Dating and HOW it works!!!

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    May 14, 2007 10:50 PM GMT
    Hey guys.....I need some advice. I am just knew on the dating scene. I have no clue on how it works. I know what i would like to find in a guy. I was in a 8 yr relationship from the age of 20 to 28, and have been single for 3.5 years. I am looking to try to date again. Any advice...I am not much on the bar scene btw. Thanks for any advice.

    Chaz
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    May 15, 2007 12:15 AM GMT
    Well Austin is a great town to date in...and its sunny outside...so meet for dates in cafes....
    You have been in a relationship, so you will know from experience the kind of men you might be compatiable with...goodluck
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    May 17, 2007 3:01 AM GMT
    I am coming off a 16 year relationship, and dating now in 2007 is radically different than when I was in my mid-20's in the late 80's.

    Anyone have particular experience with dating again after a long term relationship and battle stories/suggestions to share?

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    May 17, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    I like to hear it has been over 3 years. That means you are over it. Do not I repeat do not try and compare anybody you go out with now to what you used to have. It will only end in heart ache. You have to be in the mind set that you are starting over with no notions of what should or should not happen at given times thru out.
    Going out is not a easy thing to do, because like you I do not do the bar thing. So I work out and wonder who is and is not. It seem almost impossable that any man will approach you out side a gay bar and hit on you. For the fear of being killed. So how do you do it. Well the internet is a great place to start. But I will warn you, most guys on these sites use photo's of other people and when you meet it is not what you got on line. But that is the whole thing. If you truely like someone and they are worth meeting in person why should it matter what they look like.
    Another way is the gym, It is gay church, also good for a hook up or two. But if you are looking for something more. That is hard to find now a days it seems. Most guys just want to know how big where can you meet and are you a top or bottom. That can be a real drag if you are looking for something more. Best bet you have friends and they all have friends. Blind dates are sometimes the best way to meet new gay friends that have other gay friends that one of them might be your MR Right.
    I want to wish you luck and know there are a lot of us in your boat...13 years been single for 4 and just started looking again...Yes I have talked to a few that sound like they might be worth the time...
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    May 17, 2007 3:35 AM GMT
    get out there and do activities that interest you. for example join a soccer club/team that plays a couple days a week. you might not meet anybody to date but you'll make friends and they might know someone. the point is get out there. i met my current boyfriend doing something i love(surfing). the point is get out there so you meet people, gay or not.
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 17, 2007 3:07 PM GMT
    Johnnyk said it best- worked for me!!
  • RJRH

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    May 18, 2007 5:35 AM GMT
    Check out Austin's LGBT Sports groups.
    This web link may work
    http://www.softballaustin.org/links.php

    Or if you wanna try something completely different, The Austin MCC has a great young adult group called FUEL.