Would You Give Up?

  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:08 AM GMT
    If you were crushing on a guy and you were in the process of getting to know the guy and getting along well, and suddenly he stopped speaking to you and asked you to not speak to him any longer, would you...

    A) Respect his request, and distance yourself from him all together

    -or-

    B) Allow him time to cool off and see what his issue is with you icon_question.gif
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    ya shrug and move on.. if he doesn't have the decency to tell you upfront what's wrong, he's not worth the effort or emotional turmoil that it can cause.

  • jgymnast733

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:16 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidya shrug and move on.. if he doesn't have the decency to tell you upfront what's wrong, he's not worth the effort or emotional turmoil that it can cause.


    That right LiLTanker,icon_exclaim.gif
    That Zero isnt the only man out there...
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    Jan 12, 2010 4:17 AM GMT
    I generally agree with 'Tanker...but I would still be crushed and curious as to "why"....is there an STD or something?
  • jrs1

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidwould you...

    A) Respect his request, and distance yourself from him all together


    yup ... there are other things I could be thinking about.

    um ... gotta keep it pushin'. keep it movin':



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    Jan 12, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    It seems like childish behavior. You deserve acknowledgement and the fact that he has very little regard for your feelings should be a tall tale sign. If he wanted to wrk things out he would throw the issue on the table but his actions seem to be dismissive. let him go. So many men so little time how could you loose?
  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]Sporty_g said[/cite]I generally agree with 'Tanker...but I would still be crushed and curious as to "why"....is there an STD or something?[/quote]

    No there was no shagging involved lol, yeah that's what i pretty much decided to do, but my best friend felt I should at least find out if there was some misunderstanding, but I'm over it. Thanks Guys!!!
  • masculumpedes

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    This has just recently happened to me also (with the exception of asking me to not speak to him again). He just all of a sudden stopped all communication...no texts, no phone calls, e-mails, etc. and has not responded to mine. The last time we did talk he was having some personal problems and I realize that we all handle things differently, but when the days turn into weeks and still nothing....at least give a guy an explanation. 106.gif
  • baldone

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    Jan 12, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    malefeet saidThis has just recently happened to me also (with the exception of asking me to not speak to him again). He just all of a sudden stopped all communication...no texts, no phone calls, e-mails, etc. and has not responded to mine. The last time we did talk he was having some personal problems and I realize that we all handle things differently, but when the days turn into weeks and still nothing....at least give a guy an explanation. 106.gif
    thats the least he could do...you deserve at least an explanation...maybe he is having problems and you could help him with it...
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    Jan 12, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    or


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.
  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 12, 2010 5:46 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidor


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.



    Okkaaaaaaaay Guerilla no more Dexter for you, turn off the t.v and step away slowly, and let me see those hands icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:01 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite saidor


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.


    I would choose C, but then you can also tie him to the tree, cut off his legs, and watch him being slowly fed to the wolves. Perhaps sprinkle some salt to prevent massive bleeding, so he doesn't miss out on anything?
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:39 AM GMT
    cook his rabbit or trash his car and if that doesn't work - slit your wrists....
    OK - SERIOUSLY - Does this happen to you a lot? Maybe he's fucked up (many gay guys are socially retarded and that's just for starters!) But I always like to make sure I didn't play any part in it as well - was there really nothing to generate this change in him? A conversation or some incident?
    I got blown off by someone once and found out later that he lied about his HIV status and couldn't deal with explaining it to me. Another guy said "I do love to smoke pot" - that was fine with me & we were getting along ok till he broke it off without any explanation. As it turns out I'm into healthy things and he was into way heavier drugs than just smoking pot.
    Sometimes I fuck it up and it takes me a while to figure out what I did. The guy doesn't feel he knows me well enough to go into some analytic explanation about my reactions w/e.
    Anyway - I'd leave him alone.
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:43 AM GMT
    I wouldn't bother with him anymore.

    I can get upset too easily and I wouldn't want to drag the hurt out.
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:53 AM GMT
    stevee90 said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidor


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.


    I would choose C, but then you can also tie him to the tree, cut off his legs, and watch him being slowly fed to the wolves. Perhaps sprinkle some salt to prevent massive bleeding, so he doesn't miss out on anything?


    Fantastic idea, Stevee. However, we might need to substitute a hot poker or hand held propane torch though. You see, my poor wolves are getting on in years and are on a sodium restricted diet. A real shame too. They did so love it when I made them prosciutto wrapped twink with diced pancetta.
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    Jan 12, 2010 8:14 AM GMT
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    stevee90 said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidor


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.


    I would choose C, but then you can also tie him to the tree, cut off his legs, and watch him being slowly fed to the wolves. Perhaps sprinkle some salt to prevent massive bleeding, so he doesn't miss out on anything?


    Fantastic idea, Stevee. However, we might need to substitute a hot poker or hand held propane torch though. You see, my poor wolves are getting on in years and are on a sodium restricted diet. A real shame too. They did so love it when I made them prosciutto wrapped twink with diced pancetta.


    Hmmm a hot poker sounds tempting, but wouldn't that cook his meat too much and urin your wolves' appetite? We can always use dry ice to temporarily freeze his limbs, though I hope your wolves don't have brittle fangs that are sensitive to cold food.
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    Jan 13, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    stevee90 said
    GuerrillaSodomite said
    stevee90 said
    GuerrillaSodomite saidor


    C) rape him to death with a frozen mackerel, mutilate his corpse with a weed-wacker, drop it off in the middle of the woods and return occasionally to roll about in the decomposing remains.


    I would choose C, but then you can also tie him to the tree, cut off his legs, and watch him being slowly fed to the wolves. Perhaps sprinkle some salt to prevent massive bleeding, so he doesn't miss out on anything?


    Fantastic idea, Stevee. However, we might need to substitute a hot poker or hand held propane torch though. You see, my poor wolves are getting on in years and are on a sodium restricted diet. A real shame too. They did so love it when I made them prosciutto wrapped twink with diced pancetta.


    Hmmm a hot poker sounds tempting, but wouldn't that cook his meat too much and urin your wolves' appetite? We can always use dry ice to temporarily freeze his limbs, though I hope your wolves don't have brittle fangs that are sensitive to cold food.


    I got them titanium dentures for x-mas so it's not an issue.
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    Jan 13, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    A)
    Unfortunately I'm not into begging for attention.
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    Jan 13, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    I would attempt to contact him 1 or 2 times. I would like to know what went wrong, especially if many things before were going right. After the 2nd try, I would probably kick the dirt off of my shoes and move on. He wouldn't be worth too much of my time.icon_cool.gif
  • PipHop

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    Jan 13, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    Men are like buses, another one's coming along soon and headed the same direction you are. Honestly though, if someone does that, then I'll bet dollars to donuts, you've done something you don't think he knows about, he found out and is livid.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 13, 2010 5:54 AM GMT
    Look, man. The guy asked you to step off. You're clearly an inadequate lover, a liar, a freak, or all of the above. Seriously, the only thing that could make you into more of a douchebag is if you continued to stalk the dude. Leave the poor man alone. He's had enough of you.
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:23 AM GMT
    NyRuinz saidIf you were crushing on a guy and you were in the process of getting to know the guy and getting along well, and suddenly he stopped speaking to you and asked you to not speak to him any longer, would you...

    A) Respect his request, and distance yourself from him all together

    -or-

    B) Allow him time to cool off and see what his issue is with you icon_question.gif

    Definitely (A) here, in my opinion. Less pain and suffering for all persons involved.

    As someone who's experienced this situation from the opposite perspective, it's best to leave the guy alone. If he's decided to cut you out of his life completely, he's probably doing you a favour... and although you may feel hurt and confused following his actions, it's likely he's feeling just as awful for doing it in the first place. He could have major issues, and may be trying to protect you from any further harm he might cause you, in his own warped way.

    On the other hand, like danisnotstr8 may be alluding to, there's always two sides to the story. Your view on the preceding events may have been totally clouded by the emotions you harbour towards him, and you may have freaked him out. That, or your perception of reality is just totally different to his. Less realistic, perhaps?

  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 13, 2010 6:58 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 saidLook, man. The guy asked you to step off. You're clearly an inadequate lover, a liar, a freak, or all of the above. Seriously, the only thing that could make you into more of a douchebag is if you continued to stalk the dude. Leave the poor man alone. He's had enough of you.


    Look Troll, go take your ass back under the bridge where you came from, and continue picking with the fungus between your toes. I am sure you are an expert on being dropped.
  • NyRuinz

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    Jan 13, 2010 7:06 AM GMT
    Thanx Guys for the feedback, he actually called me and told me it was a huge misunderstanding. Someone who I assumed was a friend did not like the fact that me and this guy were getting to know one another, so he decided to go Steven Spielberg on us and create a hefty story to prevent us from dating. The guy apologized for what he said, but I also told him I would prefer if he didn't call me anymore because he did not handle the situation in an adult manner and I don't date guys who conduct themselves like children. I feel he could have came to me and discussed what he heard, but instead he chose to allow someone he barely knows feed him lies (and something else)icon_eek.gif.
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:16 AM GMT
    Respect his request and distance yourself from him all together...

    Nothing else you can do. It's his loss, not yours.
    Just keep your chin up high and know someone else will appreciate you more and realize you're not worth loosing. Having some confidence in yourself will help you get over it too. Good luck with everything!