For the guys raising kids out there

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    Jan 07, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    This practically had me bawling!

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    Jan 07, 2008 3:10 PM GMT
    Awwwwwww......sheds tear......how empowering! Kids these days can be so great sometimes man.
  • Nudista

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    Jan 07, 2008 7:08 PM GMT
    Very nice...amazing stuff.

    It's really amazing how you can tap into an untouched mind and the potential for peace, love, and understanding is limitless.

    Unfortunately you can corrupt a growing mind just as easily...where the world becomes saturated with prejudice, hate, and segregation.



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    Jan 07, 2008 7:09 PM GMT
    wow, that is really nice, great video...thanks for sharing that with us. I have 3 kids and they love my partner to death, I am very lucky.
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    Jan 07, 2008 10:33 PM GMT
    What a great vid.

    Something you guys could help with is that my 6 year old is starting to figure thing sout I kinda havent sat down and explained anything as why would you at that age. But I know its coming to the point where soon I am going have to do some explaining. But can I find any resources out there to help him and explain it in a way he will understand!

    Has anyone came across anything at all that helped them when their kids were young? I would say in the UK there is no support at all for Gay dads except one so called support group that is just for a bunch of married gay guys who cheat behind their wives backs and bleat about their raw deal (Im not bitter ha ha ha ha)

    Any help much appreciated
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    Jan 08, 2008 2:14 AM GMT
    First I want to say that I loved the video... Made me proud to be a father. I am lucky to have two teenagers who are very proud of the man I am. They have never been embarrased of me being gay and all of their friends also seem to love me. I'm sure that people talk behind our back, but we really don't let it bother us. I've always been very involved at school in the classroom and on the playground. My kids say that they wouldn't change a thing about our life.

    For anybody asking for advice on talking to their children about being gay, the advice that I would give would to be totally honest. Also, make sure that the information that you give is always age appropriate.

    The honesty is very important as you never want your child or children to think that you were embarrased of being gay. Make it as normal as it is... Life happens and love is normal.

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    Jan 08, 2008 3:28 AM GMT
    Wow, what an awesome video. Although I don't have a kid right now, it is definitely in my future plans.
  • bigtallguy

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    Jan 08, 2008 3:47 AM GMT
    cool vid. I'm just confused as to why they use a video of a little Dutch boy singing in Dutch with English subtitles to promote a German website. but maybe I'm reading too into it.

    Also, I thought it was interesting that he refers to his 2 dads by their first name.
    Those of you on here with kids of your own, do they call you dad? or do they call you by your first name?


    one day when I have kids of my own I hope I'm as good of a father as Diederik and Bas are, and that my kid sings songs about me.
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    Jan 08, 2008 4:25 AM GMT
    Thanks Gigaram. What a great video!

    My partner and I just adopted our second child - a newborn little boy. We're just a weeeee bit tired right now.

    A couple of resources for guys who have kids or who are thinking about it:
    1. http://www.familyequality.org/ - The non-profit that advocates for equal rights for LGBT parents in the U.S. They are organized and are always helpful. They also host the yearly LGBT parents week in Provincetown, MA every summer... We've gone the past four years and absolutely love it.
    2. http://www.proudparenting.com/ - Proud Parenting, started by the founders of Gay.com and RealJock's ad sales business partners. It's a new social network for LGBT parents.

    Jeff

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    Jan 08, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    I would like to have my own children someday nice to know that its becoming more common place.
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    Jan 08, 2008 9:50 PM GMT
    polo and jeff huge great thanks for the advice and links its something that stresses me like mad and Im hugely relieved there is advice out there.

    I agree honesty and openess is what I am living by its teh age specific I desperately need to find out about

    Cheers guys very much appreciated
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    Jan 09, 2008 2:16 AM GMT
    You're always welcome to ask a brother for help buddy...