Is your boyfriend marriage material?

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    Jan 15, 2010 12:42 PM GMT
    A few nights ago me and an older friend were having a conversation about gay marriage. He told me if marriage were legal in our state, he would marry his boyfriend in a heartbeat. For those in monogamous relationships, would you marry your boyfriend if it were legal? How important is marriage anyway?
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    Jan 15, 2010 12:51 PM GMT
    When the right guy comes along, yup

    I want his last name too icon_redface.gif
  • drypin

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    Jan 15, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    I hope so... 'cause we did it back in 2001. I didn't take his name, though. Not sure who had THAT brilliant idea.
  • Melos

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    Jan 15, 2010 2:40 PM GMT
    Yup, can't imagine myself with anyone else.
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    Jan 15, 2010 2:49 PM GMT
    I live in Mass. so marriage is an option. But, even though I wouldn't rule it out forever, it's not something I plan on doing.

  • rnch

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    Jan 15, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    we'd scratch each other's eyes out within a month's time...or even less.

    neither one of us wants 24/7 with ANYONE.

    we both respect the other's need for privacy and take no offense at the other's desire for solitude.

    although i can honestly say i DO love this guy; after a weekend being together 24/7 i'm more than ready for him to get the heck outta dodge!

    having said this; the current bf is as close as i could ever get to marriage.
  • imperator

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    Jan 15, 2010 3:59 PM GMT
    My bf is marriage material... I just wouldn't say he's marriage material for me. I'm way more independent than he is, and our fundamental world-views aren't really compatible for living out the rest of our lives together; like if we were raising children together, I wouldn't want him trying to fill my kids' minds full of absurd religious superstition. And I don't know that I'd trust him to preside over my funeral someday without imposing a bunch of theistic crap that I don't believe in. I mean, I love the guy but we are a bad fit, there's no point denying it; we stay together in defiance of common sense, but I wouldn't consent to legally bind myself to him permanently.
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    Jan 15, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    imperator saidMy bf is marriage material... I just wouldn't say he's marriage material for me. I'm way more independent than he is, and our fundamental world-views aren't really compatible for living out the rest of our lives together; like if we were raising children together, I wouldn't want him trying to fill my kids' minds full of absurd religious superstition. And I don't know that I'd trust him to preside over my funeral someday without imposing a bunch of theistic crap that I don't believe in. I mean, I love the guy but we are a bad fit, there's no point denying it; we stay together in defiance of common sense, but I wouldn't consent to legally bind myself to him permanently.


    Good god, man... how do you make this relationship work, marriage or no marriage?

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    Jan 15, 2010 4:55 PM GMT
    I married mine in Canada.
  • stevendust

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    Jan 17, 2010 7:28 AM GMT
    Zachdust is so amazing it makes me wish there were a step above marriage. Alas, I'll have to settle with the current step we're fighting for before I start asking for more more more.
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    Jan 17, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    I sympathize with the religion point, and can say that from my perspective allowing children a choice, and continuing to explain those choices, is the healthiest way to deal with that issue. I have reconciled myself to the fact that I won't stop loving someone I care about just because I disagree on matters of abstract ideology. If he's sweet, smart, funny, kind, and rockin' hot I don't care what his religion is. The caveat of course is that bemoaning my hell-boundness, etc. of course disqualifies him from being sweet or kind.

    As for a funeral, I don't care if my husband implores Yahweh or Allah or the Flying Spaghetti Monster at my funeral. I just hope whatever it is gives him some sort of comfort; what do I care, I'm dead? Funerals are for the living.

    imperator saidMy bf is marriage material... I just wouldn't say he's marriage material for me. I'm way more independent than he is, and our fundamental world-views aren't really compatible for living out the rest of our lives together; like if we were raising children together, I wouldn't want him trying to fill my kids' minds full of absurd religious superstition. And I don't know that I'd trust him to preside over my funeral someday without imposing a bunch of theistic crap that I don't believe in. I mean, I love the guy but we are a bad fit, there's no point denying it; we stay together in defiance of common sense, but I wouldn't consent to legally bind myself to him permanently.