Waiting to INHALE

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    Jan 07, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    So I recently realized that while I have plenty of sporadic friends, I don't really have that group of friends that you see in the movies and on TV.

    You know, like in "Waiting to Exhale", "Sex and the City", "Queer as Folk", "Noah's Arc", etc...I started to think they were all fictional but I have had dates with guys that DO have these type of tight friendships with 2 or 3 other people.

    My "problem" had always been when I met a gay guy for Friendship they all wanted to marry me, get into a relationship cause they had feelings for me, etc. Even if we have the "Let's just be friends" convo, they would nod their heads and then continue to drop hints of their unrequited love, which became annoying and the friendship usually dissipated.

    My question to all those that do have their own "Arc", what's the story on how you eventually got your group of friends?

    To everyone else: Is having that tight group of friends even worth it, is having one or no "best" friends all you need?
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    Jan 07, 2010 6:40 AM GMT
    all of my good friends are straight. all the gay guys wanna get in my pants and im usually not interested.
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    Jan 07, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    LOL, should we shed a tear that everyone wants to bed you and your undesirable as a friend? The connections you make are the one's you seek. Friendships are wrk which can be both exhausting and fruitful. The cinematic experience should be left for the silver screen.
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    Jan 07, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    Hillie saidLOL, should we shed a tear that everyone wants to bed you and your undesirable as a friend? The connections you make are the one's you seek. Friendships are wrk which can be both exhausting and fruitful. The cinematic experience should be left for the silver screen.



    LOL...Dude I go into these endeavors seeking friends and make it clear...This one guy sent me a 4 page "Is there anything wrong between us" email when we missed one weekend hanging out AFTER we had the lets be friends discussion TWICE from the beginning. And we'd only known each other for a lil over a month....Um...good guy, otherwise though...LOL
  • drypin

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    Jan 07, 2010 8:37 AM GMT
    It's hard to say. I could count on one hand the number of guys who've pursued me without me wanting them to.

    I'd consider the signals you might be sending out. For example, it's one thing to be a flirt, but if that might be who you are, do you know how to tone it down?

    Maybe ask some of these guys if they're picking up signals that you're interested in more and what those signals are, so that you can try to nip if off at the bud. That might make the "friendship talk" more effective.

    I'm not saying you're doing these things... just looking for something that might help.