Birthdays - do you care?

  • OptimusMatt

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    Jan 09, 2010 12:20 AM GMT
    Today's my birthday, and I got the call from my Bamma, mother, standard facebook birthday wishes, office card, etc. To be honest, when I was younger I used to get really excited about my birthday, but year after year no one but my immediate family really gave a shit and eventually I just kind of...stopped getting outwardly excited.

    Some of my friends though, they get totally rev'd up and are all 'let's go party!!' - while I love a good party, I just...it feels kind of hollow planning my own birthday party. I know (here comes the secret pain) that on the inside I'd be so stoked if someone I cared about actually DID make my birthday into a big deal - I'm not talking massive party or anything, but...it'd be nice.

    Having said that, I specifically don't make a big deal out of my birthday (in fact, I don't even really mention it until the day of/before) and so I don't expect anyone to make any sort of deal about it...but I sometimes hope that someone might.

    And I won't lie, I'm a little lonely. While there 'is' a guy in my life he's really just a fuckbuddy - everytime he asks 'what are you doing tonight' I know it's because he's horny, and that's fine (no, not really), but...I don't feel any spark, and hanging out is rather awkward (with the exception of the cuddling/sex, and that's mostly because we're not talking).
    Besides, I REALLY don't want to lead him on (and I think "I don't want to be in a relationship" is pretty damn honest) and having him come over on my birthday would imply I feel a connection that I really don't...but I am feeling lonely, and slightly emotionally needy.

    I'm fine with getting older (what with me being young and pretty forever - that's the deal *stomp*stomp* right Red? icon_twisted.gif ) and I do realize that as you get older you kind of have to...plan these things yourself. So while this is mostly an outlet for me to lament (I don't do it often so eat iticon_twisted.gif )what do you guys do about your birthday? Do you make a big deal about it? Do you get mad if your friends forget? Do you always remember your friend's birthdays? Do YOU make a big deal about them?
  • baldone

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    Jan 09, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    stopped caring about them when i had my 10th annual 40th birthday...not a damned thing i can do about it and just get back into shape and keep thinking youngicon_confused.gif
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    Jan 09, 2010 12:29 AM GMT
    I don't make a big deal of them per se - but for the last few years at university, they have provided the reason for some very good parties. I've no idea how I will feel about it when I get older. Maybe start having either having anniversaries of my 39th, or maybe a Jubilee of the same. icon_confused.gif

    Cheers!
  • jgymnast733

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    Jan 09, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    Sorry your feeling blue on you birthday, But i'd like to wish you a wonderful birthday,[ BIG HUG ]..
    My best friends always take me out for dinner and cocktails and a gift or two is always the norm.. My co-workers always surprise me with gourmet cup-cakes or choc.covered strawberries and for some reason the last time they surprised me i cried.. I guess i miss the way things were as a child also,my family didnt even remember..Thank God For True Friends....
    I still celebrate my birthday and thankful to make it another year, but cant help feeling saddness for the friends who've passed on...
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    Jan 09, 2010 12:59 AM GMT
    Birthdays don't have to be a BIG deal but I think they are special. You're "lamenting" now which is good. Congratulate yourself and make it an opportunity to give yourself a pat on the back. It's also a really good time to think about where you would like to be and make changes to get there.

    A teeny bit of me likes it when someone remembers too. After all, you, Elvis and I all share the same special day.

    Happy B-Day, now go buy yourself a cake. A big, calorie, fat infested cake.icon_smile.gif
  • OptimusMatt

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    Jan 09, 2010 1:11 AM GMT
    haha, why thank you, and happy birthday yourself - also...happy birthday to Bowie and Mr. Stephen Hawking icon_biggrin.gif

    (oh, and I got a GST rebate cheque from the government - nothing says happy birthday like a direct tax rebate, lol)
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday!

    As a kid I hated my birthday. I didn't want to be the center of attention at all. Then I noticed in my 20s I think I felt much like the OP - outwardly wanted no fuss but inside I really wanted someone to remember.

    Recently, been going to Padre Island with my boyfriend and my family which is perfect for me. It doesn't have to be a huge fuss going out partying or anything - just a margarita, the beach, and the people who I care most about.
  • WILDCARD73

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    Jan 09, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    eh, birthdays don't interest me anymore, my last one went unnoticed by everyone but my family, no one made a mention about it, actually, the only person besides family who noticed was a guy on this forum who noticed my age increase which was surprising to say the least heh.

    Sorry about the lonely feelings your having though, I can understand you want someone, anyone, to take an interest in these little things you outwardly project you've no interest in...

    one day mate... one day!
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday!
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:41 AM GMT
    I think birthdays are wonderful!!
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    Jan 09, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday!!!! icon_smile.gif

    I don't like celebrating my birthday, it scares me to think how much my life has changed over the last couple of years.
  • jrs1

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    Jan 09, 2010 1:52 AM GMT

    do I care for my birthday? No.

    do I care for my friend's birthdays? Yes.
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Fist off: Happy Birthday.

    Second: Three years ago I forgot my birthday until my mom asked me a couple days prior what I wanted.

    Two years ago my friends threw me a surprise birthday party, which I found out about beforehand because I manipulated two of my friends into telling me. But I pretended to be surprised, and it was still fun.

    Last year.... oh, last year. I decided to try to organize something with all my friends. And for that reason, I have sworn off ever doing such a stupid thing again. Everyone had confirmed, and everyone bailed at the last minute. Literally no one showed up, and it was horribly embarrassing and awful and I was very pissed off. Luckily I left later that month to spend my summer in Montreal with my Montreal friends.

    But yeah, wasn't a particularly enjoyable experience. And gave me reason to not plan anything again.

    Besides, it doesn't need to be a big deal.


    I remember how birthdays and Christmas used to be so exciting, and largely (who are we kidding?) to do with getting presents. Each year, I find I care less about each, er, at least care less about presents. I actually encouraged and pressured my mom to not buy a lot of presents this Christmas, and it worked! I couldn't imagine doing such a thing just 5 or 6 years ago. I would consider that blasphemy.

    Having said all that. I DO enjoy celebrating birthdays of close friends.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 09, 2010 2:06 AM GMT
    Don't celebrate them anymore. icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:08 AM GMT

    These days I'm not so excited about birthdays. It may just be another reason to do something.

    Actually my last birthday just reminded me that I am closer to death. I guess we are dying from the moment we are born or soon after anyway. But being reminded of death does make me think about what I have achieved etc so the birthday can have a special significance in that sense.


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    Jan 09, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday Soundwave!

    I generally forget about my birthday until someone says something about it, which is stupid, because my younger brother's birthday is the day before mine, and I always remember his. This year, I'll probably leave the country to avoid it all together. I'm thinking SCUBA trip to Belize or something.

    But I don't like people making a fuss over me at all, so it kind of makes sense. They're fun for other people, but I think I'll just ignore mine all the same.
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    Happy Birthday!

    And Birthdays are quite important still.
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    I love Birthdays!....I always go all out or take my friends out on their b-days! its important, if it wasnt for that day you wouldnt be here.. icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

    Hell YES!
    They are important!
    I celebrate mine every year as my own personal holiday!
    I take it off from work and go get or do something for myself! I throw a party, usually a pool party with a "Christmas in July" theme....since my BD is JULY 25....
    You make it mean as much as you want it too....enjoy it the day is yours! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 09, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    I love my birthday and all my friends birthdays too. You only get to be a certain age once so why not celebrate that you made it there in as good a shape as you are? Last year for my birthday I treated myself to tickets to see CHER on the 5th row at Caesars Palace in Vegas. It was awesome! The year before when I turned 40 I spent it in Salem Mass, somewhere I had always wanted to go - so enjoy that birthday! icon_biggrin.gif
  • SanEsteban

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    Jan 09, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    I love having birthdays! It beats the alternative of not having birthdays!!!!
  • pandx970

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    Jan 09, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    i'll celebrate friends birthdays. unfortunately, if anything does happen for my birthday...according to the trends it won't be celebrated until 4/20 and not until 4/10. guess it's ironic that i don't smoke.
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    Jan 09, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    I am ALL about my Birthday!!! The only reason why I cut it "short" is because of that guy, Jesus Christ or something like that.....

    It's more of a celebration of the people in your life, the year that just past and a continuation of the GREAT people and places that you just did or seen!! Birthdays are AWESOME!!!!
  • Webster666

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    Jan 09, 2010 7:04 AM GMT
    My birthday is the day after a holiday, so it always got celebrated on the holiday. That sucked.
    One time, my mother (my parents were separated) drove to our house on the holiday, and kidnapped two of my sisters.
    Now, I would be perfectly happy to let my birthday pass right by, unnoticed.
    But, my group of friends always get together to celebrate each of our birthdays, so I can't escape it. We have fun.

    BTW, when you're having your birthday dinner out at a restaurant, the way to not suffer when everybody's singing Happy Birthday to you, is to sing along.