what's everyones take on hooking up with the "straight" guy. im in a pickle :/

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    Jan 04, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    So there's this guy who is 19. total rebel without a cause. the badboy whose into UFC beer, bitches, bros. i hangout with a wide variety of crowds, but i never figured, but did wish lol, that he would be "curious" so to speak. he asked he to sleep with him and now im kinda like hmmmm do you mess around with a curious straight guy whose totally confident about simply being curious and wanting to try it or not. mind you hes extremely good looking, awesome body, and poetically charming with his unexpected ambivalence.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:25 AM GMT
    i need sum advice
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    If he's willing, and you think you can do it with no strings attached, I don't see why not.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:26 AM GMT
    Is he serious? Is he a close friend? Can you afford to loose him as a friend?
    If you answer yes to these, go ahead and sleep with him. Let him make all of the first moves to satisfy his curiosity...if he asks for you to do more be very aware if he starts to change his mind or freaks out........this can be a great moment of a very bad moment, be careful how you choose....icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    I feel that every situation, and every person is unique.

    If you feel that he is strictly curious, and you are comfortable exploring the curiosity of this friend, GO FOR IT!

    But, sex can add something for a friendship that you may not want. You seem smart enough to examine the situation yourself. It's very unique to your relationship, not every situation is the same.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    well hes not that close of a friend. if experimentating ended our friendship for whatever reason(s) i honestly wouldnt be very concerned. i just dont want to get attached because hes quite the addiction
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    since he's been so bluntly forward and asked to experiment with you, then go for it, just let him take the lead a little and when he gets hesitant of what to do, you direct him.

    he might just want a blow job haha
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidsince he's been so bluntly forward and asked to experiment with you, then go for it, just let him take the lead a little and when he gets hesitant of what to do, you direct him.

    he might just want a blow job haha



    he actually wants to bottom icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    khill saidSo there's this guy who is 19. total rebel without a cause. the badboy whose into UFC beer, bitches, bros. i hangout with a wide variety of crowds, but i never figured, but did wish lol, that he would be "curious" so to speak. he asked he to sleep with him and now im kinda like hmmmm do you mess around with a curious straight guy whose totally confident about simply being curious and wanting to try it or not. mind you hes extremely good looking, awesome body, and poetically charming with his unexpected ambivalence.


    I'm going to give you some valuable advice and a warning. Have you ever heard of homophobic rage? Straight guys want to mess around, then get angry for doing it, then punch you out and maybe do worse. You have no clue what this guy may be like.

    I would avoid it to be honest.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
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    khill saidSo there's this guy who is 19. total rebel without a cause. the badboy whose into UFC beer, bitches, bros. i hangout with a wide variety of crowds, but i never figured, but did wish lol, that he would be "curious" so to speak. he asked he to sleep with him and now im kinda like hmmmm do you mess around with a curious straight guy whose totally confident about simply being curious and wanting to try it or not. mind you hes extremely good looking, awesome body, and poetically charming with his unexpected ambivalence.


    I'm going to give you some valuable advice and a warning. Have you ever heard of homophobic rage? Straight guys want to mess around, then get angry for doing it, then punch you out and maybe do worse. You have no clue what this guy may be like.

    I would avoid it to be honest.




    o no no no. absolutely not. he isnt homophobic by any means. everyone knows im bi n all of my friends are acceptable of it. besides, i would kick his ass if anything
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:48 AM GMT
    Have him watch gay movie or something with you. Figure out how uncomfortable he is. See if he'll kiss you. Bad boys are attractive but they can say one thing, and then all of a sudden, in the middle of their passion, realize they are acting gay and then stab you to death.

    Just sayin. How well do you know this person?
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    ive known him for over 6 yrs now lol
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    he told me that the main thing is that he doesnt know anyone whom he can do it with n keep it dl besides me
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    wrestlervic saidHave him watch gay movie or something with you. Figure out how uncomfortable he is. See if he'll kiss you. Bad boys are attractive but they can say one thing, and then all of a sudden, in the middle of their passion, realize they are acting gay and then stab you to death.

    Just sayin. How well do you know this person?

    Good lord, think the worst or what.. the majority of heteros aren't like that at all.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    It can be a messy situation playing w/ a friend. Sometimes it complicates things. Your both adults and as long as you communicate like it all bets are for you.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:28 AM GMT
    khill said
    lilTanker saidsince he's been so bluntly forward and asked to experiment with you, then go for it, just let him take the lead a little and when he gets hesitant of what to do, you direct him.

    he might just want a blow job haha



    he actually wants to bottom icon_smile.gif

    Well ride his cute little arse and make him squirm haha

    Seriously, if he's told you he wants too, told you what he wants and then told you he wants to keep it quiet, he's put a little more thought into it then your average straight asking on a whim (usually a drunkin whim at that)

    he seems open to talking, so talk to him, tell him what it'll be like, let him know what you expect, I mean, do you expect to get head, you gonna rim him or want him to rim you? kissing involved? how with ya both cum, stuff like that..

    Lay it out clearly for each other and don't make demands and don't laugh at anything he says, a smile is fun but laughing will probably kill it for him.

    I've had a few straight mates come to me to experiment and they've mostly turned out fine (I lost one mate, but I later found out he had a few emotional problems I hadn't picked up on it unfortunately and it turned out badly) however besides that one time, the rest have all been great and we've remained friends ,I don't talk about it with anyone but the person it happened with and I don't obsess about it either, it's a little fun with a mate and his curiosity..

    Just something to be warned about, guys can be curious and will sometimes come back for more, not because they are gay but because they did enjoy the feeling, I mean, it's not like straight guys are any anatomically different from gay guys right, we all have a prostate, we all have a cock, a mouth, strength and all that good stuff... him possibly coming back for more doesn't make him gay, it just makes him curious and enjoyable.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    A friend of mine got gay bashed after doing exactly what you are considering doing.
    Some bisexual guys carry a lot of guilt about wanting to have sex with men.
    Play it safe(r), and fuck a gay man.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    From what I have read here, I'd say fuck the shit out of him^^!
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    khill saidSo there's this guy who is 19. total rebel without a cause. the badboy whose into UFC beer, bitches, bros. i hangout with a wide variety of crowds, but i never figured, but did wish lol, that he would be "curious" so to speak. he asked he to sleep with him and now im kinda like hmmmm do you mess around with a curious straight guy whose totally confident about simply being curious and wanting to try it or not. mind you hes extremely good looking, awesome body, and poetically charming with his unexpected ambivalence.


    Been there, done that. Obviously he feels safe with you, asking you to do it. So do it. You may be his one and only experience, or he may branch out, or may keep wanting to do it some more.

    Just be safe, careful, don't get emotionally attached, and stay his bud.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    khill saidhe told me that the main thing is that he doesnt know anyone whom he can do it with n keep it dl besides me



    Well now...it isn't on the "DL" anymore, now is it? Not since you decided to post this thread. It wouldn't take much sleuthing to find out where you are (UFC) and what classes you attend (UFC)<--get the point??... with the 'curious straight guy'.....at least not enough to keep the rumor-mongers from saying "I think "curious straight guy is "X" from my dorm" and starting all sorts of trouble for someone. Including you.
    I'd advise against doing anything with him until you let him read this post and only THEN if he feels sufficiently comfortable with it.
    Unless you really want an ass-whipping. Or shot or stabbed.
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    omg do it now! just dont get attached. but have fun!!! woot woot!
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:57 PM GMT
    Jimbos last sentence sums it up nicely, no need to say more. with that in mind, go for it icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 04, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    The fact you are seeking views from this thread is positive and smart.
    He approached you. He wants to explore and is curious. Talk straight with him, know what he and you want. Since he approached you, you have control of the situation. Two heads are better than one. Keep them both engaged man.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    khill said
    lilTanker saidsince he's been so bluntly forward and asked to experiment with you, then go for it, just let him take the lead a little and when he gets hesitant of what to do, you direct him.

    he might just want a blow job haha



    he actually wants to bottom icon_smile.gif


    After he has sex with you and likes it, he may realize that he is not so str8 and is gay or bi.
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    Jan 04, 2010 5:11 PM GMT
    A lot of curious guys are actually bi and just don't want to admit it. I have a friend. that is this way. He insists he is str8 and yet I know he hooks up with guys, too, once in awhile. I told him he is not str8 or he wouldn't hook up with guys, but he still insists that he is str8. All I said is, "If you say so, ok." icon_smile.gif