Dating a guy that's never dated a guy

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    Jan 06, 2008 8:53 PM GMT
    I met an amazing guy who's five years my senior and is cool as hell. I'm 21 and he's 26. I went to a club and struck up a conversation (it was both our first time going to a club alone).

    We went back to his place and listened to music, talked and he told me that he's dated women before but recently realized that he may be gay. I told him that I was in very much the same situation. We hit it off great and before I knew it we were making out on his couch.

    He slipped his hands into my pants and I did the same. It was great - and we ended up going up to his room where we fooled around, but didn't finish. I told him that I didn't want to finish because I was looking to date and not just hookup.

    He said he understood and I left my number. Got a text two days later, and so far it seems pretty promising.

    My only concern - did I hookup too soon and ruin the possibility of a relationship?
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    Jan 07, 2008 1:09 AM GMT
    hmm, depends, not knowing the exact specifics I can't say either way 100%
    However, I'd hazard a guess of no, you haven't done any damage.

    Having said that, be open and honest with him about what you are looking for, let him know you aren't just a cock that walks and grunts.

    But above all else, enjoy the moment and the experience, there all over far to fast, a night, a week, a month or a year is never long enough.
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    Jan 07, 2008 3:21 AM GMT
    Props to you man for stopping and having some self-control. I think he has to respect that. It would have been far to easy to finish and then say that.. but then the actions don't back the words.

    Let us know how it goes.
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    Jan 09, 2008 2:40 PM GMT
    I don't think you ruined your chances at all, you were both on the same page and did what you both felt comfortable doing at the time. It's good you had self restraint and made it clear that to go further you want a relationship. If he is with you on that sentiment it sounds like a pretty promising journey. Best of luck =)
  • GQjock

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    Jan 10, 2008 11:44 AM GMT
    Nope... he texted you didn't he?
    so if you had f**ked it up you wouldn't have heard hide nor hair from this guy
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    Jan 10, 2008 6:07 PM GMT
    I think I may have fucked up! He did text me last Saturday but when I asked who he was, he stopped texting and just got weird. I think he thought maybe I didn't know who he was because I was talking to other guys, which definitely wasn't the case...just didn't have his number.

    I also texted him two days ago and told him I was thinking about him and got no response. icon_sad.gif

    What the hell should I do? I'm never going to find a b/f. icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 10, 2008 9:31 PM GMT
    First, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. If it is meant to happen for you then it will. Trying to force it, which it seems like you are doing a bit (by texting him you were thinking about him), can only intimidate him and drive him away. I got a boyfriend when I stopped looking for one. Every guy you meet may have no chance of being your bf, much less ever seeing them ever again. Just relax, meet more people, get used to dating, and you'll meet someone right.
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    Jan 10, 2008 10:10 PM GMT
    college you dont wanna seem to anxious and scare him off. give it a few days and text again or contact him online? and be very casual and nice about it, but not like i loooooove you hehe.
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Jan 14, 2008 2:17 AM GMT
    I don't think you hurt a thing. You are 21. Have some nice clean fun. You sound like a young man with a good head on his shoulders. Personally I think at 21 you should fall head over heals, get hurt jump in again etc. You will find the right guy but you may have to kiss a lot of toads before you find that prince. Good luck, be safe. I am remembering how exciting it was to be finding young love. Good For You.