Signals and 'gaydar'

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    Jan 08, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    I am not so good with the signals and the 'gaydar.' Anyway my dilemma is that I have a workmate who is a good friend. I sometimes feel that I get signals that he's somehow up for more than 'just friends.' But I can see no obvious signs that he is living a bi- life (he has a girlfriend so he is probably not more than bi-). I certainly don't want to spoil a friendship with an unwanted advance, so I need some help: How can you tell when a guy is interested in more, particularly guys that maybe married and living an outwardly hetero life? Does anyone have any experience or signals to share in this situation?
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    Jan 08, 2010 7:28 AM GMT
    3 years ago when I was in the high school, the first time and probably my least.icon_lol.gif
    After analyzed enough. What I can tell, just ask him. Unfortunately in my case, he is straight. Even though it's very bitter and hard, we're still just friend now.
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    Jan 08, 2010 8:15 AM GMT
    sounds like a good way to get on the road to sexual harrasment. icon_razz.gif

    uh...i'm not a subtle person, how about asking 'im?
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    Jan 08, 2010 8:37 AM GMT
    I'll say it again: Workplace romance can be a bad idea. Especially if the other party is involved with someone else already.
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    Jan 08, 2010 5:02 PM GMT
    OK, agreed, honesty is the best policy ... and its no longer the 1950's, but any more subtle tips on how to break the ice with a guy who very well could be straight and may not think getting hit on by a guy is cool?
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    Jan 08, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    Tell him some guy hit on you and ask him how you should react?
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    Jan 08, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 saidTell him some guy hit on you and ask him how you should react?


    You, Mr. Caesarea, are a clever man! I like it. Subtle yet to the point. Have you tried it yourself?