I sympathize with the religion point, and can say that from my perspective allowing children a choice, and continuing to explain those choices, is the healthiest way to deal with that issue. I have reconciled myself to the fact that I won't stop loving someone I care about just because I disagree on matters of abstract ideology. If he's sweet, smart, funny, kind, and rockin' hot I don't care what his religion is. The caveat of course is that bemoaning my hell-boundness, etc. of course disqualifies him from being sweet or kind.
As for a funeral, I don't care if my husband implores Yahweh or Allah or the Flying Spaghetti Monster at my funeral. I just hope whatever it is gives him some sort of comfort; what do I care, I'm dead? Funerals are for the living.
imperator saidMy bf is marriage material... I just wouldn't say he's marriage material for me. I'm way more independent than he is, and our fundamental world-views aren't really compatible for living out the rest of our lives together; like if we were raising children together, I wouldn't want him trying to fill my kids' minds full of absurd religious superstition. And I don't know that I'd trust him to preside over my funeral someday without imposing a bunch of theistic crap that I don't believe in. I mean, I love the guy but we are a bad fit, there's no point denying it; we stay together in defiance of common sense, but I wouldn't consent to legally bind myself to him permanently.