Really? You're 99?

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    Jan 13, 2010 5:54 AM GMT
    At what age are you supposed to give up on all your hopes and dreams and become so ashamed that you're not 21 that you just change your age on your online profiles to 99?

    As if getting older isn't bad enough in the gay world, why do so many of the people on here and other sites feel the need to exacerbate the situation by not only passive-aggressively admitting that they're old, but also ashamed of it?

    I liken it to people who twist their bodies into impossible and awkward angles to hide the 5 pounds that they haven't lost and that the rest of the thinking world knows is there. It's like Oprah wearing big sweaters. It's like Barbra Streisand and pillow-soft lenses and lighting. We're not fooled.

    Saying that you're 99 doesn't say anything positive about you, and it doesn't make people say "Wow, he looks good for his age." It says "I'm not happy with who I am and neither should you be."

    A 50 yr old guy who is comfortable in his skin and owns it is 1000x hotter than a 42 yr old guy who says he's 99 because he's ashamed of it.

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    Jan 13, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    that's why i say i'm 53, ... i really am 99 .

    but i'm not sure about the "eating right" part. icon_rolleyes.gif

    i think some rather young squires say they're 99 , they're probably 16.
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    badmikeyt saidAt what age are you supposed to give up on all your hopes and dreams and become so ashamed that you're not 21 that you just change your age on your online profiles to 99?

    As if getting older isn't bad enough in the gay world, why do so many of the people on here and other sites feel the need to exacerbate the situation by not only passive-aggressively admitting that they're old, but also ashamed of it?

    I liken it to people who twist their bodies into impossible and awkward angles to hide the 5 pounds that they haven't lost and that the rest of the thinking world knows is there. It's like Oprah wearing big sweaters. It's like Barbra Streisand and pillow-soft lenses and lighting. We're not fooled.

    Saying that you're 99 doesn't say anything positive about you, and it doesn't make people say "Wow, he looks good for his age." It says "I'm not happy with who I am and neither should you be."

    A 50 yr old guy who is comfortable in his skin and owns it is 1000x hotter than a 42 yr old guy who says he's 99 because he's ashamed of it.

    Discuss.


    Wait...but what if you're 99 and jut look REEEAAALLLY good for your age???
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
    Oh...and i didn't fully read the OP's post so my post might not make sense.

    TAKE THAT MR. SMARTY PANTS!!!!


    Srsly...I have no clue what i'm saying.

    *kisses badmikey and runs away*
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:12 AM GMT
    Oh, that's a tough one.icon_smile.gif Just off the top of my head:

    I don't know that one is ashamed of age but doesn't necessarily want to be dismissed because of aging.

    North American culture does not embrace aging, nor those that are old. We speak politely to the elderly because it's expected but we don't treat them as equals.

    My grandmother is proud to be 91 but she wishes other people would be too. Sadly, she says people seem to forget she's alive.

    I think it's important to remain current, fit, vibrant and proud of your age. The positive energy will attract others.

    It's a tough long haul that won't change in our generation.

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    Jan 13, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    26mileman saidOh, that's a tough one.icon_smile.gif
    I don't know that one is ashamed of age but doesn't necessarily want to be dismissed because of aging.


    But that's the stupidity of it - you can't change your actual age. You can't. And if you put "99" as your age, it says that you are ashamed of your age and that others SHOULD dismiss you because of it.
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:36 AM GMT
    badmikeyt said
    26mileman saidOh, that's a tough one.icon_smile.gif
    I don't know that one is ashamed of age but doesn't necessarily want to be dismissed because of aging.


    But that's the stupidity of it - you can't change your actual age. You can't. And if you put "99" as your age, it says that you are ashamed of your age and that others SHOULD dismiss you because of it.


    That's one way to look at it.

    I mean, sure - those that would brand the person due to age would look at 99 and think exactly as you do, so this does accomplish nothing.

    But it can give a slight chance for a 45 year-old in a 30 year-old's body to meet someone they otherwise may not have met... without lying. Just one example.

    I say that I am 20 because most of you wouldn't give an eleven year-old a second glance.
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:52 AM GMT
    Thanks to Viagra/Cialis and other boner pills, it's HARD to sayicon_eek.gif
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said

    But it can give a slight chance for a 45 year-old in a 30 year-old's body to meet someone they otherwise may not have met... without lying. Just one example.
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    I get that part. But why would you want to mislead someone who wouldn't be attracted to the real you - all 45 years of it? Other than maybe getting someone to glance at your profile, which means nothing, what gain is there?
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:55 AM GMT
    one of my best friends on here is 99.


    I think it´s a critique of the age thing.



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    Jan 13, 2010 7:23 AM GMT
    badmikeyt said
    ThePenIsMyTier said

    But it can give a slight chance for a 45 year-old in a 30 year-old's body to meet someone they otherwise may not have met... without lying. Just one example.
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    I get that part. But why would you want to mislead someone who wouldn't be attracted to the real you - all 45 years of it? Other than maybe getting someone to glance at your profile, which means nothing, what gain is there?


    Errrrr, the "Real you" would come out after meeting. (Personality, experience, etc) The "99" is simply to mask them, they hope to guard themselves from prejudice associated with age... If someone is attracted to a man without knowing his age, based on chatting and the information presented in his profile...then when he discovers his age - it shouldn't change his perspective.