Construction workers

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    Jan 08, 2008 2:42 AM GMT
    Anyone else here work construction and just dont feel like they fit in like a str8 guy working in a gay bar? I am good at my job but feel like a square peg in a round hole. Everyone thinks I am str8 so it isnt the problem of being out cause Im not. I would never hang myself like that. Very str8 profession with a bunch of good ole boys. Seems like there isnt many gay guys in construction.
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    Jan 08, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    Really? From all the porn movies, I kinda thought that construction costs were so high because of all of the two-hour lunch orgies.
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:01 AM GMT
    Yes, I did some residential construction work with my dad's company for about a year. It was a very fish out of water experience working with those guys. Lately I've spent more time doing residential remodeling work with my ex than I've spent in my health care field. It's much nicer working with him since we can both just be ourselves.
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:18 AM GMT
    J/K, but is it just a coincidence that a concrete vibrator is the most phallic tool on the planet?
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:23 AM GMT
    Damn, it may have just been a coincidence but now that you mention it we could probably use one of those icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:47 AM GMT
    scottNV wrote: "...Very str8 profession with a bunch of good ole boys. Seems like there isnt many gay guys in construction...."

    I think that probably - like sports, cops, firemen, the military - you are still experiencing a bit of hetero propoganda in a 'masculine' profession... there are probably a lot more people there than you think.

    I have dated a couple of gay construction guys, one who worked as a high steel foreman, one who was a framer and roofer. The contractor who built my home in VT is also gay, as are the two lesbians who do my landscaping in VT.

    I know of gay owned and operated construction companies in NY, Chicago, Atlanta, and LA because they are big supporters of the gay communitty in those cities.

    Like every other facet of life, Gay people are EVERYWHERE; even if they are not totally out about it.
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    BTW - http://www.lambdabusiness.com/page-business.cfm?code=Contractors&location=209&searchtext= lists quite a few gay and lesbian owned/friendly construction companies in CA.

    I only saw a couple small ones listed for NV, but I am sure there must be many more.

    I tend to notice gay owned/friendly busnesses more because I go out of my way to patronise them and spend money in the communitty.

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    Jan 08, 2008 6:15 AM GMT
    I've known my share of gay construction workers, contractors, construction foremen - along with plumbers, electricians, horse wranglers, auto mechanics and cops.

    We truly are everywhere - but you are a square peg in a round hole because you're not free to be yourself. For your own sake, I hope you either come out where you work now, or seek employment somewhere you can come out.

    Good luck.

    Joey
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    Jan 08, 2008 6:47 AM GMT
    Wow...your blowing me away! I havn't read any of the above post so I won't loose my thought...but maybe Florida construction workers are different!!

    I have worked construction many years before going into real estate financing and from my experience...there are TONS of gay/bi/underground men in the industry. I've found that most are "undercover" maybe similar to you. My partner is one of them...he's been in construction for 16 years and we know several guys that are married and fool around with their construction buddies...but like i said, its usually very undercover. Most that I've met live straight lives. Its almost as if you fit the masculine tag then who cares what you do or who you do it with sexually. When our co-workers started hearing rumors about my partner and I (we used to work together)they didn't make an issue of it...never. All the guys have been incredibly cool about it...politely inviting me anywhere they'd invite my partner to.

    Anyhow...thats been my experience. I think you need to use your sixth sense....and you might realize how many there are around you...but I think if your looking for a sassy Sally I don't think you'll ever see it in the construction industry.
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    Jan 08, 2008 1:59 PM GMT
    To me construction is one of the most masculine of fields, and like working out in a gym many guys are attracted to the ideal of it. I know at least one bi construction worker, so like any other aspect of life it must be undercover/don't ask don't tell. Either way, I admire the work and skill required and would love to meet someone in the field.
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    Jan 08, 2008 2:01 PM GMT
    I would be afraind of breaking a nail ... icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 08, 2008 2:12 PM GMT
    I would imagine that the kind of construction and the locale play a big part of whether or not you can be cool about being queer, like apex says. My father was a construction worker in nyc, a welder, with a union meaner than the teamsters. Guys get tossed off buildings, or their safety equipment gets tampered with and they "fall" 30 floors, or shit falls on them from however many floors up. Maybe in smaller construciton outfits, non union, things are different, but in nyc, a rather cosmopolitan place, there are industries where you run silent, run deep.
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    Jan 08, 2008 2:37 PM GMT
    when i was 18 i left my home town because it was claustrophobic let alone homophobic. i moved to the city to breathe. have you ever thought of changing jobs so you don't have to pretend?
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    Jan 12, 2008 11:20 AM GMT
    hey how r u all, im new here my name is david ....i guess the one thing that strikes me as odd, is that some individuals call it pretending (not to tell everyone their sexuality), i feel that its an individauls choice and no one elses to accept their own fate and decide how they want to interact with others, if that be telling everyone their sexuality then, thats their choice. Someone sexuality doesnt define the person, as so many people feel that its no ones business who they do,and so dont talk about it, by using the word pretend u in a sense make the person feel that their living a lie, when they arent. Its all about their choice and their circumstanes surrounding their choice, which no one has the right to critize.icon_exclaim.gif
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    Jan 12, 2008 11:44 AM GMT
    davo89 saidhey how r u all, im new here my name is david ....i guess the one thing that strikes me as odd, is that some individuals call it pretending (not to tell everyone their sexuality), i feel that its an individauls choice and no one elses to accept their own fate and decide how they want to interact with others, if that be telling everyone their sexuality then, thats their choice. Someone sexuality doesnt define the person, as so many people feel that its no ones business who they do,and so dont talk about it, by using the word pretend u in a sense make the person feel that their living a lie, when they arent. Its all about their choice and their circumstanes surrounding their choice, which no one has the right to critize.icon_exclaim.gif


    Welcome davo89.

    You haven't met Chucky yet, have you icon_question.gificon_smile.gif

    Anyway, when he strikes, and he will, don't let him get to you.

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    Jan 12, 2008 11:58 AM GMT
    McGay saidI would imagine that the kind of construction and the locale play a big part of whether or not you can be cool about being queer, like apex says. My father was a construction worker in nyc, a welder, with a union meaner than the teamsters. Guys get tossed off buildings, or their safety equipment gets tampered with and they "fall" 30 floors, or shit falls on them from however many floors up. Maybe in smaller construciton outfits, non union, things are different, but in nyc, a rather cosmopolitan place, there are industries where you run silent, run deep.


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    Jan 12, 2008 12:19 PM GMT
    hello and thankz for the welcome, im open to all peoples train of mind and what they feel about a certain topic, but when its misinformed or biased in away, then another side of the story or argument should be put forward, i am i no way trying to shove what im saying down anyones throat, and for that i have nothing to defend.
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    Jan 12, 2008 12:42 PM GMT
    by the way this is me, the damn photo is taking too long to get approved!!!!
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    Jan 12, 2008 12:43 PM GMT
    davo89 saidhello and thankz for the welcome, im open to all peoples train of mind and what they feel about a certain topic, but when its misinformed or biased in away, then another side of the story or argument should be put forward, i am i no way trying to shove what im saying down anyones throat, and for that i have nothing to defend.


    I agree with your point. And yes everyone is entitled to there point of view, and I'm not saying you are trying to shove anything down anyone's throat.

    I joke around a bit, and sometimes it gets me in trouble icon_smile.gif

    In time, you'll understand what I mean.

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    Jan 12, 2008 12:44 PM GMT
    yeah thats cool no harm done dude!!!!
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    Jan 12, 2008 12:49 PM GMT
    davo89 saidby the way this is me, the damn photo is taking too long to get approved!!!!
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    It usually takes a few hours for photos to be approved, so just be patient.