Rude roommate

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    May 15, 2007 12:00 AM GMT
    Hey. This has nothing to do with fitness I was just wondering if anyone has had this problem. I have roommate that will walk into my room without knoking or anything just walks in. Does anyone know anyway to get him to stop. I has tryed explaining it to him. Failed. Yelled at him. Failed. He just keeps walking in does anyone know anyway of stoping him, that does not severely hurt him.
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    May 15, 2007 12:27 AM GMT
    Lock the door.

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    May 15, 2007 12:51 AM GMT
    does your roomie have that big black oval over his face, too?

    if so, maybe he can't tell which room he's walking into. :)
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    May 15, 2007 2:29 AM GMT
    Two things.
    1. He is in your room while you are gone.
    2. He is in your room while you are gone.

    Anyone that just walks in and acts like they own the place do it when you are there are not.

    If you want to keep him out. Get a lock or get a new room mate that will respect your space.
    Till you tell him what your two choices are, nothing you have will be private...
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    May 15, 2007 2:30 AM GMT
    The black spot over your face is fine.
    It not like you want anyone who can get online to see your face and know you are gay. Don't let haters get to you..
  • SkyMiles

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    May 15, 2007 2:35 AM GMT
    Get a rottweiler! ^^,
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    May 15, 2007 2:50 AM GMT
    Etiquette calls for you to explain your feelings to him as many times as necessary so that eventually, he will comprehend. Tell him everytime that you don't appreciate it. Every time.

    Something in your communication style isn't convincing enough. Try speaking to him in a manly tone of voice and don't be wimpy.

    It is up to you to find a way to help him understand, and the potential for your personal growth, so don't piss it away with a bad attitude.
  • SkyMiles

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    May 15, 2007 2:58 AM GMT
    Oh, yeah, Football Lover is right. He's in your room when you not around.
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    May 15, 2007 3:16 AM GMT
    When he walks in your room. Tell him to get out....shut the door and knock. If he doesnt listen push his ass out. Its called respect. He is clearly not respecting you. You have to earn it. Im not saying use violence. But you do need to receive it.
  • TonyD

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    May 15, 2007 6:21 AM GMT
    yeah, put a lock on your door...and walk in on him at the least appropriate time.
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    May 15, 2007 7:48 AM GMT
    MOVE OUT
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    May 15, 2007 1:57 PM GMT
    First I'd ask why you care if he is in your room. If it's because he doesn't know things about you, like that you are gay, that's probably causing you to be a bit more upset than you might otherwise be, and I'd ask myself if it was worth it to tell him.

    Second, it might be because you don't trust him-- maybe you are afraid he's taking your stuff, spying on you, etc. If that's the case, then you might want to move.

    Or hopefully it's just that he has bad manners. It might help if you explain to him why it bothers you-- such as "look, I don't want you to see me jerking off, so stay out of my room and learn to knock." Or "it startles me when you walk into my room unannounced." Then add some consequences "if you don't stop, I am moving out." If he agrees to try to stop, then I'd try it a while. If he doesn't agree that there is anything wrong with it, then you should probably move, or if you can't, get a lock.

    I had a roommate once who would walk into my room at night and get in bed with me. It wouldn't have been a problem if he had wanted to sleep in the bed when I went to sleep, but it startled me when he did it in the middle of the night, and it also bothered me because it was a sign that he had some deeper issues that I couldn't deal with. He did a lot of stuff like that, and we both quickly realized we were incompatible and moved away. Hope you have better luck.
  • MikemikeMike

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    May 15, 2007 2:42 PM GMT
    PHL said it best!
  • trebor965

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    May 15, 2007 4:59 PM GMT
    1. lock the door

    2. look into pavlovian training techniques.

    3. pray your black dot doesn't spread. i had it once and it took years to heal.
  • wc2boy

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    May 15, 2007 8:15 PM GMT
    This problem will resolve itself - sooner or later he will walk in on you doing something he'd rather not have seen and that image will haunt him for a long long time.
  • millionbucks

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    May 15, 2007 8:23 PM GMT
    hey man .theres one Simple solution ....you just do exaclty like what he does ....that is, u go in his room without knocking, and should do it several times in a day:)...and when he confronts you, there u go, tell him thats what bothering you as well.....games over!!!!
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    May 15, 2007 10:49 PM GMT
    I have ass-hole roomates. Coming from someone with experience in this, let me tell you, that you have to be a rigid asshole back to play this game. I was once arrested with my roommate and threatened to send a copy of the newspaper that had our names in it to his mother if he didn't stop throwing loud-ass parties during the week when I had to get up and go to work. Normally, I would never ever do something like that but sometimes you have to fight fire with fire.
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    May 16, 2007 1:20 AM GMT
    Hey thought i would clear up some things. 1) no pets 2) i do lock the door when i leave or going to sleep it is the time in-between.

    Also i hide my face becouse i learned to never show my face or tell mayor info on the net
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    May 16, 2007 3:31 AM GMT
    When he next comes into your room, ask him if he's wanting to catch you jerking off. If he says yes, give him him a show. If he says no, then tell him to fuck off.
  • GQjock

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    May 18, 2007 12:25 AM GMT
    Lock the door...

    and put a sign on it when you're in the house
    ... "All rude SOB's please knock before you barge in"
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    May 18, 2007 12:40 AM GMT
    just put on some loud lesbian porn and see if he goes away.
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    May 21, 2007 10:11 PM GMT
    What is your EXACT living arrangement...?

    Is this a school dorm?

    IF not, is this your lease or his?

    If it is school dorm, you can complain this to the school administrations and request a new roommate or a new room.

    If this is your lease, get rid of him NOW. If you have to go through the trouble of telling him repeatedly not to do this, and even resorting to getting a lock, TRUST ME, more and more problems will arise! You do NOT want to live with someone like that. You do not have to be best buddies with a roommate, but you DO NOT want to feel uncomfortable living with someone who feels like an enemy...

    If it is his lease, move out ASAP.

    This is like a bad marraige, it will not get better, trust me...