mnjock2003 saidObviously there is a distinction between fantasy and reality.
My fantasy might involve a black haired sweaty cowboy who attacks me in a barn or a college baseball team , but in real life I am obviously looking for something a little less specific. lol.
As long as you don't objectify people in real life, I don't think there is a problem with having a colorful fantasy life.
One of my earliest sexual fantasies involved a black guy named Carl in my high school. I think in my particular rural town, he was only one of like two african-americans in the school. He was ripped and it was probably at the time that puberty was hitting us, and to be frank, he had a musty smell in gym from sweating that I thought was very hot.
I had a dream one night of him and I wrestling in an abandoned warehouse, and oddly, on abandoned railroad tracks. We looked so hot together in my dream, and it was pure out masculinity and testosterone.
I think to be honest it wasn't the race difference, but the physical color difference that made it hot for me. Like, I think race and color are often confused, or perceived as the same thing. They are not.
I wonder where Carl is now.