Do You Like to be Approached?

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    Jan 11, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    Was at one of my favorite Starbucks today waiting for my drink, and there was a very attractive man next to me. Didn't end up saying anything because I couldn't figure out if he wanted to be approached or not.

    Do you guys like to be approached / have someone start a conversation with you? (Especially in non-bar environments?)

    I figure a compliment is a compliment, but also could be awkward if I'm not his type.
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    Jan 11, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    sure, if I catch the eye of a hottie I'll go over and say hello, I'd like the same to happen to me.. it wont happen, but it would be nice
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:15 AM GMT
    It always feels good when someone shows intrest done respectfully.
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:23 AM GMT
    How are you guys able to know if a guy is interested? Some guys are too shy to show any feeling.
  • inmidair

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    Jan 11, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    CityJock12 saidSome guys are too shy to show any feeling.


    I have this problem pretty bad, actually. If I have a crush on a guy, I find myself emphatically playing it down to the point where I appear apathetic or even cold toward him. This... is not a winning strategy.
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:40 AM GMT
    Yes......is this an emergency??? If so please dial 911

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    Jan 11, 2010 9:19 AM GMT
    depends who it is and what type of convo they want to strike up...
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    Jan 11, 2010 9:21 AM GMT
    CityJock12 saidHow are you guys able to know if a guy is interested? Some guys are too shy to show any feeling.

    If you watch them closely, they show what they are feeling, if they are shy they try to look when you aren't looking, look a little freaked when they realise you can see'em, sometimes go a little red, sometimes shuffle about a bit, get a little twitchy.. stuff like that
  • GQjock

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:32 AM GMT
    I'm open to talking with everyone
    but that doesn't mean I'm open to trollish behavior
  • drypin

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:50 AM GMT
    I love it. Totally makes my day.

    If I'm not interested in the guy, I still make a moment of small talk then indicate I have some studying to get done and pull out my book, wishing him a good day (in normal language, not like Professor Higgins).

    If you should ever see me at your favorite Starbucks, feel free to come up and chat!
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    Jan 11, 2010 11:53 AM GMT
    Nothing wrong when someone approaches me or tries to make a talk. Problem arises when that guy won't take the hint and leave...
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    Jan 11, 2010 12:12 PM GMT
    Hillie saidIt always feels good when someone shows intrest done respectfully.


    I don't think I could have said this better. I prefer non club environments actually for myself. Too many other elements involved there for a decent conversation.
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    Jan 11, 2010 12:39 PM GMT
    It is a compliment, regardless of outcome. I always respect someone taking the time to approach and at least speak to me. The odds are not good that I would be able to do the same, which makes it even more appreciated when it happens to me.
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Jan 11, 2010 12:43 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'm cool with it. I'm a pretty shy guy, so unless I've had a couple drinks, I likely will not do the approaching, and if I do, at that point it might be embarrassing.
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    Jan 11, 2010 1:21 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidsure, if I catch the eye of a hottie I'll go over and say hello, I'd like the same to happen to me.. it wont happen, but it would be nice



    Hello.
  • bryjeepguy

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    Jan 11, 2010 1:27 PM GMT
    I would love to be approached, it has only really happened once to me its very complimentary. I am not good at approaching others so I personally appreciate it greatly.
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    Jan 11, 2010 3:06 PM GMT
    nhill saidDo you guys like to be approached / have someone start a conversation with you? (Especially in non-bar environments?)


    I love to be approached but I'm told my body language doesn't always convey it. It's an area I am trying to work on in life... being more approachable. It is nice if there is some eye contact first, that way I can give my "come and get me" eyes.

    On another note, where I live (Southern Oregon) being approached by someone in a non-gay establishment might make me feel awkward. So I think I'd like to be approached as if you'd known me for years. I'd play along after initially being a little surprised. Don't know if this applies where you are, but just some thoughts.
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    Jan 11, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Yes. I would prefer it that way than vice versa. To spare me of palpitations and cold sweats then my stuttering speech as I try to say Hello to you. icon_sad.gif
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    Jan 11, 2010 3:28 PM GMT
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    I love to be approached but I'm told my body language doesn't always convey it. It's an area I am trying to work on in life... being more approachable. .[/quote]

    A little adjustment to your body language is good but don't overthink it. Just be yourself.
  • Stephan

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    Jan 11, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    Sure! and if they don't I do!
    Life is too short to miss a good opportunity!
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    Jan 11, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    I've never been approached, but I would appreciate it. I'm trying to work on making myself approachable...
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    Jan 11, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    Doesn't everyone like to be approached?
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Jan 11, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    I tear my heart open. My weakness is... Just to feel.


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    Jan 11, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    I do but feel very uncomfortable and find the usually approached by someone I'm not really interested in being approached by. As for approaching, don't very often unless there are clear signs of interest in chatting.
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    Jan 11, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    I don't mind being approached. It's always sweet when you meet someone new.