Jan 10, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
I believe this is a complicated issue because gay men unfortunately have intimacy issues such as fear of commitment, fear of engulfment by the other partner, fear of loss of autonomy and independence.
When two men are interested in pursing an emotional relationship, very often neither has the faintest idea of what it means to relate in an intimate and noncompetitive way. They also may have to overcome other challenges such as their own unresolved homophobia. It may be difficult for some gay men to accept the love of another man when they really have not learned to appreciate and value their own gay self.
Also, becoming seriously involved and making a commitment to another man, including living together, getting to know each other's families, co-renting or jointly purchasing an apartment or house, can lead to inner turmoil for gay men who have strong intimacy issues.