Protective of people?

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    Jan 10, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
    So are ya? do you feel protective of those who you love, who love you, who care for you?

    I'm finding my self becoming more and more protective of those around me and being even more protective of those who help me take care of me, admittedly I've never been one I've never been one to let anyone talk down about a friend (even if that person is a friend) and I've never let any ones downward view point of a friend ever affect my opinion of them or the friend they are talking about..

    I do encourage my friends to open up and talk about things that are causing them problems, but I draw the line when they move into trying to degrade that person and cut them off incredibly fast.

    On top of that, I'm physically protective of them, a few years back (quite a few actually) a mate and I where walking home at night and a guy stopped us on the foot path and pulled out a knife, I didn't realise I'd done it at the time (and I still don't remember having done it) apparently I pulled my mate back and moved infront of him, I don't know what I was hoping to accomplish exactly and I honestly don't remember doing it, I do remember feeling my mate suddenly getting scared and everything seemed perfectly clear and I didn't feel anything that I can recall, but I don't remember everything that happened.

    But I've apparently done things like this more then once too.

    Anyway, I was curious, who here is protective of those around them? or, who here seeks to be protected, I know they exist, everything wants protection at some point, but some need or want it a little more then others.
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    Jan 10, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    Absolutely. I was working in a living facility for the mentally disturbed several years ago. The staff on the evening shift consisted of me, another guy, and two women. One of the male patients started attacking the other male staffer and the two women just stood there---one catatonic & the other screaming at the guy...a lotta help that was.
    I got the patient on the ground and straddled him (old habits die hard). That was the end of that. By the way, the other male staffer didn't do anything to help. Now these were people I worked with. Someone has to step up to the plate. You can't always tell who it is going to be until the shit hits the fan.
    I don't have a million friends, but the ones I do have mean everything to me. You have to take care of them, and maybe, if you are lucky, some day they will do the same for you. Good going Tank!
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    Jan 10, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    im not really an aggressive person and i dont hang around places where myself or my friends will get threatned, but i hang out with some pretty rough dudes so i think they can take care of themselves,

    now if someone messed with my mom, sisters, neice, or aunts shit would be thrown down nastily
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:36 PM GMT
    VERY protective of anyone who I call a friend and usually the one who gets involved when someones being an ass to somebody else. pretty much fearless and well trained to takecare of myself and others...
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    I'll kick anyone's ass who fucks w/ you tank but frm the sounds of it you can handle yourself.
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    Jan 10, 2010 2:50 PM GMT
    u should all be my friend so i can finally say "dont mess with me or ill sick my hoard of hot jocks on u"
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:00 PM GMT
    I am most definitely protective of those I love and cherish from my family to my best friend. I have been adopted by some many women who have been special in my life that I even protect them and look out for their family. That protective feeling is instinctive and sometimes it even surprise me. But I would protect them and vice versus, in a heart beat.

    Thanks for the thread Liltanker...always knew you were amazing.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    I am extremely protective of the people that are close to me. I know it stems from helping raise my nephew when my brother-in-law left my sister. I transitioned right into over-protective surrogate dad.

    From there, I've always felt a need to "put myself in the line of fire" for anyone in need. There have been a couple bad outcomes. However, I'm not a small guy and have had some martial arts training, so there's a bit of underscored ballsiness that comes with the territory, I suppose.

    That combined with not really being concerned with my welfare most of the time, means I will indeed jump right in and do what's necessary. It's funny that I'll turn into one of those fainting goats (yes, I loved that thread and video) when confronted with someone I think is attractive. Yet, if you threaten me or whomever I am with, I will likely pound you into a mudhole.

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    Jan 10, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    I've always been protective of the people that I care about, and my friends. It's the alpha in me. Lay a finger on someone I love, and I'm a wolverine. Especially if it's my family or someone I'm legitimately in love with. I'd rather get torn to shreds myself, although that's not likely to happen.

    But I'm also protective of elderly people, no matter how horrible some of them can be, children, and animals. I can't abide abuse of any kind in general, but those three things really put me over the edge.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    VERY protective! I can fully sympathize. I have no heroic stories to share really but I cannot stand bullying nor any form of aggression. Maybe it's because I had to endure a lot of that when I was a child. After a move to a new place and country I was placed a year ahead in school - physically, this was a bad thing as I was always the weakest and the one to pick on and beat up for no reason other than being weaker and my different nationality.

    If I now encounter unfair and rude behaviour or even physical aggression, I will interfere immediately. No tolerance for violence in whichever form.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    EXTREMELY protective!! And I notice that I am MORE so with my female friends than the guys.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    I've gotten in far more trouble defending others than myself.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    jimbobthedevil said But I'm also protective of elderly people, no matter how horrible some of them can be, children, and animals. I can't abide abuse of any kind in general, but those three things really put me over the edge.


    True, there are some things that are impossible for me to watch as well. Especially witnessing animals suffer is something impossible to watch for me... Something on the topic on TV, I'd have to switch channels or leave the room.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
    I think I exude that type of protectiveness. I get a lot of people coming up to me asking if I'm a cop(or if I'm in a bar, security). A few guys at one time or another at a bar, will run up and hide behind me if some guy is pissed off with him. I usually just play peace maker and nothing happens.

    But personally, when someone is in trouble, that whole "flight or fight" response takes over and the fur on my neck goes up.
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    Yep, we are. Get into trouble on here regularly, lol!
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    jprichva saidBah. I'm the guy who pushes the old ladies in front of the speeding bus.


    You're goin' DOWN sucka!!!
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    Jan 10, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    I tend to be protective of the people I like, whether they are friends or co-workers.
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    Jan 10, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    jimbobthedevil saidI've always been protective of the people that I care about, and my friends. It's the alpha in me. Lay a finger on someone I love, and I'm a wolverine. Especially if it's my family or someone I'm legitimately in love with. I'd rather get torn to shreds myself, although that's not likely to happen.

    But I'm also protective of elderly people, no matter how horrible some of them can be, children, and animals. I can't abide abuse of any kind in general, but those three things really put me over the edge.




    Awe that was so cute. love it..
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    Jan 10, 2010 4:17 PM GMT
    long time ago had a friend that was built like Imelda Marcos, just a big boned "girl" not a gueen or anything but a beefy guy with a high pitched voice and mean as all get out...we would hit the bars in LA and couple of times had to park a longways from the bars and walk thru some bad areas, one night some thugs tried to start some shit and Donny just blurted out "ever had your ass kicked by a drag queen, then just went balisic on them" best line was "i'm gona rip your eyelids off, break your arms and then rip that stupid hair off your head then piss all over ya" the look on their face was priceless...funny thing is, he would have done it
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:00 PM GMT
    I think I am very protective of the ones I care about. I always have the tendency to want to make everyone "better" when things go wrong. I am usually the first person to try to bring back the smiles, wipe away the tears, offer the words of encouragement, or stand up in defense of someone. I am just one of those people who happens to "care" a lot. Often times I am more protective of my friends and those I care about than I am about myself.
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:04 PM GMT
    MagickBoy saidI think I am very protective of the ones I care about. I always have the tendency to want to make everyone "better" when things go wrong. I am usually the first person to try to bring back the smiles, wipe away the tears, offer the words of encouragement, or stand up in defense of someone. I am just one of those people who happens to "care" a lot. Often times I am more protective of my friends and those I care about than I am about myself.

    Now thats the kinda Protective that makes me all warm and fuzzy inside, guess my above posting was a little extreme, but that was 20years ago and now I'm the one who gets the call or email from a friend needing to vent or just wanting to talk, it goes from gentle to extreme in caring for the ones i honeslty care about
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    jprichva saidBah. I'm the guy who pushes the old ladies in front of the speeding bus.

    They always push first! icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    Socially I'm the furthest thing from an alpha male, I just want to make friends and have fun. But of the people I love I'm tenaciously protective emotionally and physically. I'm the first person to throw down when someone is threatened or 'mother them' when they're down.
    I don't know if I would say I'm protective in general but I have a very strong sense of ethical behavior. I really, really don't like bullies in any form and hate when someone tries to use physical intimidation to get their way. It doesn't matter who it is directed at, it can be a total stranger. I'd much rather have someone else take care of things because I'd prefer to sit back and go "Yeah, what he said". But I'm never averse to a verbal or physical confrontation. And have had more than a few brawls where my temper is cut loose. I had a raging temper in my 20's, now it's a bit tempered but still there but just for injustice... not spilled drinks.
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:45 PM GMT
    LILTANKER, So far you were hot... Now you have moved up on my list all the way to really attractive.
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    Jan 10, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
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    jprichva saidBah. I'm the guy who pushes the old ladies in front of the speeding bus.

    They always push first! icon_wink.gif


    hahaha, it's much more productive to just steal their hand bag, although old ladies have the bad habit of never having much cash on them.

    anyway, i live with my mother who's 84 . So of course i'm looking out for her.
    But she's very realistic and pragmatic about what she can and cannot do, so if she says she "can do it", i don't worry about it and let her be.
    Nothing worse than treating an elderly like a retard or patronizing them.
    Plus , i'm the retard.

    I've never had the occasion to play hero though so i can't assume i'd be one.