tall guys

  • LatinoJock100

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    Jan 03, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    I am 6'3 and considered very attractive but shy guy. I don't have an attitude that you normally find at clubs but everytime I go out it is hard for me to find guys. I think since I am tall they might be intimated by my height or looks. I was wondering if other tall guys have the same problem as me.
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    Jan 03, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    I'm 6'2" (which I still don't think is very tall since I would be considered short in the NBA, lol) and I used to have your problem. I'm also not an aggressive dater. I'm not really "shy" but I'm also not one of those Wolf Guys scoping for prey and then attacking.

    So when I finally started going to bars/clubs in 2009 I would just stand around and not meet anyone at all, I'd just get stared at by a lot of "hungry" men. Turns out that since I was tall, masculine and attractive there was an assumption that I was a Top and I was supposed to do the approaching to any Bottoms that I was interested in. The whole gender roles thing (ugh).

    I was new to it all, so I followed suit and sure enough, I started meeting folks. Liquid courage did the trick in the beginning...but having low expectations ended up being the ultimate way I got over the shyness. Now if a guy I hit on seems not interested in me and my height, I just move on...My world is not crushed, there's usually another guy coming up right behind him that is interested...
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    Jan 03, 2010 5:02 PM GMT
    im 6'1.....which is quite tall for Scottish guys....with great height comes great responsibility....u can never hide or blend in...but being tall, handsome and hung...wee lets just say it has its benefits....icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif...seriously though...in fitness terms taller people have a hrader time bulking..lookin big verses the shorter guys.
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    Jan 03, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    there was a guy behind me in line at Best Buy that was 6-5 or 6-6 and SOOO hot!!
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    Jan 03, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    I'm 6' 21/2" (holding fiercely to that half inch - we shrink as we age.) It took me years to embrace and become comfortable with my height. And what I eventually learned is that people do expect you to be more assertive when you're taller. If you can play the game, it's fun. Sometimes now, in work, business or social situations, I'll pull myself up to my full height for the intimidation factor - and it works! Most time though, I just don't think about it. In truth, confidence is way more important than height. As a friend says, everyone's the same height lying down. It does seem though that everyone on this site is 5'10". (my height in the 8th grade...)
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    Jan 03, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    elchavocute, you have no stats on your profile, not even a body picture. It's hard to give any advice. You say it's your height, but what if it's something else?

    Are you skinny? Are you fat? Height alone is very little information.
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    Jan 03, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    icon_biggrin.gif I love tall men! When a tall attractive man comes up to me my knees usually get weak , but i got to play it cool you know ...lol
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    Jan 03, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    Yeah I get that too. 6'4" here, most figure I have a line out my door. Next!! Not the case however, just reserved here and not real outgoing so that's another thing they think I am stuck up and aloof! HA!! The games we play...
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    Jan 03, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    I'm 6-1 and was average sized in Kansas City...but when I moved to South Florida with the Latin and Northeastern folk, I'm a giant and people have actually asked me 'how the weather was up there?' It's all perspective I guess
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 03, 2010 10:15 PM GMT
    i am 6'3 and most people are intimidated by me because of my size. I feel ya.
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    Jan 03, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    I'm 5.6 tall and I find tall guys are attracted to me, I'm attracted to height.weight proportionate guys
  • phill

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    Jan 04, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    im dating a dude who is 6"4' and he seems rather gregarious and knows a lot of the men folk. I think that he often takes a seat when meeting people or invites them in some how. im 6"1' myself. It really is a matter of personality rather than height but what came first the height or the shyness because of the height.
  • bigtallguy

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    Jan 04, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    height is just a state of mind.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    didnt someone once say we are all the same height laying down?

    btw Im 6'5"
  • He_Man

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    Jan 04, 2010 5:35 AM GMT
    This is a really good thread because I have given the topic much thought. I am really open when it comes to men of different ethnic backgrounds and skin color. I am open when it comes to men and education, social status, and careers. For some reason, though, I am pretty picky about the height issue. I am 5' 11'', and I like guys who are within a couple of inches of my height. I guess that means anywhere from 5'8'' to 6'2".

    I want someone I can be eye-to-eye with and mouth-to-mouth with. I do not want to have to bend over just to kiss someone, and I do not want to have to do calf raises just to kiss someone, either.

    I would not say that I am intimidated by taller guys because I am not. I am just not really attracted to really short or really tall guys, which boils down to personal preference.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    Would anyone over 6'2 give me a chance or am i to short at 5'4 and i am barely 5'4 with shoes on.
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    Jan 04, 2010 6:20 AM GMT
    I have, on occasion, been attracted to much taller and bigger guys. Generally I tend to go for guys closer to my height, but sometimes it's been nice to be with a much bigger guy and just have him envelope me... like a hot man-blanket. A long while back I remember a super-hot Norwegian guy who was very nordic looking, super muscular and utterly sweet. He just loved to hold me... and who was I to resist? icon_wink.gif

    I've no doubt there's plenty of "smaller" guys that are very much liked by bigger guys and vice-versa. But breaking the ice can be tricky - particularly in a loud bar or party. My advice? Invite them to sit down with you!
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    Jan 04, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    I have had the same problem as you (btw 6'7" here) but I have also been told that its because I have a giant "f*** you" stamped on my forehead. I think for some people its a height/intimidation factor, another is people just seem to be drawn to more outgoing people. If you're like me and just hang with a few people you know never really engaging others, then other people probably aren't going to try and engage you. But hey, that's all just how things are with me.
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    Jan 04, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    I'm 6'3"... pretty tall overall and definitely tall for DC gays. I do think it affects people's perceptions of you and is probably associated with being less likely to be chatted up if the person feels small in comparison or something. I like guys around my height... 5'10 - 6'4". If they are a lot taller its odd, because I'm used to being the tallest one in the room icon_smile.gificon_eek.gif
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    Jan 04, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    elchavocute said I am 6'3 and considered very attractive but shy guy. I don't have an attitude that you normally find at clubs but everytime I go out it is hard for me to find guys. I think since I am tall they might be intimated by my height or looks. I was wondering if other tall guys have the same problem as me.


    I completely agree with you. When I see taller guys at a club, I instantly assume they are not interested in dating someone shorter (such as me, at 5'8 ). I do not have confidence issues, it's more a game of statistics, most gay guys at clubs- especially here in San Diego with a large latino population- are between 5'2-5'11, the few guys that are over 6'1-6'4 are always noticeable and "rare". So to me, I have a hard time approaching a tall guy, even if I'm more attracted to taller, and end up talking to a someone under 6'.

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  • HorrorHound

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    Jan 04, 2010 6:31 AM GMT
    I , too, am tall - & have the same problem as well from time to time.....
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    Jan 04, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    I'm 6'1 but no one would say I'm intimidating. It is strange when I've met friends with whom I've talked to quite a bit before meeting in person are always surprised by my height even if I told them it. I think its cause I'm not aggressive at all and they expect me to be smaller or something.
  • bigtallguy

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    Jan 04, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
    chris8787 saidWould anyone over 6'2 give me a chance or am i to short at 5'4 and i am barely 5'4 with shoes on.


    I'd totally do you.
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    Jan 04, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    At 6'6 I can definitely say that guys are intimidated by a taller built guy. But I would say anything around 6' is pretty common these days... you just gotta find the taller guys!
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    Jan 04, 2010 7:30 AM GMT
    bigtallguy said
    chris8787 saidWould anyone over 6'2 give me a chance or am i to short at 5'4 and i am barely 5'4 with shoes on.


    I'd totally do you.


    thank you icon_smile.gif