Are people controversial on RJ to promote themselves?

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    Jan 13, 2010 6:11 PM GMT
    After 40 or so forum posts the one that got requoted and led to a quintupling of my profile views and mail messages was one where I went off on a forum member.

    That reminded me of how we gays love drama and makes me wonder - when you post something that's argumentative or negative, how much of a factor is self promotion?
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    When I post something argumentative or negative it is always because I think someone is a douche bag and I need to tell them just how much of a douche bag they are.

    It's always aimed at guys who are mean or hostile towards others... I hate bullies.
    Everyone should play nice... what can I say.... *I have ideas*
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    Jan 13, 2010 6:37 PM GMT
    Of course it's self promotion because at the end of time, there will be a big cosmic prize for whomever got in the most licks on realjock.com. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:31 PM GMT
    Not sure about that as I've had my share of flame wars, and a number of threads started up here over the years just to abuse me! Because I dared say Americanism has not been good for my county, or the world for that matter, polluting us with American fast foods, and making us unhealthy and fat, and America cults that are invading the earth and such.

    Or another time I just opened up my sole and put it on the table, and this made some here feel threatend, so they got their wagons in a circle and started to attack, this was another thread of abuse, but other RJ members did come and bat for one, but more just abused; bullies never stand on their own.

    Or the time after watching a doco about Hitler, then I come and asked something like: do you think "Hitler was a homosexual!" The hate I got just for asking that question. The things people did to have it removed, and too stop the discussion; well I at least think he was bisexual with out much doubt.

    As aid just for smiling I had people notice me and gay men won't too touch me; and they did to get attension. I can stand silently in a room and still stand out, and be targeted for attension; albeit now in gay years I'm an old bastard, I'de hope all that attension since I've gotten since 5 has slowed down.

    Yes I do come here to debate topics, as it's something I rarely get to do out here; chew the fat about homosexual issues, and many, many more other topics. I mean to sat all it take for Attention here is not to be a hatful left wing Democrat, or to sit on the fence and see both sides, or too not feel threatend by Ms Paling; Go Girl. Hope to see you in 2012, I look forward to all the entertainment.

    I've also noticed there is a big fundamental diffrence with the homosexuals in Oz and America. We are not so insecure down here! I've met in my life many right wing homosexuals down here too.

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    Jan 13, 2010 7:33 PM GMT
    Pattison saidNot sure about that as I've had my share of flame wars, and a number of threads started up here over the years just to abuse me! Because I dared say Americanism has not been good for my county, or the world for that matter, polluting us with American fast foods, and making us unhealthy and fat, and America cults that are invading the earth and such.


    It's saying things like that that get you flamed. People tend to respond vigorously to posts in which the poster displays "thinking" that is critical vs. critical thinking.
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:39 PM GMT
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    Pattison saidNot sure about that as I've had my share of flame wars, and a number of threads started up here over the years just to abuse me! Because I dared say Americanism has not been good for my county, or the world for that matter, polluting us with American fast foods, and making us unhealthy and fat, and America cults that are invading the earth and such.


    It's saying things like that that get you flamed. People tend to respond vigorously to posts in which the poster displays "thinking" that is critical vs. critical thinking.


    But I'm not responsible for other peoples issues or am I going to carry their luggage either!

    And when some one cracks the shits, and leaves RJ because of the personal abuse they receive, the bullies stand up and say things like: "it's only a forum for diffrent views, and not to be taken seriously, and shit like that to dismiss their own abuse of others.

    This is a forum for diffrent people from diffrent walks of life, and the gay community has never been one either, thus diffrent views, on many topics.
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    If you walk into a room with a big kick me sign on your back, that you put there yourself, don't act surprised when your ass is kicked.
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:50 PM GMT
    McGay saidIf you walk into a room with a big kick me sign on your back, that you put there yourself, don't act surprised when your ass is kicked.

    My sign says, "I dare you to kick me".
    *always scanning the room ready for a smack down*
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    No, when I'm feeling like being an attention hog, I just go play this game:

    http://basmajian.net/work/attention_hog/

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    Jan 13, 2010 7:54 PM GMT
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:55 PM GMT
    Pattison said
    badmikeyt said
    Pattison saidNot sure about that as I've had my share of flame wars, and a number of threads started up here over the years just to abuse me! Because I dared say Americanism has not been good for my county, or the world for that matter, polluting us with American fast foods, and making us unhealthy and fat, and America cults that are invading the earth and such.


    It's saying things like that that get you flamed. People tend to respond vigorously to posts in which the poster displays "thinking" that is critical vs. critical thinking.


    But I'm not responsible for other peoples issues or am I going to carry their luggage either!



    Nobody is saying you're responsible for other people's issues or their baggage. You're held responsible for the (often birdbrained) things that you post on these forums, which is the entire point.

    Stating that America is bad for the rest of the world is not a fact, it is your opinion. Opinions are fine, and as weird as many of yours are, they're yours. But you often times don't present your statements as your opinions, you state them as facts, and they're not.

    People who make cogent and thought-out arguments don't tend to get flamed - people will agree or disagree, some vehemently, but they don't tend to get flat-out abused.
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    Jan 13, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidWhen I post something argumentative or negative it is always because I think someone is a douche bag and I need to tell them just how much of a douche bag they are.

    It's always aimed at guys who are mean or hostile towards others... I hate bullies.
    Everyone should play nice... what can I say.... *I have ideas*


    You know how hypocritical this is? I've seen several of your other posts and you public apology for being an old cranky man. I think that the only reason people argue or act like a moron (pointing out spelling errors) is becasue they want attention.

    People in this world are going to disagree that is what a forum is for..... So you can't ask someone what they think, and then jump on their backs when they disagree. So if you are going after the bullies, you are just making yourself one in reality.
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    Jan 13, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:32 PM GMT
    well, I have to say I'm less of a diplomat in on-lline forums than in "real life".
    I never write stuff I don't mean just to stir things up, but it's often fun to add a provocative edge to your opinion icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    My experience is that the posts that draw attention to the member are the ones that stand out. That might be because they're hateful, inflammatory or downright nasty, and it might be because they're unusually provocative - either sexually or thoughtfully - or it might be because they just strike a chord with viewers for another reason.

    I've started forums that were almost entirely ignored - can't say why, and I've started forums where 20% of the people posted their "this is so boring because someone else brought this up first" pictures and gifs, but the other 80% responded. (Okay, 40% responded in the vein of the topic and the other 40% for fun).

    When someone agrees with your post... AND they find you cute... they usually visit your profile (or maybe that's just me).
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    How is being dramatic remotely unique to being gay? That is the only thing controversial about what you have posted and it is rather stupid.
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    I hunger for it!!!

    jk..

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    Jan 13, 2010 10:57 PM GMT
    Pinny saidHow is being dramatic remotely unique to being gay? That is the only thing controversial about what you have posted and it is rather stupid.


    Actually, I never even implied that loving drama was uniquely gay. But you make a good point. Perhaps I should have substituted "That reminded me of how we gays love drama" with "That reminded me of the reputation, deserved or not, we gays have for loving drama."
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said
    Actually, I never even implied that loving drama was uniquely gay.


    It is implied when you say:
    eagermuscle said
    That reminded me of how we gays love drama


    The last suggestion you gave would be the best of three nonetheless, drama isn't a gay thing, it is the stereotype people have of us and we have of ourselves. All humans are dramatic.

    There is a list of things gay people should never say:

    1.) "I am into masc-men." (no shit, all men are masculine by definition)
    2.) "Str8-acting" (not only is the spelling annoying but you aren't straight-acting you are gay, you suck dick, you like dick and you want to spend your life with a man, you aren't STRAIGHT)
    3.) "No fems" (bc you are better than people?)
    4.) "I am not drama, you shouldn't be" (O yes you are, o yes yes yes you are.)
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    usually regular posters on ANY forum are men, and all forums have lots of drama going on, has nothing to do with being gay. People in general love drama.
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    pffffft... I'm as sweet as can be.... I also have stalkers that keep ma profile views up... I love my stalkers icon_smile.gif Hello little stalkers Tanky loves you icon_smile.gif

    hehehe

    I've no idea what I"m going on about, but it's been fun, seriously!
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    Pinny said
    eagermuscle said
    Actually, I never even implied that loving drama was uniquely gay.


    It is implied when you say:
    eagermuscle said
    That reminded me of how we gays love drama




    I implied that all gays love drama, not that ONLY gays love drama. (Referencing your use of "uniquely.") And yes, that's just as bad. And yes - I'm perpetuating stereotypes getting bogged down in semantics! (We gays love semantics.)

    I agree with your list, btw.
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    eagermuscle said(We gays love semen)

    fixed.
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    Jan 13, 2010 11:55 PM GMT
    Maybe I should start being an asshole here. My gentle ways get overlooked far to often, for all the effort I put into my posts. icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif