When you are making love, or having sex with someone....what percentage of the time are you thinking of somebody else?

  • silverfox

    Posts: 3178

    Jan 06, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    Now those of you who are in a 'monogamous relationship" we will give you a pass on this one because....

    A. We don't want to get you in trouble

    Or

    B. We won't believe you. icon_smile.gif


    The sad thing is that I came up with this idea for a forum thread while I was.....um.... well, you know......with somebody.


    I would say.........my mind will wander about 30% of the time....to the land of fantasy....far away from the one I am with.

    Thinking of Kylie Minogue....."I Can't Get You Out Of My Head". icon_biggrin.gif

    How about you?








  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Jan 06, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    The BRAIN has ALWAYS been THE sex organ.....gotta feed it with QUALITY, AND QUANTITY all the time, even in the midst of "gettin' busy"....LOL! GUILTY!
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Jan 06, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    silverfox1 saidNow those of you who are in a 'monogamous relationship" we will give you a pass on this one because....

    A. We don't want to get you in trouble

    Or

    B. We won't believe you. icon_smile.gif


    The sad thing is that I came up with this idea for a forum thread while I was.....um.... well, you know......with somebody.


    I would say.........my mind will wander about 30% of the time....to the land of fantasy....far away from the one I am with.

    Thinking of Kylie Minogue....."I Can't Get You Out Of My Head". icon_biggrin.gif

    How about you?










    I always think of you.
  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Jan 06, 2010 3:17 AM GMT
    Depends on whether he is facing me or not. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 10:46 PM GMT
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ib1KW2R3PNk
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 10:51 PM GMT
    0.00 %
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 10:53 PM GMT
    unfortunately, I'm thinking about the guy I'm with 80% of the time the other 10% is spent listening to what he's doing (well, sounds he's making) and that stuff left over is thinking about random things like shopping lists, people I need to call, that the car needs a wash and polish and I really need to remove those microswirls OOH and recipes ideas
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    Well, interesting topic, that made me think about this, and realize something for the first time. So that I have a split answer, because I was in 2 straight marriages before coming out, and dated other women, as well. (And inviting Pattison's routine criticism of me, that I'm not a "pure homosexual" like him)

    With all the women in bed I was fantasizing, most of it homoerotic, sometimes rather disgusted by what I was doing physically with them, even if it felt good, my eyes mostly closed. But with male sex partners I really concentrate on them. My mind doesn't wander outside the bed (or bathhouse steam room, or wherever we would happen to be). My eyes are mostly open, aroused by the naked male sight.

    I'm truly excited by the moment, and the man at hand. Honestly, I don't think about someone or something else; he's all the stimulation I need, right in front of me (or inside of me). That difference between men & women helps to tell me I finally found my correct orientation.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    Um...all I'm thinking about is how awesome it feels to have my prostate being nailed
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 08, 2010 11:19 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidunfortunately, I'm thinking about the guy I'm with 80% of the time the other 10% is spent listening to what he's doing (well, sounds he's making) and that stuff left over is thinking about random things like shopping lists, people I need to call, that the car needs a wash and polish and I really need to remove those microswirls OOH and recipes ideas


    Spoken like the tramp that he knew he was.icon_lol.gif
  • triniboy

    Posts: 305

    Mar 08, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    With a bf maybe 5% to be honest.
    With a random person, and they're not that good... anywhere from 25% to this ain't working at all and one of us has to go, or I'm just going to fake it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    I truly am thinking about the guy I'm with, and if you've seen him, you know full well that I'm not going to be thinking of anyone else!
    icon_cool.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 2:48 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidUm...all I'm thinking about is how awesome it feels to have my prostate being nailed



    I [heart] ThelStrat.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:07 PM GMT
    Hmmm.. well if I'm getting it pretty good, I usually don't think about anything else, all my attention is focused on my partner. But if I'm having a lame time in bed, I'm thinking about what movies to add to my netflix queue..anything but that lame partner.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:10 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidUm...all I'm thinking about is how awesome it feels to have my prostate being nailed

    We are kindred spirits... or prostates... one or the other.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:12 PM GMT
    I'm the only one I'm thinking about when I'm getting it on and he knows it!
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Mar 09, 2010 8:13 PM GMT
    my left hand doesn't mind that my mind wanders
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    Oh maybe I´m a freak. I´m 100% involved all the time. The only time that wavers is when I look at both of us in the mirror icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    If you're having sex with someone and you need to think about someone else to stay aroused, you need to be with the guy you're thinking about and not the one you're shagging lol. icon_razz.gif
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16311

    Mar 09, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    I would say about 90% of the time.
  • Timbales

    Posts: 13993

    Mar 09, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    Steel231 saidIf you're having sex with someone and you need to think about someone else to stay aroused, you need to be with the guy you're thinking about and not the one you're shagging lol. icon_razz.gif


    tell Ryan Reynolds that for me
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:34 PM GMT
    OK, I guess I'm missing the point here. I already gave a reply above, but these other posts here really confuse me.

    So I've got a dick in my mouth, and a pair of balls in one hand, and my other hand is stroking his chest, and maybe alternating with a finger up his ass. And I'm supposed to be thinking of something or someone ELSE???

    And I was the same way when I was single and dating, not just when monogamous. I mean, I've got everything I want at that moment, this is what I've been trying to get when I went to the bar, or whatever, and I should be thinking about another thing when I finally get it?

    OK, somebody's gotta explain this to me, I am seriously clueless here... icon_confused.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    The few times I was ever shagging a woman, I had to think of a guy to keep myself up.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Mar 09, 2010 8:40 PM GMT
    NEVER...................................!
  • jgymnast733

    Posts: 1783

    Mar 09, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    Sure my mind wondered last week when i met this great looking model at a party, we went to his place afterwards and this guy had photo's of himself all over the damn apartment, it was creepy... and so was the sex...icon_confused.gif
    I started thinking about one of my FBuddies instead.....