Comparing the men in your life

  • cityguy39

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    May 13, 2007 5:02 PM GMT
    How many of you guys compare the men in your life i.e the new boyfriend compared to the old boyfriend, relatives etc. I make an effort not compare relationships or guys, it's not wise or fare to the other guy, but I think on some levels it happens form time to time. What do you guys think.
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    May 13, 2007 5:08 PM GMT
    oh nooooo, i never do that 'cause i don't want to get black eyes from the new bf.
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    May 13, 2007 7:18 PM GMT
    we shouldn't, but we are human. I feel its okay to do that as long as your current love interest doesnt have to deal with the comparison. He should be in a league of his own.
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    May 13, 2007 7:33 PM GMT
    If you can't stop comparing one person against the next, you'll never have time to be happy with what you've got.
  • GQjock

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    May 13, 2007 7:33 PM GMT
    ...oh we do it all the time
    ....just never the hell out loud :)
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    May 14, 2007 10:46 AM GMT
    I don't think I've ever done it (at least not to my recollection at the moment), to be honest. Probably because if a relationship ends I understand it ends for a reason and I no longer linger on the details of it.
  • cityguy39

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    May 14, 2007 1:14 PM GMT
    I think sometimes we may compare guys on a level we might not be aware of. GQ you said a mouthfull!!!!! lol
  • SoDakGuy

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    May 14, 2007 3:59 PM GMT
    I always compared every guy to my first boyfriend.

    If they are evil/messy/dramatic/embarrassing/repulsive as the first one ... then I drop them like a bad habit.
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    May 14, 2007 4:12 PM GMT
    no wonder you bald
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    May 14, 2007 6:37 PM GMT
    i'd say anyone who claims they don't compare on some level is not being very honest with themselves. ;)

    it's only natural, yeah?

    i think it's healthy, too... as me move ahead in life we learn more about what we want, what we don't, what works and what doesn't.

    without taking advantage of past reference, it's hard to move forward.

    peace out, punks! :)

    jonny
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    Aug 03, 2015 8:04 PM GMT
    cityguy39 saidHow many of you guys compare the men in your life i.e the new boyfriend compared to the old boyfriend, relatives etc. I make an effort not compare relationships or guys, it's not wise or fare to the other guy, but I think on some levels it happens form time to time. What do you guys think.


    It has been 8 years. Updates?
  • HottJoe

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    Aug 03, 2015 8:09 PM GMT
    Legend4Lube said
    cityguy39 saidHow many of you guys compare the men in your life i.e the new boyfriend compared to the old boyfriend, relatives etc. I make an effort not compare relationships or guys, it's not wise or fare to the other guy, but I think on some levels it happens form time to time. What do you guys think.


    It has been 8 years. Updates?

    He shouldn't compare his life now to his life 8 years ago...icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 03, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    I don't compare my ex between each other persay, but I do sometimes think about some aspects among my past relationships, just to see if I consider some improvements on my current at the moment.

    I find it important to learn from my past, and try not to repeat some mistakes or patterns I identified as 'bad'.
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    Aug 03, 2015 8:18 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    Legend4Lube said
    cityguy39 saidHow many of you guys compare the men in your life i.e the new boyfriend compared to the old boyfriend, relatives etc. I make an effort not compare relationships or guys, it's not wise or fare to the other guy, but I think on some levels it happens form time to time. What do you guys think.


    It has been 8 years. Updates?

    He shouldn't compare his life now to his life 8 years ago...icon_confused.gif


    Well, we should ask him.
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    Aug 03, 2015 8:30 PM GMT
    We should celebrate uniqueness so I never compare one guy to another. Instead I compare a guy to what I think is his potential and then I change him so that he winds up exactly like my last guy: leaving me for no good reason, those bitches!