I have a confession....I am a hoarder

  • zakariahzol

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    Jan 11, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    Not as extreme as those folk with stuff all over their house that they cant even walk. But it very difficult for me to rid of things. I know some of you guys will accuse me for being lazy. But eventhough I clean my house, I find it hard to throw things away. I keep thinking, I might need this latter, it a momento from my trip , this stuff is something I buy with my ex, I can wear this when I lose weight , I cant lose this document and all other excuse.

    I am determined to cure myself from this bad habit. Any suggestion (beside seeing a pyscologist)? Anybody else in the same boat with me? Perhap we could help each other.

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    Jan 11, 2010 4:30 PM GMT
    Part w/ small stuff 1st (documents, keychains frm trips. ashtrays etc..) Then wrk your way to larger items
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    Jan 11, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    If you haven’t used an article of clothing in three months, donate it.

    Go through your papers, if you haven’t touched a document in a year (provided it’s not tax related), shred it.

    If you are out shopping, and you feel the urge to buy something you “LIKE,” put it down and continue shopping for things you “NEED.”

    That’s my 2 cents.

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    Jan 11, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    Yup. I'd suggest donating it to charity. That way you're not "throwing it out", but instead taking stuff that's sitting around doing nothing and helping someone out today. I did it recently with most of my clothes. Felt great.

    I've also wondered how many hoarders grew up poor? If you realize you can afford to replace something, you might not feel the need to keep "stocking up" and holding onto junk for so long.
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    Jan 11, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    Are you a true hoarder or a pack rat?

    I define a pack rat as someone who holds onto things but when sparked by something or someone will realize that things have got to go and trash donate etc the items.

    I see you said that you cannot whatsoever throw things away, do you fell an emotional attachment to your belongings? It could be wise to hire a organizer or seek some guidance before the problem gets too far gone.

    There is nothing wrong with having things, having more than what you need is where it gets tricky.
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    Jan 11, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    A nice rule of thumb could be: if you haven't used it or seen it in 6 months, you don't need it. It worked for my dad who has a similar problem.
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    Jan 11, 2010 6:18 PM GMT
    Both of my parents were hoarders and I think I see a common thread with you. They attached emotions to 'things' when the emotions really were already in their minds. After they both passed away, my brothers and I went through everything and 99% was donated or tossed.
    I kept only 2 things from them, a crystal ashtray and a Jello mold. My mother was a great cook and my dad could never give up cigarettes. Believe it or not, those things remind me of them more than the ton of stuff they hoarded.
  • healthseeker

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    Jan 11, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    I definitely have trouble throwing things away but I agree with SeaSon that donating them is a good solution. That way you know the items are not being wasted but will be used by someone who needs them more than you.

    I think the question is why are you reluctant to part with the items - do you feel they hold memories or sentimental value that you think would be lost without holding on to the physical item or do you not want to be wasteful?
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    Jan 11, 2010 9:09 PM GMT
    I hate disorganization. Everything at my place has a spot to go. If I don't use something or wear certain clothes, I get rid of them. I might throw it away, sell it or give it to Goodwill. Although...I would never throw good clothes away.

    Anyway good luckicon_smile.gif

    Has anyone seen this show? I think it's on tonight.

    http://www.aetv.com/hoarders/

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    Jan 11, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    Take pictures of things you have trouble parting with emotionally. With the pictures, you can keep the memory even if you discard the object.
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    Jan 11, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidTake pictures of things you have trouble parting with emotionally. With the pictures, you can keep the memory even if you discard the object.


    That's an excellent idea. At one time I collected, of all things, handcrafted wood log cabins. I sold them on ebay, and kept the photos of them for a frame collage.

    Another rule: Don't buy something new unless you can get rid of something of equal size.
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    Jan 11, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    eBay
  • Rookz

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    *sob* I hoard... Pokemon cards
    ... actually, children who hoard Pokemon cards. I gotha catch them all, then make the kids fight each other for my amusement.
  • mcwclewis

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    I have trouble throwing things away too.



    Usually I'm able to get rid of enough to keep my place clean though... my need for a clean house is stronger than my hatred for throwing things out.


    I usually start (trying) to toss things if I realize I haven't touched them in a few months (aside from seasonal objects, of course)
  • coolarmydude

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
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    "You need to watch my show, Clean House!"
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    Jan 11, 2010 11:34 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidniecy.jpg

    "You need to watch my show, Clean House!"


    Niecy be my baby mamma, haha.

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    My mom is such a hoarder! Seriously she has so much stuff I'm thinking of calling Clean House. Furniture on top of furniture. New furniture she bought while the old furniture is pushed in another room. It's ridiculous.

    I'm the opposite. Since I grew up in a hoarding environment, I tend to not get useless junk. My place is so bare, but I'd rather keep it that way. Less time needed to clean up.
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    Jan 11, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    Is it TRULY hoarding? Or is it merely being a pack-rat? I tend to be a pack rat, although most of my stuff is books.

    I don't think I'm at the level where Miss Niecy would say...

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    "Mayhem and foolishness!"

    But I do have a good deal of stuff. I think that's actually normal. Keepsakes are ways to keep a memory alive, and can sometimes still carry the "vibes" of the person who gave the keepsake to you. For that alone, I find such things important to keep.

    And I just hafta say, not only do I think Miss Niecy is HOTTT as can be ("UHHH! I'm goin' in!") but I fell in love with her personality on CLEAN HOUSE. I think she's doing wonderful things for people.
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    Jan 11, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    Lots of good advice here already. One more thing:
    Start small, like 1 closet or one room, but don't plan on going through our whole place at once. (And moving stuff to another place in your home doesn't count)
    That way my bf (who is a bit of a pack-rat) and I slowly work our way across our apt.
  • Webster666

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    Jan 12, 2010 12:43 AM GMT
    Sounds like a Taurus...
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    Jan 12, 2010 12:53 AM GMT
    Webster666 saidSounds like a Taurus...


    That's a bunch of bull!icon_wink.gif

    Too good a chance to pass up. Sorry.
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    Jan 12, 2010 1:18 AM GMT
    There is a great documentary called "My Mother's Garden" on hoarding.

  • Webster666

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    Jan 12, 2010 1:48 AM GMT
    That could be my mother.
    She has always saved absolutely everything.
    There are paths through her house among the piles of junk.
    No rats, no cats, no cockroaches..
    Just junk.
  • MarvelClimber

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    Jan 12, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    Watch the A&E tv show Hoarders... that will give you some perspective. The first time I saw it a lady had so much stuff piled up in her house that upon literally shoveling the layers away they exposed a dead, completely flattened cat. And later they found another. If you are heading in that direction... seek help now! icon_lol.gifHoarders is an extreme where you see people living in squalor because they are entombed by items that have become trash. Clean House is a much lighter show, though they both aim to expose the person's psychological need to hoard.

    You don't need to retain things just to keep the memory the item invokes. To get rid of pictures and clothes you can start scrapbooking. Just cut out the logo or take a swatch of fabric and write down some things about it. Concerned about documents? Scan them, back up to 2 types of media and put it in a safe deposit box. Ask someone who knows you well and that you trust and respect to help you sift through your things. They can provide you an outlet and they can push back on irrational justifications. You can't exactly argue with yourself. We have to take care of our minds just as well as our bodies. Seeing a therapist for a mental checkup isn't out of the ordinary.
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    Jan 12, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
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    From Publishers Weekly
    Veteran "organizational consultant," TV show host and author Walsh (How to Organize (Just About) Everything) has more ideas in his latest book on clutter management than the spare closet has junk, and, even better, it's organized, in-depth and entirely user-friendly. Part One examines the "Clutter Problem": how it happens, how it hampers and how to face it without excuses or discouragement. Part Two presents a step-by-step approach to "Putting Clutter in its Place," which begins with "surface clutter" and developing a household plan before moving on to the bulk of the book, a walkthrough of each room in the home. Also included are ideas for involving other family members, letters Walsh has received from viewers of his TLC show "Clean Sweep," vignettes illustrating how real people deal with common organizational challenges and plenty of charts, checklists and sidebars ("Clutter Quiz," "Yard Sale Planning") for added utility. Walsh is upbeat and funny throughout, treating the task at hand like "a thrilling archeological dig," a "positive and exciting" way to unlock your "ideal home" and "unearth those things that are most important in your life." Entertaining and instructive, this is one guidebook readers should place in their "keep" pile.

    http://www.amazon.com/Its-All-Too-Much-Living/dp/0743292650/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_b#noop