Comparing yourself to others?

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    Jan 12, 2010 5:20 PM GMT



    Do you guys compare yourself to others?

    Yes?
    No?

    Do you think it's healthy?
    or
    Not healthy to compare yourself to others?
  • Nayro

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    Jan 12, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    always!

    yeah sometimes its healhy if i think, man i'm glad I dont look like that icon_razz.gif
    Sometimes its unhealthy, when i think, I wish I looked more like him icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:17 PM GMT
    Sure but not in a deprecating way more of an observant assessment way.
    Example of internal dialogue:
    "Developed arms and shoulders, works out for looks not function, he'll hit hard but he's probably slow with a poor range of motion and terrible cardio capacity. Toy with him till he wears himself out, strike low (probably knees) and fast."
    "He's lean and light, probably fast with stamina but not terribly strong, asses a potential fighting stance (boxing or martial arts), a busted nose will slow him down, go in hard and precise."
    "He looks like he might kill you, take out his eyes."
    "He looks like fun... let him win."
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:20 PM GMT
    I used too much more than I do now. It was kind of sad, consistently looking at the other guys in the gym wishing my this or that was more defined. And Saturday mornings on race day was the toughest, since I'd be looking at all the guys waiting to start the swim leg and think my upper body was the worst on the beach. Lol, so silly.

    First I realized the body I have is my special gift from the universe. Then I realized the best thing I can do is work to maximize it with realistic expectations. And finally I understood that it's not about being better than anybody else, but being a better me. Putting in the time and effort is to improve me for me, not impress anyone or look better on the beach. So mentally I feel much better on race day and at the gym.
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:22 PM GMT
    That was a pretty cool video.

    I think it's human nature to compare yourself to others — but some people do it more than others. Part of it is self-confidence, ("I wonder if this shirt makes me look too scrawny"), some is insecurity ("I want to fit in better"), some of it is simple envy ("I wish I could get that jacked").

    Personally, I find myself doing it all the time. Less so as I get older, but I still do it. On one hand it gives us something to strive toward if it's an attainable goal like getting in shape. The unhealthy thing is telling yourself things that you have no control over, like "my eyes are too small," or "I wish I was young again."

  • Rookz

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    Jan 12, 2010 6:27 PM GMT
    That's a sweet video!

    I do compare myself to others, then I tell myself I am glad I am me. I wouldn't want to be a clone of someone else. I am glad I have gotten to this point of my life where I'm happy being me, to feel comfortable in your own skin.

    What I would do to go back in time and smack my younger self and say, "Be happy with who you are! In some shape form or matter, you are better off being you."
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    Jan 12, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    Yeah I look at others and say thats nice or what not,
    BUT I would NOT want to be EXACTLY like anyone else

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    Jan 12, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    Yeah. I do it.
    I do it mainly at the gym. I’ll look at one guy and think,”I would like to have his chest,” or, “I wish my legs were as thick as his.”

    But I use it to motivate myself. I work my chest more, and have received some compliments on the change. My backside has improved from my leg work. Compliments there too.

    I don’t dislike myself for all that I’m not. But I’m realizing how good it is to be me. I’m an ectomorph. I can eat almost anything without putting on fat.

    One thing I can’t change which still bugs me though. I wish I were taller, and that my hairline wasn’t receding. I will just have to accept them
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    self-comparison is the seed of delusion.
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    Jan 12, 2010 7:30 PM GMT
    I don't I am one, an individual, the only fag in the village, and you'll never find another Aussie like me,icon_razz.gif in fact I may well be the only one here?icon_cool.gif
  • GQjock

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    Jan 12, 2010 8:59 PM GMT
    We all do it .... and to some extent it's healthy
    but when you start comparing yourself and it starts getting you down and where you feel you don't measure up
    Thats where it can be dangerous
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    Jan 12, 2010 9:02 PM GMT
    "There will always be greater and lesser men than you"- Kahil Gibran ( I think)
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    Jan 12, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    That's a good video

    Yes, I frequently compare myself to others

    No, it's not healthy, at least not if you do it too much

    A limited amount is OK, as long as you do it only in a way to inspire yourself to be better

    But anything that breeds envy, jealousy, or getting down on yourself is not good

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    Jan 12, 2010 9:47 PM GMT
    Isn't that the premise of this whole site, haha!
    We can't stop comparing, it's in our nature.
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    Jan 12, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    You can compare yourself to others in a more objective way- "he is taller than me." Or you can do it in a self-deprecating way- "I wish I was as tall as him." The more content you are within yourself, you'll lean toward the former and not the latter.

    Comparison is unavoidable- its the way in which we do it that can be problematic.
  • drypin

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    Jan 13, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    Love the video... a refreshing reminder.

    Yes, I do it to. Sometimes it's even hard to accept a compliment, though I've come great strides in that regard.
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    Jan 13, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    I used to, alot, but not so much anymore. As I get older, I get more comfortable in my own skin and with who I am. I still do it to a degree, but mostly in terms of how I can improve and better myself.
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    Jan 13, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    not really, I look at a guy and go "oooers he's hot"

    Sometimes I"ll see something in someone I admire, I'll like that quality and will want that sort of quality for my self..