Dating help!!!

  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 08, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    So here is my dilemma. I have been dating this "younger" 28 yo Latino. We been seeing each other for like 7 months. We use to have awesome mind blowing sex..icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif...Now, the last few months we never have sex anymore. What should I do??...I am suspicious he may be getting something elsewhere. Meanwhile he tells me he jacks off everyday. Ugh!!...Need advice please!!!....icon_question.gifroll:
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    Jan 08, 2010 9:40 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidSo here is my dilemma. I have been dating this "younger" 28 yo Latino. We been seeing each other for like 7 months. We use to have awesome mind blowing sex..icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif...Now, the last few months we never have sex anymore. What should I do??...I am suspicious he may be getting something elsewhere. Meanwhile he tells me he jacks off everyday. Ugh!!...Need advice please!!!....icon_question.gifroll:



    Insufficient information. Why don't you have sex anymore? Is it you? Is it him? Is it distance? Have you discussed? I can't see how any advice would be worth a dime without more details.

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    Jan 08, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidSo here is my dilemma. I have been dating this "younger" 28 yo Latino. We been seeing each other for like 7 months. We use to have awesome mind blowing sex..icon_lol.gificon_eek.gif...Now, the last few months we never have sex anymore. What should I do??...I am suspicious he may be getting something elsewhere. Meanwhile he tells me he jacks off everyday. Ugh!!...Need advice please!!!....icon_question.gifroll:


    He's probably having sex with someone else. I don't know any 28 yr-old guys who would go from having wild sex with another human to only having solo J/O sessions. It just doesn't cut.

    WHAT I WOULD DO: Dump him! Find someone whose age is way north of 28.

    WHAT YOU SHOULD DO: Have a frank discussion with him. Gather as much info as possible and then make a decision.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 08, 2010 10:01 PM GMT
    Hmmm....Thats been my feeling also....I dont know any 28yo that would go with no sex for months...he claims he still "loves me"...
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    Jan 08, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    What happened to good old-fashioned honest communication? Just ask him and don't rest until he provides you with a credible response.
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    Jan 08, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    It's over. Time to move on. Sorry.
  • WILDCARD73

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    Jan 08, 2010 10:31 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt's over. Time to move on. Sorry.



    agree. icon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 08, 2010 10:34 PM GMT
    Yeah, he's getting it somewhere else..... icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 08, 2010 10:40 PM GMT
    Have you had a serious discussion with him about it? Aside from the fact that he's jacking off? Sounds kind of questionable.

    Has he hinted that he's going outside of the relationship? What does your gut tell you? Go with your gut and ask him the questions. If you think that he's cheating on you ask him. If he's not responsive...well...you may have your answer. If you can't get solid answers from him don't waste your valuable time on him.

    That's really not meant to sound super harsh. Think of him as well. What do you think that he feels?
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    Jan 08, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidHmmm....Thats been my feeling also....I dont know any 28yo that would go with no sex for months...he claims he still "loves me"...

    I'm sure he does love you... but love and sex are very different.
    He's 28yo and I'm sure it isn't malicious, just young and not so smart, cut him and yourself loose.
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    Jan 09, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    Mikey, talk to the guy. In depth. Don't make any kind of decision until you've had the chance to do that.

    Too many gay guys bail on relationships that could work out because they make bad assumptions or just don't want to put effort into the thing.

    His being 28 is irrelevant. I know people who have been in stable relationships for decades that started in their teens and twenties. Two of my best friends, who are now in their 30's, met each other when they were 22 and 26. So writing it off because of his age is just silly.

    Talk.
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    Move on
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    Not once did you mention Love or Commitment....all you said was a relationship that is built on mind blowing sex...Well in my opinion, if that is all that relationship stands for, u have to know that sooner or later, the interest in having sex with just you will pass...especially if your only 28. Define your relationship and talk to him about it.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 09, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    I do love me, but I have my "guard up" because I got hurt by an ex that cheated on me. I'm 42, he is 28yo. I do not know if the age difference has alot to do with it.
  • Webster666

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    Jan 09, 2010 7:19 AM GMT
    It seems obvious to me that he no longer enjoys having sex with you.
    And, that seems to be a big problem for you.
    Perhaps talking things over with him would help. I doubt it, but it's worth a try. Then, at least you'll know what the problem is.
    I'm thinking that you'll have to trade him in.
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    Jan 09, 2010 7:22 AM GMT
    Yes, it is done for. He is getting it somewhere else I can bet my life on it..
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    Jan 09, 2010 7:25 AM GMT
    Mikeylikesit saidHmmm....Thats been my feeling also....I dont know any 28yo that would go with no sex for months...he claims he still "loves me"...


    well im not 28, but im 22. you would expect me to want sex even more . . . .but i have gone over a year without sex and i could have gone longer.
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    Jan 09, 2010 7:29 AM GMT
    Age has NOTHING to do with it! Obviously he's just not that IN to you! No offense, but just squash it! Obviously we don't know the FULL story!
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    Jan 09, 2010 7:31 AM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidMikey, talk to the guy. In depth. Don't make any kind of decision until you've had the chance to do that.

    Too many gay guys bail on relationships that could work out because they make bad assumptions or just don't want to put effort into the thing.

    His being 28 is irrelevant. I know people who have been in stable relationships for decades that started in their teens and twenties. Two of my best friends, who are now in their 30's, met each other when they were 22 and 26. So writing it off because of his age is just silly.

    Talk.
    You are seriously one of the sweetest, most sensitive, thoughtful guys on here... every time I read your posts it makes me realize what a jaded jerk I can be. You mister are a total treasure and I want nothing but happiness for you... and I'd like a donut right now... the want I have for you is from my heart, the want I have for a donut is from my belly. But the donut doesn't diminish the sincerity I have for you... oh boy that came out all ass backwards... I'll stop typing now.
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    Jan 09, 2010 8:00 AM GMT
    . . . are you supporting him financially?
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    Jan 09, 2010 8:27 AM GMT
    Have you seen the movie "He is so not into you" ? It will explain everything. LOL
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    Jan 09, 2010 8:31 AM GMT
    Dump him and embarrass him on the way out.
  • drypin

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    Jan 09, 2010 11:17 AM GMT
    Mikey,

    Like a few others, I really have to encourage you to take this up with him. But the others' opinions ring true... you might be hearing the death knell of this relationship.
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jan 10, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    Thanks for all your advice guys....Helps confirm my suspicions. I have tried to e-mail him about it. But it dont seem to have effect. Besides, he only calls me like every 2 weeks. icon_evil.gificon_confused.gif
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    Jan 10, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear that. Likely, he finds somebody else