turn it into the most impersonal mechanical thing. When all a guy wants is for me to nail him all night, I get a little turned off. That usually means he's looking for fantasy, a performance and I don't like being treated like an object. I have feelings too mommy...LOL.

    Well, being treated like an object has its time and place, but I digress...icon_eek.gif

    But a guy who knows how to use everything he's got is the one that gets invited back to my bedroom.[/quote] EXCELLENT reply! young boys and Horny Husbands looking for Something Strange on the side want to fuck as soon as they meet you, mature, sensual men desire to Make Love. icon_cool.gif
  • a2507

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    Dec 30, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    Ron77 saidwhat the heck is FROT?
    i've had my share but don't know this one.

    anyway, to stay on topic- yes. both ways for me too, depending on the sexual chemistry. but if you've never bottomed, you don't know what a good thing you're missing. plus it can make you better at being a top


    "frot" as I understand it (do it ;-) involves one guy's dick between the thighs of the other.....if you've got well developed thighs, hold them tight together and lube up well, it's at least as tight as fucking pussy. you can do a guy from behind but face to face, his dick gets a good rub too. It's good too for tops who don't want to/can't give up their hole but wanna give their partner a ride.

    I kind of forgot about frot but I hooked up w/ a guy (a bit strange, a little simple) who didn't suck, didn't fuck, didn't kiss.....so humping and frot was about all that was left. I don't know that I'd do him again but working up to a nut, just making out turned out to be really hot and I look at it as a gift to be reminded of how hot this can be......as much as I like sucking and fucking.....that this is nice in the mix.
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    Dec 30, 2009 3:35 PM GMT
    I know how you feel.... I like foreplay better than sex.
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    Dec 30, 2009 3:45 PM GMT
    Ron77 saidwhat the heck is FROT?
    i've had my share but don't know this one.

    anyway, to stay on topic- yes. both ways for me too, depending on the sexual chemistry. but if you've never bottomed, you don't know what a good thing you're missing. plus it can make you better at being a top


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    Jan 04, 2010 3:50 AM GMT
    arent u guys talking about grinding? thats what i call it. Anyways i dont like Vers, i love being a bottom, never topped and its not happening.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
    I'm gonna agree on the foreplay comment. For me, the build-up is just as good (as quite frankly, sometimes better) than the act. I've also made a mental note of the "frotting". As disturbing as the word sounds, the definition is pretty hot. But to the OP, I feel like a neither most of the time. I'm content to supply whichever role my partner (if I had one icon_rolleyes.gif ) prefers.
  • canalpal

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    Jan 29, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    Let me go ahead and piss a few guys off here.

    In my world, romance is far more important than sex. In the gay world however, you won't get one with out the other, and 95% of the time, you will only get sex. So I've adapted a bit. there are lots of great things to do, without topping or bottoming, which is now only with guys I know well and who can flip roles in the middle of the night. Longer and better sex when it happens. So versatile I am, after you've proven you deserve it! lolicon_twisted.gif
  • jrs1

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    Jan 29, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    Ron77 saidwhat the heck is FROT?


    frot ... i.e., frottage ... layman's terms ... " dry humping. "
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    Jan 29, 2010 1:20 AM GMT
    lmao weeny wars
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    Jan 29, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    Ron77 saidwhat the heck is FROT?


    frot ... i.e., frottage ... layman's terms ... " dry humping. "



    Exactly...LMAO
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    Mar 13, 2010 9:52 PM GMT
    BLASPHEMY!!!!

    YOU MUST BE ONE OR THE OTHER!!!
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    Mar 13, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    I never understood sex either. As other have said, it's mechanical- a quick bam bam and it's over- gay or straight. How anyone can be good or bad in bed is beyond me. Is it all just about energy/enthusiasm?
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    Mar 13, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    egomaniac saidI never understood sex either. As other have said, it's mechanical- a quick bam bam and it's over- gay or straight. How anyone can be good or bad in bed is beyond me. Is it all just about energy/enthusiasm?


    hmmm. I think a lot of it really has to do with the level of "intimacy" and mutual chemistry. There have been "hot" guys I've connected with that I didn't necessarily have hot sex with, and then others that just bring out something... more bestial and sensual in me - at the same time. It can be utterly amazing.

    What also makes me hot is someone that isn't afraid to tell me what they want, but also listens and asks what I'm enjoying - and then modifies their/our position/behavior so we're both enjoying it together. If that's going on I'm capable of doing things I might not otherwise (like fucking). I don't generally enjoy fucking... but with the right person I really get into it. Generally speaking though, I'm much more oral/frottage than not... I'm a very tactile person and want to have lots of contact while engaged with my partner.

    I think a definition is in order here:

    frottage |frôˈtä zh |
    noun
    1 Art the technique or process of taking a rubbing from an uneven surface to form the basis of a work of art. • a work of art produced in this way.
    2 the practice of touching or rubbing against the clothed body of another person in a crowd as a means of obtaining sexual gratification.
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    Mar 13, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    Leo123 saidAnybody else in that situation?


    what does that make you then? a middle? a side? what else is left? icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 14, 2010 7:18 AM GMT
    Lol, it's not that complicated. A picture is worth a thousand words and whatnot:

    embrace.jpg

    (Hey, this is the adult section.)

    There's nothing "dry" about this once you get going.

    Frot is hot. icon_biggrin.gif