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    May 14, 2007 11:14 PM GMT
    i am a student at florida state university. In one of my classes there is this really hot guy. Is there a good way to tell whether someone is gay or not? He looks kinda gay but I don't want to make a move and find out he's straight. Are there any easy signs?

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    May 15, 2007 12:32 AM GMT
    Ask him what clubs/bars he goes to (assuming he drinks and or goes out). If they're gay nights/clubs/bars you have yr answer!
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    May 15, 2007 2:21 AM GMT
    what who he checks out coming and going from class. See if he looks up when a guy walks by and checks out his butt. See if he turns red when caught looking. See if he will make eye contact and keep it or smile at you.
    There are ways to tell if you don't know the name of any gay bars. My self I have never been in a gay bar nor do I plan to. That is not my scene.
    But watching what other guys looks at tells you alot about if they are gay.
    P.s if he looks a woman then checks out her shoes. It is a sign he is just checking out her style. Most str8 men check out two things ass and tits...Nothing else..Most of the time if face to face they will tend to look at the tits more than looking the girl in the eye..
    Also if you see he playing with his belt or belt loops on his jeans, he is thinking about sex, because of someone that he is looking at or day dreaming about...

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    May 15, 2007 4:19 AM GMT
    Asking about gay bars might not work, nor his behavior if he is discrete about his sexuality.

    I had a similar situation, I had a crush at my colleague at work and wasnt sure of his sexuality.

    My innate sense [gaydar] told me he was gay. I discretely asked him out. He was gay although he wasnt single. We are good friends now!
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    May 15, 2007 9:12 PM GMT
    I'd recommend talking to him. I wouldn't ask him if he is gay, but strike up a conversation and find out more about him.

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    May 18, 2007 12:27 AM GMT
    Yup...
    the bar things always worked for me
    if he's gay he'll know what you're talking about
    ...if he's str8 He'll say, "Where?"
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    May 18, 2007 12:31 AM GMT
    Shit....every guy is at least bi. All ya' need is a dirt road and a 6 pack. Lotta' times you don't even need the 6 pack.
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    May 18, 2007 12:32 AM GMT
    I mean the dirt road. The 6 pack is what I call liquid courage.

    What guy doesn't like his dick messed with?
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    May 21, 2007 3:52 AM GMT
    Football_Lover, I followed everything you said... until the belt/loops. Playing with your belt means you're thinking about sex?!

    Maybe it means he ate too much for lunch. Or that he's lost weight and can't tighten his belt enough?


    I remember having a crush on a guy who was (thankfully) in a couple classes with me. In fact, he only lived a couple blocks away. I'd time things just right so I'd walk to our first class together and sit where I can get a good view of him.

    However, it was a good frew years before I came out, so it's not like I was going to approach him.

    About 7 years later I ran into him in Saugatuck (he was hitting on a friend). He wasn't out in our undergrad days and of course had no idea I existed (maybe a better strategy is to sit where he can see you). I didn't feel too bad about it, especially given that he'd chunked up quite a bit.


    There's nothing like a finely tuned gaydar, but GSP can go along way, too. (:
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    May 22, 2007 9:54 PM GMT
    have you ever met someone knew that you knew nothing about in less than few days had already completely summed them up with out proof or evidence?

    We consider these things to be nothing more than speculation, because we rarely go out and act on those ideas, or at least I rarely do.

    But when people open up to me I end up finding out that a lot of it was right.

    I've met people and felt that they were sick or had diseases and they did.

    Met people and felt that they had extreme issues with their child hood and they did.

    Met guys and felt myself oddly drawn to them for some reason and found out that they were bi or something.

    Its probably not so much Gaydar as it is being in tuned to other people. But I'm a firm believer that sometimes there are things that you just know without reason.
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    May 22, 2007 10:44 PM GMT
    You go straight up to him and say,

    "Hey, my friend Sara said she heard you were gay, but she doesn't believe that.

    Another friend on mine thinks you're gay and wants to meet you.

    So do you wanna meet my friend Sara or are you gay?"

    If he says, "Sure I would love to meet Sara"
    (he's straight)

    If he says, "Who's your gay friend?"
    (he's gay)

    But if he punches you in the face and says anything at all, he's a homophobe and your gaydar needs adjustment!
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    May 27, 2007 10:25 PM GMT
    In my book, there's a difference between Gaydar and GSP.

    GSP is more like ESP, the immediate feeling you get about someone.

    Gaydar is more "scientific", based on observation. A cute guy/girl just walked by, did he turn his head? Does he spend time taking care of his appearance? Do his shoes match his backpack? Does he watch the right shows and listen to the right music?

    I have to rely more on my GSP than Gaydar because I'm never sure about the shoes/backpack and shows/music thing. (: