Great Friends: Are online friendships real

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    Jan 08, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I just wanted to throw a topic out there... love to know what others think as well.

    When I first joined RealJock, I really didn't know what to expect. It has actually been a couple years altogether of starting and then deactivating my account. Every time for different reasons. Sometimes when I just got on here to it was admittadly to find hot guys... other time is was to interact regarding for fitness... most recently it has been just to meet and get to know other gay men from all over the world. This most accurately describes the reason I rejoined this past October.

    I have to say, living in Southern Oregon, as a gay man, is difficult to say the least. I would imagine that many of you from small towns or rural areas can relate. There is a serious lacking in "quality" gay men. At least not that I have found. And finding isn't easy, as there is a major lacking in a venue to meet. So far, the only way I have found to meet other gay men in this area is to go on Craigslist. I know... scary, huh.

    Whoops... rambling a bit. Difficulties in meeting gay men is not the topic I wanted to address... but rather the quality of guys I have recently met here on RJ. I just want to say that I have, in recent months, met some really amazing friends on Real Jock. People that I can chat with and just talk about stuff. I hope that some of you read this. You all are amazing and I appreciate your friendship.

    So, in answer to my own topic question: I would say yes.... my online friends here on RJ are VERY real.... love you all!

    Oh, and thank you RealJock for making the world a little smaller and bringing us together.
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    Jan 08, 2010 8:17 PM GMT
    I used to live on the border of CA and OR in Crescent City! How's Medfuwd?

    It's so beautiful up there in the woods. And yes, I've met some good guys on RJ.
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    Jan 08, 2010 8:25 PM GMT
    Same to you Crmedford! This is a great place and I too have made some great friends here as well. Glad that you are one of them! icon_smile.gif
  • russjark

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    Jan 08, 2010 9:22 PM GMT
    I can relate since I am in a rural area. The clubs around here are hours away and I think there are better guys on here too.
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    Jan 09, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    Nope... afraid I don't think online friendships are real. You can chat to someone online but will never really get to know that person until you meet them. What makes up someones personality and, dare I say it, their soul does not come across on screen.

    Offline social networking is the way of the future :-P
  • jrs1

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    Jan 09, 2010 12:25 AM GMT

    yes. I know they are.
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    We've made some great friends on here, progressing to phone calls and some web-camming. (lol, fully clothed)
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    I think the friendships are as real as you make them. If log on open to the possibility, much will find you. If you log on expecting nothing more than unfiltered wrds attached to less you'll leave w/ nothing more.
  • RSportsguy

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    Jan 10, 2010 2:21 PM GMT
    I think they are as real as you make them to be. I don't think they replace your friends that you see in real life, but they are people that you can care about and hear advice from.
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    only realationship thats not real is between a man and his imaginary friend. i have some of the best friends on RJ!
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:26 PM GMT
    If any one of my 48,000 Facebook buddies turns out to be less than true, I am SO de-friending them.

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 10, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    I have met some great friends off of RJ and they are real friends. The only thing lacking is a physical presence and I'm sure that will happen eventually.
    I'm confident that has no bearing on the fostering of present (and future) friendships off of this site.

    I absolutely agree with the premise of the discussion.

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