The ultimate dating site

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    Jan 13, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    I've been on dating sites for over 10 years and have seen them evolve over time.
    However, lately, it seems most sites have become playgrounds for hooking up, rather than helping people form real, long-lasting relationships.

    So, what do you feel is missing in the current dating sites?

    What would help you find "Mr Right", rather than just "Mr Right Now"?
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:37 PM GMT

    1. Personality tests: the website should give me -- instantly -- some sort of compatibility index with someone's profile
    2. More justice:

      • People with face pictures can see all profiles (with face pics, body pics or no pics)
      • People with body pictures can only see profiles with body pictures or no pictures
      • People with no pictures can only see profiles of people with no pictures

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    Jan 13, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    It's not the dating sites that are the problem but the people.
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    all dating sights are hookup sights, i like realjock cuz it doesnt ignore sex, but doesnt capitalize on it either
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    Have you used sites like eHarmony? I'm interested to know how the background checking giants work out... Or do they have a large gay clientele?
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier saidHave you used sites like eHarmony? I'm interested to know how the background checking giants work out... Or do they have a large gay clientele?



    eharmony is run by christians they dont accept gay applicants, u gotta go to chemistry
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    waxon said
    ThePenIsMyTier saidHave you used sites like eHarmony? I'm interested to know how the background checking giants work out... Or do they have a large gay clientele?



    eharmony is run by christians they dont accept gay applicants, u gotta go to chemistry


    chemistry.com i mean...
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    waxon said
    ThePenIsMyTier saidHave you used sites like eHarmony? I'm interested to know how the background checking giants work out... Or do they have a large gay clientele?



    eharmony is run by christians they dont accept gay applicants, u gotta go to chemistry



    "Sites like eHarmony"
    Okay, how is Chemistry.com?
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    SeaSon saidI
    What would help you find "Mr Right", rather than just "Mr Right Now"?


    brilliant question, Seas.

    1. the distance (so that a personal, in-person, personably-real, in-person connection can be made; don't want no paper gangsta ...).

    2. everyone has some sort of responsibilities to which they must attend, so ... timing is also of the utmost importance ... this directly affects the quantity and perhaps quality of each communication transaction.

    I can't think of anymore and I am not even sure that what I have written has anything to do with a website ... so, perhaps, it's not the website but myself that I must work upon; would not surprise me.
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:45 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt's not the dating sites that are the problem but the people.
    *Word*
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:48 PM GMT
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    waxon said
    ThePenIsMyTier said

    Okay, how is Chemistry.com?


    it bites the dust ... matches begin to become more prevalent once your membership has expired ... perhaps that was just my experience, but ... months of few or no concrete matches ... and then once expired, the matches began to frequent my email.
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    Jan 13, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    jrs1 said
    ThePenIsMyTier said
    waxon said
    ThePenIsMyTier said

    Okay, how is Chemistry.com?


    it bites the dust ... matches begin to become more prevalent once your membership has expired ... perhaps that was just my experience, but ... months of few or no concrete matches ... and then once expired, the matches began to frequent my email.


    A brilliant scam. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    I logged onto eharmony and created a fake female profile of some some totally built, wealthy, intelligent bimbo who likes sex, the questions are seriously hard and you can tell they are trying to get into your head, same question worded different so had to take my time to create the ultimate babe.......what a riot that was, all these guys begging for her to respond....I must have been seriously bored that day
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    Jan 13, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    okcupid.com is the only dating site that I have been on that does not promote hooking up (it is for both gay and straight). It is also the only site where I have actually meet cool quality people on who are looking for real connections and not sex. Its fun and has a lot of cool stuff on it.
  • somedaytoo

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    Jan 13, 2010 10:05 PM GMT
    Try http://www.findfred.com/
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    What is missing is people using their ability to read a profile and wanting to set up house with 2 poodles with a guy whose profile only has pictures of him naked showing off his wangalang. Sure, he might be interested in having coffee and getting married some day, but he's possibly more interested in having sex right at that moment.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 14, 2010 1:02 AM GMT
    The caliber of men on connexion.org (and the entire setup) is much better than anything else I've seen.
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    Jan 14, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    Has anyone considered putting the same amount of energy and time in just socializing with people in person - you know what I mean "the old fashion way".

    I haven't anything against so called dating sites or on'line social forums. But if you are investing in a real relationship why not take the time to interact live people around you.

    Leave the on'line dating for Mr. Right Now and walk out the front door to meet Mr. Right.

    just saying....
  • Glorfindel

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    Jan 14, 2010 1:12 AM GMT
    Then the question becomes where is a good place to get QUALITY person to person interaction? Bars? Dance Clubs? HA! icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 14, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    shortmuscleguy saidI logged onto eharmony and created a fake female profile of some some totally built, wealthy, intelligent bimbo who likes sex, the questions are seriously hard and you can tell they are trying to get into your head, same question worded different so had to take my time to create the ultimate babe.......what a riot that was, all these guys begging for her to respond....I must have been seriously bored that day


    LMAO - I did something similar on a lesbian site years ago. My online name was "Aristocratic Whore". Suffice it to say AW was sought after and it certainly gave me an understanding that lesbians could be just as dirty minded as the next guy...
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    Jan 14, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    Glorfindel saidThen the question becomes where is a good place to get QUALITY person to person interaction? Bars? Dance Clubs? HA! icon_smile.gif

    Anywhere really. Put yourself in the social scene that suits YOU and thats were you'll find others with similar interest.
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    Jan 14, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    redheadguy saidIt's not the dating sites that are the problem but the people.


    exactly!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 14, 2010 5:32 AM GMT
    I've tried both FindFred and Plenty of Fish. No hits on either one, well at least from the somewhat sane looking guys.icon_lol.gif

    I've also sent off some "hello" emails, but it's hard not to sound crazy, which isn't too easy for me either. Maybe people can smell my crazy over the computer.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 14, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    JW61 saidHas anyone considered putting the same amount of energy and time in just socializing with people in person - you know what I mean "the old fashion way".

    I haven't anything against so called dating sites or on'line social forums. But if you are investing in a real relationship why not take the time to interact live people around you.

    Leave the on'line dating for Mr. Right Now and walk out the front door to meet Mr. Right.

    just saying....


    That was a pretty good answer. There's no substitute for instant physical chemistry with someone. And no, not as in sex!
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    Jan 14, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    Well I mean theres only so much a dating site can do.
    There's nothing like going out to meet people.

    Its much more magical when you wear your nicest look, go out with friends and have someone look at you with sexy smirk...

    All i know is that MySpace has become the newest teen bootycall, thats like...WOAH!