Children - to have or not to have?

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    Dec 30, 2009 6:01 PM GMT
    I'm sure this question has been posted before. So apologies if it comes across as redundant.

    Do you want children? Would you date someone with children?

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    Dec 30, 2009 10:10 PM GMT
    Don't want children
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:15 PM GMT
    I like children and would date someone with them. On my own I would not want to, but if it happened I would bear that responsibility.
  • scionguy

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    Dec 30, 2009 10:22 PM GMT
    I love kids, but my partner isn't a fan of kids younger than 10 or so. Adoption would be difficult for us legally due to DADT as he is still in the military.

    If the opportunity came up, I think we would be most inclined to take in a teen or at the very least I would like to help mentor youth.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:23 PM GMT
    I want biological children of my own eventually in my late 30s early 40s. I prefer not to date someone (man or woman) who already has children. But you never say never...
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:24 PM GMT
    Nope. Every now and then I think about it, but I got used to the idea of not having kids when I realised I was gay and I don't think I could change myself enough (read: be less selfish) to have kids. But I have have nephews and I love them to bits.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:31 PM GMT
    I hate kids...most of them.

    Never say never thoughicon_cool.gif
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:37 PM GMT
    Right now, no. But as the guy above me said "never say never". icon_eek.gif
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:38 PM GMT
    I have four adopted sons and wouldn't trade the choice I made for anything else in the world.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:40 PM GMT
    a_real_person saidI have four adopted sons and wouldn't trade the choice I made for anything else in the world.
    Wow, you are half of the brady bunch +1
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:43 PM GMT
    Have 3 already, done raising kids. Now it's time for me. How selfish is that? Well, not that selfish since I'm still helping the 3 I have so the 'time for me' will have to wait a little longer....damn, I love those kids! LOL
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:44 PM GMT
    Not. Being gay is nature's way of creating a stop-gap for overpopulation.

    That, and I friggin' hate kids.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:46 PM GMT
    I LOVE kids!!

    .............barbecued
    (just kidding)

    I always thought I'd have kids... I don't know anymore. I love them and would love to be a good father more than anything but I don't know if I will have the opportunity. If I can't do it the way I feel I need to I won't do it at all.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:50 PM GMT
    Never want kids. I don't have the instinct or feeling for them. They dont fit in to my E! true hollywood story.
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    Dec 30, 2009 10:59 PM GMT
    I don't want kids at this moment...but who knows how I'll feel 10 years from now? I'm open to the idea that I might want them one day...but if not I plan to save the $ I would be spending raising kids for a hot nurse/houseboy to take care of me in my old age icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 30, 2009 11:02 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidI don't want kids at this moment...but who knows how I'll feel 10 years from now? I'm open to the idea that I might want them one day...but if not I plan to save the $ I would be spending raising kids for a hot nurse/houseboy to take care of me in my old age icon_lol.gif
    OH, I like your thinking! Note to self, start saving!
  • zakariahzol

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    Dec 30, 2009 11:34 PM GMT
    Not possible where I live. I cant penetrated a women, I cant adopt. Not much choice isnt it.
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:22 AM GMT
    Yes and depends ...
  • Bunjamon

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    Dec 31, 2009 2:32 AM GMT
    I'd love to have kids someday. This world needs well-raised, open-minded, well-educated young people to take over someday, and I think I'd be a pretty good parent.
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:32 AM GMT
    Sometimes I think I do, sometimes I think I don't. icon_confused.gif I have nieces and nephews and I love them to death but sometimes I see other people's kids and some brats out and about and the idea of kids doesn't entice me that much. Overall I probably lean towards wanting kinds especially because I come from a big family but I guess only time will tell.
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:36 AM GMT
    It might be nice to have a child or two when I'm older (around 40 perhaps.) I'll probably be the kind of a dad that says something like "I'm not your friend, I'm your father!" lol

    The word "family" sounds nice especially during the holidays. icon_smile.gif
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:42 AM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidNot. Being gay is nature's way of creating a stop-gap for overpopulation.

    That, and I friggin' hate kids.


    ha.


    I hate kids too.
    And as bad as this might sound- I don't know if I could handle raising an ugly child. I'd also resent it for being born in a more accepting era.
    ...maybe adoption.
  • tbone25

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    Dec 31, 2009 2:45 AM GMT
    I really hope I have the opportunity to be a father... not sure how or when, but I do hope so. I'm pretty confident that I'd be good at it.

    We work so hard in our lives, school, career, promotions etc... but all of that is forgotten in the end. Think of what is put on tombstones. A hundred years from now, I doubt anyone will care if I have my PhD or at maybe even when I die, that matters very little. What's on the tombstones is the most important stuff.

    "Son" and "Brother" is all I got so far, but I hope to add "husband" and "father" and maybe even "grandfather"... Who knows?
  • creature

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    Dec 31, 2009 2:57 AM GMT
    I want at least 3 children.
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:59 AM GMT
    Maybe if I were with the right guy. It's hard to say. The good thing about having kids is that it forces you to give up the innate selfishness we all have. It's no longer all about us, which I think is a very healthy thing.

    On the flip side for me, my job takes me away (although I'd give that up for the right guy to settle down with, or wouldn't have to for the right guy anyway). And I'm not so sure I want to bring kids into the world that they're going to inherit, and as an environmental scientist, I have a unique perspective on that.

    So, who knows? I'll check off the "maybe" column. Otherwise I'll just put my nieces and nephews through college instead.