IS THIS LOVE? that I am feeling

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    Jan 12, 2010 2:58 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    I guess I should present myself first.... I am an outgoing guy of average height and slender physique, live in Manhattan and I am gay. I have rarely had a problem attarcting both boys and girls; at a disco, in the mall, on the street, you name it. However, I have never been into a pattern of random relationships or sex..I dont know why, I justnever appreciated random sex.

    A few days ago, a person "entered" into my emotional life like a rocket, and ever since I have lived as if on another planet.

    He is the most beautiful straight guy I have ever seen. We met just 4 days ago, during a party.
    But ever since, my attarction to him grew beyond his looks; his beautiful skin, and eyes and nose, tall physique, blond hair and nice red lips. I know many beautiful people, but pshysical beauty has never been sifficient to get me attention for long.

    His personality is vivatious, but serious and "deep"..
    My attraction to him goes times and times and times beyond sex.
    I dont even think about sex, because I just want to be together. Whenever we are toghetehr and talking with each other, I get the most conforting, warming, inspirational feeling, my heart goes into my lungs from excitement, my eyes glitter when we look into each other's eyes and ask questions about one another, my soul flies contentedly when walk shoulder
    to shoulder on the street and bump into one another.
    Last night we were on Brooklyn bridge and we kissed and we touched our hands.
    So my question is, can my feelings not be love? Can my excitement not be passion?
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    The heart wants what it wants...and it's usually the unattainable.
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    From my perspective, it sounds like you're caught up in the excitement of meeting someone new and charming, which can be an awesome experience. But a few days isn't time enough to truly get to know another, so I wouldn't call it love. Infatuation, maybe.

    Sometimes, you meet a guy who seems so fascinating and promising in the beginning. Then, his interest in you is out like a light and he moves on to greener pastures. I'd be cautiously optimistic if I were you.
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:59 AM GMT
    tomros said So my question is, can my feelings not be love? Can my excitement not be passion?

    No they can't, you've barely met.
    Check back in a month or so.
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:00 AM GMT
    is it love? probably not.

    Is it an intense feeling of excitement and nerves? probably is
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:11 AM GMT
    tomros saidHey guys,



    He is the most beautiful straight guy I have ever seen. We met just 4 days ago, during a party.

    Last night we were on Brooklyn bridge and we kissed and we touched our hands.
    So my question is, can my feelings not be love? Can my excitement not be passion?


    Your passion has lit a spark but don't let it ignite a inferno. Play it smart your identified as gay (your wrds) and you've established he's str8. Procede w/ caution!
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:57 AM GMT

    um ... he might not be so straight after all. that sounds like something worth pursuing ... but be warned ... when trouble comes around ... that's when one's true nature shows its head.

    sure ... you can say



    ... puppy love.
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:02 AM GMT
    I said something like this on another thread once, fairly recently. And I will say it again:

    Don't listen to all the single guys who tell you to guard yourself and proceed with caution. Take a chance. If their method is correct, you'll end up single. If you take a chance and follow your heart, you have a better chance at tasting emotions that most guys here don't even know how to feel. I say enjoy it... and if it's love, you'll be able to answer that question yourself soon enough.

    Alfred Lord Tennyson: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    I have a close straight friend, the idea of him kissing another guy is way beyond his realm of conscious thought. If he told you he was straight, he's not.
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 saidI said something like this on another thread once, fairly recently. And I will say it again:

    Don't listen to all the single guys who tell you to guard yourself and proceed with caution. Take a chance. If their method is correct, you'll end up single. If you take a chance and follow your heart, you have a better chance at tasting emotions that most guys here don't even know how to feel. I say enjoy it... and if it's love, you'll be able to answer that question yourself soon enough.

    Alfred Lord Tennyson: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."


    Couldn't have said it better myself. Mind you I am single and lonely... but not for long...

    How many moats, Danny? I was think we could have three... One could be filled with Mercury. Plus I am thinking about throwing in a massive horn atop one of the turrets. There will be a massive pipe organ for you too.

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    Jan 12, 2010 5:45 AM GMT
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:56 AM GMT
    TrowelMonger said
    Couldn't have said it better myself. Mind you I am single and lonely... but not for long...

    How many moats, Danny? I was think we could have three... One could be filled with Mercury. Plus I am thinking about throwing in a massive horn atop one of the turrets. There will be a massive pipe organ for you too.



    Three is fine, but why mercury?
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    TrowelMonger said
    danisnotstr8 saidI said something like this on another thread once, fairly recently. And I will say it again:

    Don't listen to all the single guys who tell you to guard yourself and proceed with caution. Take a chance. If their method is correct, you'll end up single. If you take a chance and follow your heart, you have a better chance at tasting emotions that most guys here don't even know how to feel. I say enjoy it... and if it's love, you'll be able to answer that question yourself soon enough.

    Alfred Lord Tennyson: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."


    Couldn't have said it better myself. Mind you I am single and lonely... but not for long...

    How many moats, Danny? I was think we could have three... One could be filled with Mercury. Plus I am thinking about throwing in a massive horn atop one of the turrets. There will be a massive pipe organ for you too.



    Can I move into the "basement"? I just need some room for my stuff. Sound proof floors, right?
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:00 AM GMT
    Why am I the only one who sees someone with 1 post and instantly sees 'FAKER!?"

    Did you copy that out of a Sweet Vallley High novel? Nobody in their right minds would come to a site like RJ to post a "Brought to you by Splenda" love story and ask for advice on it.

    Nobody aged 23 would ever call it a Disco. Troll.
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    badmikeyt saidWhy am I the only one who sees someone with 1 post and instantly sees 'FAKER!?"

    Did you copy that out of a Sweet Vallley High novel? Nobody in their right minds would come to a site like RJ to post a "Brought to you by Splenda" love story and ask for advice on it.

    Nobody aged 23 would ever call it a Disco. Troll.


    OMG. *Dies*
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:06 AM GMT
    badmikeyt saidWhy am I the only one who sees someone with 1 post and instantly sees 'FAKER!?"

    Did you copy that out of a Sweet Vallley High novel? Nobody in their right minds would come to a site like RJ to post a "Brought to you by Splenda" love story and ask for advice on it.

    Nobody aged 23 would ever call it a Disco. Troll.



    Splenda......bhaaaaaaaaa


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    Jan 12, 2010 6:09 AM GMT
    this can develop into love, but he has to love you the same for it to work. this is how my relationship developed. If he feels the same about you, you have a good start to a loving relationship that will last. but for me it took another whole year for this puppy love to solidify into true love.
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    badmikeyt saidWhy am I the only one who sees someone with 1 post and instantly sees 'FAKER!?"

    Did you copy that out of a Sweet Vallley High novel? Nobody in their right minds would come to a site like RJ to post a "Brought to you by Splenda" love story and ask for advice on it.

    Nobody aged 23 would ever call it a Disco. Troll.


    ding ding ding! We have a winner!icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
    G_Force saidthis can develop into love, but he has to love you the same for it to work. this is how my relationship developed. If he feels the same about you, you have a good start to a loving relationship that will last. but for me it took another whole year for this puppy love to solidify into true love.

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  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 12, 2010 6:15 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said
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    Christ always preferred the company of men
    And he never was ashamed of his love for them
    There are some who think Saint John was his 'special friend'
    But many more the idea would just offend...
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    Any flamy gay that holds hands with and kisses a large-lipped straight man on the Brooklyn Bridge should be spoon fed to Snookie.
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:38 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    TrowelMonger said
    danisnotstr8 saidI said something like this on another thread once, fairly recently. And I will say it again:

    Don't listen to all the single guys who tell you to guard yourself and proceed with caution. Take a chance. If their method is correct, you'll end up single. If you take a chance and follow your heart, you have a better chance at tasting emotions that most guys here don't even know how to feel. I say enjoy it... and if it's love, you'll be able to answer that question yourself soon enough.

    Alfred Lord Tennyson: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."


    Couldn't have said it better myself. Mind you I am single and lonely... but not for long...

    How many moats, Danny? I was think we could have three... One could be filled with Mercury. Plus I am thinking about throwing in a massive horn atop one of the turrets. There will be a massive pipe organ for you too.



    Can I move into the "basement"? I just need some room for my stuff. Sound proof floors, right?


    Yes I will build you a labyrinth and send David Bowie down there to keep you company.
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    TrowelMonger said
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    TrowelMonger said
    danisnotstr8 saidI said something like this on another thread once, fairly recently. And I will say it again:

    Don't listen to all the single guys who tell you to guard yourself and proceed with caution. Take a chance. If their method is correct, you'll end up single. If you take a chance and follow your heart, you have a better chance at tasting emotions that most guys here don't even know how to feel. I say enjoy it... and if it's love, you'll be able to answer that question yourself soon enough.

    Alfred Lord Tennyson: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."


    Couldn't have said it better myself. Mind you I am single and lonely... but not for long...

    How many moats, Danny? I was think we could have three... One could be filled with Mercury. Plus I am thinking about throwing in a massive horn atop one of the turrets. There will be a massive pipe organ for you too.



    Can I move into the "basement"? I just need some room for my stuff. Sound proof floors, right?


    Yes I will build you a labyrinth and send David Bowie down there to keep you company.


    Deal! And as long as we're talking labyrinths, can you throw in a flesh eating minotaur too?
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:41 AM GMT
    Hello - It doesn't sound like love to me, it sounds like fixation or infatuation. Your description of his physical appearance is far more detailed than that of his personality. Although you did use the word "vivacious", which says a lot about each of you. I personally associate that word with beauty queens, actresses of dubious taste (that would be 99.9%) and certain kinds of housewives.
    Maybe he's not straight, maybe he's a vivacious hostess who just needs to meet the right man.
    I used to live in Manhattan. Are you a native New Yorker? The reason I ask is because most people who can afford to live in Manhattan these days are highly educated and know how to spell or are at least savvy enough to use a spell checker.
    Slightly off topic, I have noticed that a lot of posters here very freely volunteer examples of how many people they attract or how hot they are etc. I mention that because people who are remarkably attractive rarely point it out, they just let the pictures speak for themselves. Maybe it's a gay thing or a generational thing.
    Anyway - thanks for re-introducing me to my new favorite word "Vivacious"

    "He gives really vivacious head!"
    "Your asshole is totally vivacious!"
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 12, 2010 7:08 AM GMT