Do you have a will?

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    Jan 13, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    How many of you have a will? If not, it is a good idea to have one. Don't leave it up to the courts to decide what happens to your estate. Get a legal will so that your will is carried out after your death.

    Also, it is a good idea to have a living will. A living will usually provides specific directives about the course of treatment that is to be followed by health care providers and caregivers. In some cases a living will may forbid the use of various kinds of burdensome medical treatment. It may also be used to express wishes about the use or foregoing of food and water, if supplied via tubes or other medical devices. The living will is used only if the individual has become unable to give informed consent or refusal due to incapacity. A living will can be very specific or very general. An example of a statement sometimes found in a living will is: “If I suffer an incurable, irreversible illness, disease, or condition and my attending physician determines that my condition is terminal, I direct that life-sustaining measures that would serve only to prolong my dying be withheld or discontinued.”

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    Jan 13, 2010 11:11 PM GMT
    A will? No way!










    OMG GETIT>?!>!?!?!?!?!?!?

    ****Giggles nervously****
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 13, 2010 11:14 PM GMT
    This topic has been discussed several times. Very prudent to have some
    means for conveying your assets to those you love.... otherwise, to die
    intestate means the state makes the decisions.

    For those who want to avoid probate and avoid any chance family members will be served and object... a trust can help. My suggestion is to
    talk to an attorney in your state and do something. Don't leave your partner out in the cold!!!
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    I have one all my belongings goto my father then my mother should something happen and so on, and I need to update the living will to cancel life support if there is no chance what so ever I will wake up.

    Originally I wanted my family to make this decision but after a few years I realize that it's too heavy of a burden to leave on your parents..
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:45 AM GMT
    My partner & I each have wills that leave everything to the other. We also have living wills, and matching powers of attorney and health care surrogate provisions. These are filed with all our health care providers, and they became essential during his medical emergency in late October of 2009, at which time I was regarded as "family" by his doctors & hospital.

    He & I had previous unhappy experiences with our late partners, when these arrangements hadn't been made beforehand, and medical emergencies developed. That's why we were quick to have the legal documents drawn this time around, within 2 weeks of our moving in together.

    That decision definitely paid off when he got seriously ill unexpectedly. This is a MUST for any 2 men living together. Consider what you would do, and where you would be, if RIGHT NOW your partner or BF had a serious illness or injury that left him incapacitated. Would you have any say in his care? Would you even be allowed into his hospital room? Would you be permitted to bury him?

    It happened to me with my late partner, and you don't ever want to experience what I went through. Do the responsible thing, and see an attorney together without delay.
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    Jan 14, 2010 4:23 AM GMT
    i've got a living will
    and the other regular will thing
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    Jan 14, 2010 7:56 AM GMT
    I don't have any wills. Honestly, I have nobody to leave my assets to. Let the government sort it out with all my donated tax dollars.

    Although, I was harshly scolded a couple days ago by friends for not having a living will. I should get one since I would rather be terminated than be an invalid. My fantastic organs are useless for donation since our province does not accept gay organs.

    I remember that poor woman a few years ago...Terri Schiavo?
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    Jan 14, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    I have a will, but not a living will. I should actually get my will updated, since I have a new nephew. My assets will go to my two nephews and any other nephews or nieces who come along.
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    Jan 14, 2010 8:25 AM GMT
    My Guitars go to the needy guitar players
    My Bass to the neediest bass player
    My Drums to my Lil Bro
    and My Laptop to my mother....
    and my drawings to... hmm, put em like in a garage sale....

    That pretty much covers everything. Hahah

    Nah, its amazing how many people get when it comes to Wills. Sometimes some people value more the material things in life than the respect for the memory of the loved one that has passed away.
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    Jan 14, 2010 8:28 AM GMT
    KDL15 said

    Nah, its amazing how many people get when it comes to Wills. Sometimes some people value more the material things in life than the respect for the memory of the loved one that has passed away.


    Agree 100% That's why I'm not bothering with material possession in my life. Something I love and cherish may not be what whoever inherits my stuff will love and cherish. Since I don't plan on having kids, what's the point?
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    Jan 14, 2010 8:39 AM GMT
    syd_hockey_79 said
    KDL15 said

    Nah, its amazing how many people get when it comes to Wills. Sometimes some people value more the material things in life than the respect for the memory of the loved one that has passed away.


    Agree 100% That's why I'm not bothering with material possession in my life. Something I love and cherish may not be what whoever inherits my stuff will love and cherish. Since I don't plan on having kids, what's the point?


    Yeah, in many cases wills are for parents that have children and stuff. In my case I consider my little brother my kid (He's 10) ... so Id just give everything to him.

    Also, everything I make in money I would rather spend wisely than save save save. You never know what could happen the next day. One day youre here the next youre gone and all that stuff you saved, your partner will enjoy it with someone else. Not fair.
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    Jan 14, 2010 9:49 AM GMT
    If my companion and I went at the same time, the dogs get everything, and some-one to move into the house to care for them; with condisions, as it's the dogs home and assets.
  • GQjock

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    Jan 14, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
    No I left it for my loved ones to do after I die
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:11 PM GMT
    no, I don't own much of value anyway. I'm sure my brothers will split it without much fuss.
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:40 PM GMT
    Absolutely - they are easy to craft and will not only insure your family/partner is relieved of a burdensome probate process. For those in same sex partnerships you're Will protects your directives keeping the other greedy little fingers out of the till. And finally to avoid having your assets going to the state. I don't have much but if I were to die today they are in-place. The process is so simple why not have one. It's a personal choice.

    The living will and medical directives are another matter. This protects you.

    The living will protects you from being put on life support as a vegetable. Of course if you always dreamed of being a vegetable then go for it (better hope you have someone to wipe your ass). The medical directive will provide instructions on who caregivers take direction from if you were to become incapacitated and unable to speak for yourself (ie. domestic partner, family member).
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    Jan 14, 2010 12:43 PM GMT
    I've had a will for decades. I got a living will after the Terri Schiavo mess.
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    Jan 14, 2010 1:05 PM GMT
    judoguy saidno, I don't own much of value anyway. I'm sure my brothers will split it without much fuss.

    Maybe so but what about the ever-looming threat of being preserved as a vegetable? Better get a living will and directive to physicians.
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    Jan 14, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    No, but I don't really have any assets beyond my retirement and my IRA. Those are set up with beneficiaries. My stuff itself is not that important.
  • DuggerPDX

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    Jan 14, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    Wills, Advanced Directives, and Durable Power of Attorney for each of us.