Dating OLDER Men

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    Jan 05, 2010 12:02 AM GMT
    Ok, so this all started in college. It's been a while since I found out I was gay, but I never had a boyfriend since college. When i started college I was determined to have a boyfriend. I went to a few parties and clubs, but none of the guys were interesting to me. Once of my classes was taught by a wonderful old professor in his sixties. He became my favorite professor and eventually I needed help in his class so I went to go see him in his office. Eventually, I told him about my dilema about being without a boyfriend and he asked me out to dinner. To make a long story short we dated for the rest of my four years of college and then some more.

    A few months ago he broke up with me. For a younger guy. I was heart broken, but then I got back on my feet. I am know falling for another guy. He's in his mid, almost late, sixties.

    Is there something wrong? This new guy is wonderful. Ten times better then my ex, who was the greatest thing ever since he dumped me. The years i spent with him were the best of my life.

    Is it wrong to date older men?
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    Jan 05, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    Gosh, I thought I was one of the very few who didn't have a boyfriend until college.


    Eh, but he was only 3 years older than me and I was 18 LOL You can guess how that played out~~~


    No, there's nothing wrong with it.

    Define wrong.

    Define right.
  • 8Always_Hard8

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    Jan 05, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    its not wrong at all

    some people like younger guys some people like guys their age and some people like older. We all have different likes and dislikes

    I like older guys as well icon_smile.gif but I dont go over 50
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    Jan 05, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    I draw correlations for human behavior to the behavior I understand with my dogs at a dog park.

    There is nothing wrong with liking older men and there is nothing wrong with being repulsed by someone and not being able to explain it.

    Some dogs HATE puppies and some dogs for no reason at all DETEST specific other dogs. All you can do is your best to play nice and try to be as tolerant as possible of the things you'd rather pee on.
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    Jan 05, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    If both hearts are in the right place, then nothing at all. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 05, 2010 1:35 AM GMT
    As an "older guy" hell no there is nothing wrong with it. Some guys are just attracted to older guys for whatever reason.
  • CAtoFL

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    Jan 05, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    Whenever I read questions of this type, I'm reminded of a good friend who had a t-shirt that read "Feel No Guilt In Your Desire". I LOVE that phrase and, even though the source is rather lowbrow, the idea is a wonderful one. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 05, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    Older dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 05, 2010 5:34 AM GMT
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, like Bingo.
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    Jan 05, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, like Bingo.


    And Bridge.
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    Jan 05, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, like Bingo.

    Gin Rummy.

    But seriously, love my older men <3
  • Squarejaw

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    Jan 05, 2010 5:40 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    danisnotstr8 said
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, like Bingo.


    And Bridge.


    And "Smite the Guerilla."
  • victor8

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    Jan 05, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    we older men are so glad younger guys like you exist!!
    xoxo
    dad
  • rdberg1957

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    Jan 05, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    It isn't a matter of right and wrong. It's a matter of self-knowledge. As a younger man, you are gaining experience in relationships and in knowing what you like and value. What is it that you enjoy in older men? From the story you told about your professor, I am guessing you liked his responsiveness to your needs and enjoyed an intellectual relationship as well as an emotional one.

    I am generally attracted to younger men, but I will see someone who is my age or older and go, wow. The fact that I'm attracted to younger men doesn't exclude older men. Nor do I think the younger, the better. The odds of my finding someone compatible who is under 30 are very slim. I don't exclude the possibility, but believe that my chances are better with someone closer to my age.

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    Jan 05, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    I'm like one of those beta fish. I don't play nice with similar beta fish.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 05, 2010 6:04 AM GMT
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif




    Ummm, Yahtzee anyone? icon_rolleyes.gif Monopoly?? Okay, how about TWISTER???
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    Jan 05, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    Squarejaw said
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    danisnotstr8 said
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, like Bingo.


    And Bridge.


    And "Smite the Guerilla."


    Hey, you're not older. I don't consider you older until you're dribbling into adult undergarments as you're standing in the buffet line at The Golden Corral. Well, unless you're into the adult undergarments which I don't think you are. But then again, you have been known to parade about in a giant mouse costume. So who knows what you might be into. Just sayin'. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 05, 2010 8:32 AM GMT
    i feel ya man.

    theres some guy in my life... we're just getting to be close friends...

    BUT HE'S 49!!!!

    im going with the flow. its just in ten years when im 31 hes gonna be 59... and so on.... hes probably ready to settle down and im just starting life!!!!





    but hes so fucking handsome. and down to earth. no bullshit. amazing body.



    just do what feels right.
  • davidf

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    Jan 05, 2010 9:58 AM GMT
    Well, speaking as an older guy, I've never played Bingo or Bridge, but whatever turns you on. If there's anyone who lives in or near London who would like to meet an older man, after all many a good tune can be played on an old fiddle, I'm a very considerate type, come on give it a try.
  • nv7_

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    Jan 05, 2010 10:05 AM GMT
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif


    Yeah, Russian roulette. So far, so good. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 05, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Follow your heart and what attracts you.....Now that i'm considered "older" in gay years, at first it bothered me and it seems that a lot of younger guys are now hitting on me or rather the type that a couple of years ago would not give me the time of day or look the other way....Guess with age some guys sense the stable life and experiece of an older guy as being very attractive as we are less prone to drama and secure in what we want/need
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    Jan 05, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    There's nothing wrong with the age difference, but your professor was wrong to enter into a relationship while you were enrolled in his class. I know a few colleagues who have peppered their careers with "student affairs."
  • vacyclist

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    Jan 05, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    We older guys have something you younguns probably won't have until you do your time....it's called life experience. It's a very appealing attribute to be on the lookout for in a potential bf.
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:44 AM GMT
    bearlover saidOk, so this all started in college. It's been a while since I found out I was gay, but I never had a boyfriend since college. When i started college I was determined to have a boyfriend. I went to a few parties and clubs, but none of the guys were interesting to me. Once of my classes was taught by a wonderful old professor in his sixties. He became my favorite professor and eventually I needed help in his class so I went to go see him in his office. Eventually, I told him about my dilema about being without a boyfriend and he asked me out to dinner. To make a long story short we dated for the rest of my four years of college and then some more.

    A few months ago he broke up with me. For a younger guy. I was heart broken, but then I got back on my feet. I am know falling for another guy. He's in his mid, almost late, sixties.

    Is there something wrong? This new guy is wonderful. Ten times better then my ex, who was the greatest thing ever since he dumped me. The years i spent with him were the best of my life.

    Is it wrong to date older men?


    Of course there is nothing wrong.I do not belive older man will be with you for a long time.After few months,years will find younger than you:-(
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    Jan 13, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    Rodmramer saidOlder dudes like to play gamesicon_twisted.gif




    Ummm, Yahtzee anyone? icon_rolleyes.gif Monopoly?? Okay, how about TWISTER???


    Hell no, not twister! Not with this arthirtitis!
    I'm always curious when someone older dates much younger guys. (as he strains to look beyond the physical beauty...) Some young guys can be remarkably mature for their age but generally life interests and experiences are so divergent that I wonder what the relationship works on besides the physical (and even that has some limits that affect the younger partner...)

    I have a lot of younger friends and enjoy them and they keep me young-thinking and fresh, but sometimes I get bored and at othertimes the gulf in experience is just too hard to cross. I know where I was when Kennedy was shot; when we first reached the moon; the Cuban Missile Crisis defined my childhood and I can recall when people would laugh at the preposterous idea that Ronald Reagan could be President.

    My experience of AIDS is so much different than younger guys who have grown up with it (and my deepest symphathies for that.) I find it hard to explain to younger friends what it was like to watch helplessly as scores of friends and acquaintances grew sick and died all around and how lonely that can make one feel.

    I guess I can't grasp what could make for an equitable relationship.