I’ve got a PERFECT BODY, though sometimes I forget

  • Neon_Dreams

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    Jan 11, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    Do you guys look in the mirror and see something different from that of what others see?

    What are your thoughts on BDD? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder

    What is a Perfect Body anyway?


    Joe
  • trevchaser

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    Jan 11, 2010 7:58 PM GMT
    I think it's all about taking for granted what we see/have/experience on a daily basis.

    We may not have the perfect body in the view to the general masses that magazine portray but as long as we're happy with ourselves, that's perfect in itself. Is it a disorder, or is it just a self image problem? If it is a disorder then I guess I can't relate to it.

    I just know that I take for granted I'm healthy, that I can walk, or maybe that I can even talk.

    Some people in this world don't even have any/all three of those. Just be happy with who you are, but don't beat yourself up about it. Just have an attitude to work on yourself everyday and share those vibes with everyone you come in contact with.
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:06 PM GMT
    BDD is serious. I was a major suffer (and sadly, on occasion still am). First step was buying a place with no mirrors.

    Really, it is a disorder that prevents people from seeing who they really are (not a metaphysical level, just purely physical). I can stare in the mirroir for hours and fail to see what Narcissus saw; all I see are faults.

    But that is self-pity, it is ugly, it is nasty. BDD should be taken seriously, that is the point.

    Other than that, I am off to eat something tasty.
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:38 PM GMT
    I *love* my body, it's perfect for me... I don't give a rats ass what anyone else thinks about it.
    It has carried me many, many miles through races and through *all* of my life's trials and tribulations, some beautiful, some very ugly. I look at it every morning and am thankful all my parts work and that I'm given the blessing of moving through another day of my life with it in tact. I stare at it in a full length mirror every morning while I get ready for work sometimes naked, sometimes in boxers always amazed at how it works.
    My body is my vehicle, my shell, the outward standard for how I feel inside about all the parts that are me, some need work, some will change over time but when I look in the mirror I see perfection...in all it's flaws, strengths and inconsistencies.
    I love me and that's what matters most.
  • jrs1

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    Jan 11, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    Pinny said
    Other than that, I am off to eat something tasty.


    ha. I liked that.
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    Jan 11, 2010 8:42 PM GMT
    I really doubt if it's possible for anyone to truly see themselves as others do. I don't think I can do it, and maybe that's for the best. In recent months I put on some muscle and thought to myself "Well finally my mutant pumpkin head will start to look in proportion to my shoulders" - Then a friend, whose opinion I trust, said "You look good - but you'd better not get any bigger - you're going to look like a little fire plug......and it's making you look like a pin head...". So who knows? I always feel that with gay guys it is safe to keep working on your butt and arms icon_wink.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jan 11, 2010 8:43 PM GMT
    I know I don't have a perfect body and without having my life revolve around achieving one through working out, hormones and cosmetic surgery I'll never have one. I'm fine with that. Doesn't mean I can't improve what I do have.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:47 PM GMT
    VOILA! icon_cool.gif

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  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 11, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    O would some power the giftie gie us to see ourselves as others see us.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 11, 2010 11:57 PM GMT
    GQjock saidVOILA! icon_cool.gif

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    And this pic does not help my body dismorpia OK then I'm off to the gym!
  • DrobUA

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    Jan 12, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    Sorry I couldn't find one with a guy in it.

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    Jan 12, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    i have it. My body aint perfect by any means tho.
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    Jan 12, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    i am insane when it comes to my body. i have no ability to see it objectively at all. it is what it is.
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    Jan 12, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Having a perfect body is great eye candy for everyone else but it doesn't mean shit if you aren't happy. And in many ways, it is an obstacle for true happiness. People go nuts and you aren't sure if they can be trusted.You become an object, not a person.

    BDD is very real. I think I used to have it because now when I look at pictures of myself from years ago, I think I looked fantastic. But back then when I looked at the pics, I cringed. I would hate to go to the beach. I would undress and dress quickly in the locker room and never take a shower. I thought people who complmented me were lying. My friends thought I was crazy. I thought they were crazy. I thought I was simply shy.

    All that has changed. Somehow, now, when I look at myself, I am very pleased because it is a result of hard work and healthy habits. People respond to me all the time and tell me. I've never looked better.

    Validation feels good and honestly I love the attention. But no longer do other people's opinions carry so much weight. Being happy with yourself is the most important thing no matter what you look like. And if you look really good and people throw a lot of shit in your direction, just duck and say to them
    "eat your heart out baby"!

    So now I am happily making up for lost time!icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif

  • Timbales

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    Jan 12, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    innerathlete saidi am insane when it comes to my body. i have no ability to see it objectively at all. it is what it is.


    you've got an amazing build
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:42 AM GMT
    I know lot of people don't believe this is actully a condition. I have had it since I was teenager, I still deal with it each day. I don't think I will ever be able to look in the mirror and see what others may see. I am better than I use to be, but still sometimes when I look in the mirror, all I see are my flaws.
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:46 AM GMT
    What a good topic, lol

    I see my body alot less good than others might see it. I look at myself in the mirror and see lots of fat and things I could improve on. And my love handles just suck. I need to get rid of those tires quick..
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:01 AM GMT
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    Aggieboy saidWhat a good topic, lol

    I see my body alot less good than others might see it. I look at myself in the mirror and see lots of fat and things I could improve on. And my love handles just suck. I need to get rid of those tires quick..


    I think I viewed your profile like 10Xs. Love handles? Your body is Fine ,you're Fine,everything is pretty much scrumptious ahahhaah.
  • jrs1

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    I don't think of what is ' perfect, ' because that does not exist. there are shining examples of what I would not mind resembling. but to hate my body until it resembles something that it is currently not ... well ... that seems a bit counter-productive.

    there are plenty of examples of tight, muscular, lean, cut, and defined bodies on this very site ... and in this very day and age, the internet presents many examples as though it were just that simple for each and every person.

    if it were easy, we'd be complaining about something else ...

    a simple search will tell you that ' perfect ' is a word that is thrown around more often than those three words (i.e., I love you):

    example:



    I think this is a an enticing build and anything beyond this would be simply what it is ... outstanding:

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:03 AM GMT
    I definitely see many flaws in my body. To me, having the perfect body is being "perfect" at all times. From the time you wake up, to the time you go to bed. Every part of the body is well-proportioned, defined, and less than 6% body fat. That is my view of the perfect body. The day I achieve that is when I know I will have the perfect body.
  • J450N

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
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    My idea of the perfect body. YUM!
  • TallSoCal

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    I always see something differently than others. Everyone that has seen me shirtless says I have a great body, but I, personally, think I'm too skinny. Another 15 or 20 lbs would do me good. =) Hahahahahaha. That wasn't supposed to sound dirty...Or was it...icon_twisted.gif
  • Neon_Dreams

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:18 AM GMT
    Aggieboy saidWhat a good topic, lol

    I see my body alot less good than others might see it. I look at myself in the mirror and see lots of fat and things I could improve on. And my love handles just suck. I need to get rid of those tires quick..


    I can relate.

    I think that I look the best I have ever looked in my adult years-but, I can always work on improvements... When I focus on the imperfect areas, I lose sight of my whole package.

    And, yeah- love handles suck!


    Joe
  • TallSoCal

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    I think it's funny how a lot of us feel this way about our bodies, yet we continue to show them off. Haha. I'm the perfect example. I hate looking in the mirror.