Are you proud of being virgin??

  • pixel

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    Dec 31, 2009 6:51 AM GMT
    I am virgin and really proud of it... what about you?

    BTW...I never have a bf and gf as I am not interested in relationship and sex. Hehe
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    Dec 31, 2009 1:14 PM GMT
    I want to give the opposite side of the story.

    I came out whe I was 15 and I did not have sex until the time was right and I met the right guy. I met my first boyfriend when I was 19. I was glad I waited...
  • DarkSensation

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    Dec 31, 2009 1:20 PM GMT
    When I was a Virgin 4 years ago, I was actually Proud of that. icon_cool.gif
    After having Sex, I have found how Silly I was to hold up something so Good and Pleasurable. icon_biggrin.gif
    In Fact now a day, I wish that I had lost my virginity way younger, like when I was 16 or something icon_neutral.gif
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    Dec 31, 2009 1:21 PM GMT
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    I lost my virginity (willingly) at 13 to a hot older man (23) and never looked back. Been a great life.
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    Dec 31, 2009 2:56 PM GMT
    Absolutely! icon_biggrin.gif

    Well my ass is!
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    Dec 31, 2009 3:16 PM GMT
    If one is proud, one is proud; we should just agree that one should not be ashamed nor look down on those who are.

    Sexuality is a unique social function that has no norms.
  • extravagrind

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    Dec 31, 2009 3:19 PM GMT
    this question has been asked 4 year lateicon_sad.gif
  • Melos

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    Dec 31, 2009 3:23 PM GMT
    I was one of the later ones (or so I think) to lose mine. When I was a virgin, I never really thought that I needed it that much. Things were great as they were. I was really busy and poor, being in school. My hand didn't cost me any extra money or time, like a gf or bf would, so I was golden. icon_razz.gif

    Then once you do have great sex for the first time, you can never imagine life without it. It creates sensations like nothing else ever will. The only things that have come close (and are fitting enough to be only be described as orgasmic) have been a few pasta dishes and some steaks I've had. Mmmmm steak...
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    Dec 31, 2009 6:32 PM GMT
    I'd say if you're proud of being a virgin that's all fine and good. And more power to you. Frankly, if a few more gay guys out there weren't so quick to hop in bed with the first guy that comes along, maybe there would be a few less dysfunctional fags out there wondering why they can't find the "right guy."

    That being said, I don't have any problems with casual sex either as long as...
    1) you both understand you're just in it for the fun of it
    2) you don't expect anything afterward
    3) if you're in a relationship already, your partner is OK with it and you're not trying to hide it all from him
    4) you're mature enough to handle it

    I guess my question for you is how the hell can you claim you're not interested in guys if you're surfing a blatantly gay website? I'd say you need to get real with yourself and figure out what you really want.
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    Jan 01, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    I a still Virgin, or thats what i think, i havent get any bf yet, i accept myself gay now that i am 20, thats why i am here xD, but one time i did it with my cuzin, just oral, i dunno if that count as virgin, but now i dont even know where to find a boyfried, people in USA are so lucky...when i finish my university, i will go work in USA and i hope i find the right guy for me, i really need one now...but noone seems to be interested on me....
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 02, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    If you don't have sex, you're a fucked up idiot. That's all. NEXT!
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    Jan 02, 2010 5:15 AM GMT
    I tell every guy I've ever met after the first, "You are my first. I swear! I broke my hymen when I was young while horseback riding."
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    Jan 02, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    You're profile says you're 32.... virgin at 32? icon_rolleyes.gif I'm sorry, it just doesn't seem right.
    I understand that sometimes it is good to do it with a person you love and maybe you haven't found that guy yet, but there is nothing wrong with having sex just to please your own personal needs... it is actually a good thing. I would have probably gone insane if I were you.

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    Jan 02, 2010 4:52 PM GMT
    i dont think u should be proud or ashamed of being a virgin, ur sex life is YOUR sex life it doesnt have an impact on other people.

    -speaking as a born again virgin
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    Jan 04, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    lonely20 said one time i did it with my cuzin, just oral, i dunno if that count as virgin



    What is this?? Wincest?!?!
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    Jan 04, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    I am a virgin but sometimes i get so hot and horny i dont know what to do and when that happens i wish someone would just do me lol
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    Jan 04, 2010 11:45 PM GMT
    I'm kind of proud of it, kind of not...

    I mean, a 21 year old virgin's kind of pathetic in a way, but at the same time, I'm kind of proud of the fact that I don't just go around sleeping with people all the time.

    Granted, people would probably wanna sleep with me in the first place.... S'all a balance, I suppose, haha!
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    Jan 05, 2010 12:00 AM GMT
    RowBuddy saidYou are a virgin as long as you pretend to act like one.


    So....

    Who wants my flower?


    Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go powder my newly pure nether regions!
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    Jan 05, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    Catboy saidyes and No.


    I did experiment with a few guys, but I always stopped myself from going over the boundry of sex. When it got to that point, I stopped until I got to know them better. Im glad I did because none of them wanted to have relationship.


    Being a virgin has pros and cons.

    Pros:
    You did not sleep witha total stranger
    You do not give in to peer pressure
    You want a relationship, not a hookup
    less chance of getting STDS


    Cons:
    Less sexually experienced in anal, but experienced in oral, kissing, etc.
    May alienate some potential gay dates because they may not want virgins
    May be taken advantage by men who pretend to want a relationship but then dump u right after sex
    Some may believe your a prude or never going to have sex with them so they do not bother dating you at all.
    Hormones are raging all the time become hard to control


    The last one is the hardest for me. When you draw a line in the sand, there is always a chance you will break it. Sometimes I get so fed up with trying to find that right person that I may just give in and sleep with a total random stranger. My hormones are very active and any touch even a kiss arouses me to the point I might explode. I mean as a virgin your sensitivity to physical contact increases exponentially. So it gets harder as you age because there comes a point when it will happen and you hope that the person will last at least 6 to 12 months, which rarely happens.
    Seems like you put a lot of thought into that post. I commend you for that.

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    Jan 07, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    Snowlost_Rex saidI'm kind of proud of it, kind of not...

    I mean, a 21 year old virgin's kind of pathetic in a way, but at the same time, I'm kind of proud of the fact that I don't just go around sleeping with people all the time.



    Thats called a whore xD, i am the king of guy who want a real relationship, i am not looking for sex..so i hope i find it someday in my life x_x, i kinda wana hug, grab a hand, does things, i havent do that yet...i want to expres myself =(
  • coolarmydude

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    Jan 07, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    I don't get the whole notion of using virginity as something to be proud of. It's just a level of sexual experience. People are wired differently when it comes to sexual libido. To presume pride in virginity is to wrongly imply that a sexually promiscuous person has less character than you. People are more sexual than others and are really good at it. So what!
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    Jan 07, 2010 5:48 PM GMT
    pixel saidI am virgin and really proud of it... what about you?

    BTW...I never have a bf and gf as I am not interested in relationship and sex. Hehe



    You're a virgin because you're not interested in a relationship or sex. This is so totally different then "holding out for the right one," or "holding out for marriage." I would equate it with being so proud that you're a vegetarian... but it's only because you're allergic to meat.

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    Jan 07, 2010 6:03 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidI don't get the whole notion of using virginity as something to be proud of. It's just a level of sexual experience. People are wired differently when it comes to sexual libido. To presume pride in virginity is to wrongly imply that a sexually promiscuous person has less character than you. People are more sexual than others and are really good at it. So what!


    I agree with this for the most part. I consider myself very sexually inexperienced. Not by choice mind you, just the way the cards have been dealt. I have not been with many guys at all. And only sexually intimate with a couple. That makes me a little apprehensive and sexually awkward at times, especially at my age. But I truly believe we, as a society (U.S.) have some serious sexual hang-ups and trepidations. Definitely not my job to say if that's good or bad, it is what it is.

    I "feel" like a virgin when I do manage to get close to a guy. And personally, I don't like it! icon_neutral.gif I wish a had a little more experience under my belt, so to speak. But live and learn. I got the living thing down, just need to work on the learning part.

    Suffice to say, if your virginity is something you pride yourself on, then by all means, wave a flag. I'd rather retire my flag at this point.
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    Jan 07, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    NCemtOBX said
    coolarmydude saidI don't get the whole notion of using virginity as something to be proud of. It's just a level of sexual experience. People are wired differently when it comes to sexual libido. To presume pride in virginity is to wrongly imply that a sexually promiscuous person has less character than you. People are more sexual than others and are really good at it. So what!


    I agree with this for the most part. I consider myself very sexually inexperienced. Not by choice mind you, just the way the cards have been dealt. I have not been with many guys at all. And only sexually intimate with a couple. That makes me a little apprehensive and sexually awkward at times, especially at my age. But I truly believe we, as a society (U.S.) have some serious sexual hang-ups and trepidations. Definitely not my job to say if that's good or bad, it is what it is.

    I "feel" like a virgin when I do manage to get close to a guy. And personally, I don't like it! icon_neutral.gif I wish a had a little more experience under my belt, so to speak. But live and learn. I got the living thing down, just need to work on the learning part.

    Suffice to say, if your virginity is something you pride yourself on, then by all means, wave a flag. I'd rather retire my flag at this point.



    PICK ME, PICK ME! wait... I have a boyfriend.

    PICK ME, PICK ME! wait... you live so far away.

    never mind.

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    Jan 07, 2010 7:19 PM GMT
    NCemtOBX said
    coolarmydude saidI don't get the whole notion of using virginity as something to be proud of. It's just a level of sexual experience. People are wired differently when it comes to sexual libido. To presume pride in virginity is to wrongly imply that a sexually promiscuous person has less character than you. People are more sexual than others and are really good at it. So what!


    I agree with this for the most part. I consider myself very sexually inexperienced. Not by choice mind you, just the way the cards have been dealt. I have not been with many guys at all. And only sexually intimate with a couple. That makes me a little apprehensive and sexually awkward at times, especially at my age. But I truly believe we, as a society (U.S.) have some serious sexual hang-ups and trepidations. Definitely not my job to say if that's good or bad, it is what it is.

    I "feel" like a virgin when I do manage to get close to a guy. And personally, I don't like it! icon_neutral.gif I wish a had a little more experience under my belt, so to speak. But live and learn. I got the living thing down, just need to work on the learning part.

    Suffice to say, if your virginity is something you pride yourself on, then by all means, wave a flag. I'd rather retire my flag at this point.


    Ive recently just started a physical relationship with a guy, my first. The "virgin" card isn't something to be worn as a badge of honour. It just is, what it is. For some guys, there has been no opportunity or they havent allowed themselves (me) to connect this way with another man.

    I agree with much of what NCemtOBX has said. The awkwardness did melt away tho as we discussed what we were doing, and my partner knew he was my first guy. Im "old" too by gay-world standards. Maybe we can start a club for the truly late bloomers.

    Most of us have slept with women, doesnt that eliminate virgin status? Or is vag too repulsive for the realjocks here on RJ?